Brehettes, what the hell is wrong with some of y’all? :dahell:

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But a pet is helpless and basically a perpetual infant. Of course I’m going to be more gentle with the dog than her. :dahell:

You are a rapist, attempting to lecture me about emotional intelligence :dead:


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OP, if you start talking affectionately to her, she’ll start taking that as a weakness after a while. She wants to change you.

Stand your ground bruh. Don’t switch it up.

However, it doesn’t hurt to give her some scooby snacks once in while by taking her out on a nice date and throw in some ‘baby I know work been stressing you’ type of shyt.

Should keep in a leash for a bit
 

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I don’t have an issue speaking to her, or anyone really, with kindness.

The “actual bytch” comment wasn’t me calling her a bytch, it was the opposite.

My point was and still is, I treat my dog a certain way because while I care about my pet, I still view my her as beneath me.

So the dynamic between my dog and my partner will obviously be different.


Yes she caters to me and no it doesn’t come at a price other than my personal time and attention.

My mother isn’t judgmental but she can be overbearing. She is the youngest of 10 siblings and only two of her siblings still keep in contact with her.

Part of the reason why is because she’s the most successful out of all 10, but another part of it is because she is bipolar and that is tiring to deal with after awhile.

My dad and my older sister are the only ones who know how to deal with that.

What do you mean by the bolded?


I didn’t mean to, but I’m going to meet with her tomorrow after work to talk about it. I was off today but she wasn’t.
As soon as that bytch word flew out your mouth in her direction would have been the end for me. You trying to explain it away is unacceptable. Hopefully she will get the picture soon and move on. The disrespect and disregard you have for her will only get worse.
 

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@The Burger King I will agree with one thing. Sounds like you need to call a day on the relationship or give her the emotional support she needs.

If the latter isn't you though, not worth trying to do it, it will only make you resentful.

A lot of women go into situations expecting to change men and then act surprised when they don't. If she is in a place where she is emotionally vulnerable, best believe she will be cheating when another man satisfies that need.
 

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Anyone trying to justify this foolishness probably owns a cat and therefore should not be taken seriously. Catset in here trying to normalize gaslighting and emotional bullying. I see y'all and you know I see y'all. Don't quote me either because it'll just get you cussed smooth out.
 

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Imma ask some pointed questions.

Why is being affectionate towards your partner associated with children or lesser beings?

Inadvertently, you are actually telling us a lot about yourself. Stoicism is cool and all, but if your partner is so starved for affection that she is resentful of your dog…there is a an issue there. Tbh this isn’t a gender thing. There are men who get jealous of children when they are born because of the attention their wives give to their children.
People will say, “get over it” or question “why u need that level of affection or attention anyway”?

But we need to be careful about demonizing people for their needs. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more affection from your partner. That’s a need she has. Just like I’m sure there are needs you have too.

Either she will accept that she can’t get that need met with you and look elsewhere or you can decide to show that to her.

Or it could feel unnatural to you and it may show a major area of incompatibility. Personally, I think this is workable but only if you want to.

People take a lot of energy to deal with in relationships, and hey don’t even have to be doing anything wrong. They can be draining sometimes. :yeshrug:But they are worth it methinks.
 

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She could be upset because she’s been having issues at her job and she feels like I’m not listening to her complaints about said job.

We had a discussion about it, she mentioned the issues at her job and I told her she should quit.

I even offered to give her a job until she can find something better. Her father did too (they’re Igbo and run a bunch of African food marts here in DFW).

But at the same time, I don’t know what she expects me to say when she keeps complaining about the same shyt over and over again and I’ve already offered her a solution.
The rape guy is lowkey right, just an emotional intelligence thing. Women love to vent and complain. You (like me) are probably the logical type who seeks to fix problems that are brought to you so this type of behavior from women becomes mind numbing. She bytches about the same thing daily yet does nothing about it. Thats women

For a logical guy it's tough but try to participate in the conversation without offering solutions just support. "Oh wow the new regional manager is such a dikk blah blah blah." It feels awkward and fukking stupid to me too but this is what they want
 
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