Brehettes: You're responsible for your own orgasm.

[humminbird]

between the clitoris thread and this I'm starting to get worried about some posters here
talk to a woman that's not your mom please

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

I'll try to keep it short, but it probably won't be.


Lately, I've been seeing chicks online throw out a bunch of numbers about how little they come with male sex partners.
Then after that, there's the obligatory finger wagging and scolding of men for "being selfish", etc.
Let's go ahead and nip this shyt in the bud.
.

i actually read all that...

as i've gotten older i actually sit down and talk with women about sex...and what they like and what works....like you said ALL WOMEN are different....
and i can tell from the responses that this doesnt happen often....most cats dont care

my last ex...she was in her 40s and had never had an orgasm with a man before until me ....only through masturbation....in her 40s....shyt is crazy

she had all kinds of hang-ups though....grew up with her grandmother ...had her all messed up

chick had never seen her damn clit before....and refused to look at it at all even with me....

we were together for 5 years

 

[Yehuda]

 

[Taadow]

Broham I won’t even lie, I didn’t read all of that.


But I skimmed it - and you was keepin’ it real.

I’ll submit this in conjunction:
the difference between the sexes is,
(as OP did) Men have a general interest in this type of thing and will even
research how to be better...Women will just lay there for years not bussin’
and will just make peace with it instead of trying to learn about their own bodies.

It don’t make sense to me but word to LSG it’s they body...

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

You and OP really thought...

 

[FeverPitch2]

Women will just lay there for years not bussin’
and will just make peace with it instead of trying to learn about their own bodies.

It don’t make sense to me but word to LSG it’s they body...

Exactly.

 

[FeverPitch2]

OP makes some good points…and LMAO for ya’ll doing him the way ya’ll be doing me for long posts.

Reading is fundamental!

Spoiler: shyt that’s gonna make some angry…

But the problem is OP mentioned all of that without talking about how men literally created a world that fukked women up in the head and actively continue to contribute to that culture with slut shaming, Virgin/whore complexes, dangling commitment as a prize for being minimally sexual and then still magically wanting pornstars in relationships. All kinds of inconsistent shyt.
Until dudes get together and say “Ya’ll know what…we really fukked up” and then actively make a culture that supports female sexuality instead of doing weird shyt like getting mad that women make money on OnlyFans while beating their dikks, or talking out of one side of their necks about conservative values, while beating their meat to the same chicks they claim to hate or escalating to sex immediately then some women will continue respond to these mixed messages in fukked up ways because male society tells them one thing, while wanting to fukk another.

And we won’t even mention the whole sexual predators preying on young girls and grown ass men blaming them for it and how that fukks up entire generations, while we keep having to “stay on code” about the Robert Kelly’s doing damage.

But beyond that reality, for women to become what OP desires, they have to stop giving a damn about shame, and live for themselves. But when that happens, OP is still gonna have some issues b/c when women understand they can cum without you…sometimes better than when you aren’t around, AND they dealing with an attitude like the OPs, what do they need you for? Men wanna overestimate their dikk’s ability which is why some resentfully ignore the clit. They also want to ignore the mental and the emotional and focus solely on the technical but get mad when women aint getting wet…even tho they haven’t done anything to cultivate a sensual environment.

Some also only have porn as their primary sexual education so they don’t know what the hell they doing either and then women should just get randomly wet and ready for any old Joe Blow that comes through.

But OP I want you to seriously think about that. We want to experience a partner’s touch taking us over that edge. That’s the whole point of intimacy. An exchange of energy.

If you can’t or even worse don’t want to, why the fukk are we fukking?

Respectfully.

Some dudes be literally shooting themselves in the foot before they even start the race with this attitude.

I don’t get this. #vinegarcourtship is so lame and illogical.

“Yeah bytch. I ain’t gon take you on no date. Fukk romance. Or stability. Or any incentive to deal with me. You just gon get this wack ass dikk and b.c I don’t even like you that much, I don’t even care if you cum. Fukk intimacy or your clit or anything that might give you satisfaction or a reason to even be here. That’s on you. Chicken wings and fries! And if you say something about it, Imma whine about bytches and feminists.

But nah, frfr why wouldn’t you wanna submit to that. Lemme talk to you boo.”

If you don’t get how this attitude is problematic, you probably won’t understand why a lotta women don’t wanna even deal with a lotta dudes these days.

I guess there’ll just be more pet babies and chicks marrying their clitmaster3000s.

Cliffs: Stop fukkin up the world with hypocritical slut shaming takes on female sexuality then being surprised when they are mentally fukked when it comes to their sexuality. Also stop being selfish in a team sport and expecting women to still wanna fukk with you when they can cum by themselves.

For a minute, I thought you read my long ass post.
Reading your response, I'm not sure you did.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

nikka typed war & peace

 

[FeverPitch2]

The very first thing I told you muthafukkas is that the shyt was long.
Pause.

 

[FeverPitch2]

I got this killa up inside of me
Can't talk to my mama, so I talk to my diary

 

[FeverPitch2]

nikka typed war & peace

Well, at least you know I write classics.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

I swear if someone quotes that whole op

also psa. Stop fukking quoting whole long ass ops

 

[FeverPitch2]

I knew i was in for some bs when bro complained about broads saying clit/click instead of "clitoris" who the hell says "clitoris" when they trying to be sexy?

But i read a lil further...

Bro..when women say "what are you doing to me" they aren't legitimately asking whats happening to their bodies scientifically. Its a compliment if anything. And your saying its your que to stop? Huh?

Thats when I scrolled down and saw you wrote moby dikk and tapped out.

Fill out the comment card and drop it in the box on your way out.

 

[Westbama Heartthrob]

I'll try to keep it short, but it probably won't be.


Lately, I've been seeing chicks online throw out a bunch of numbers about how little they come with male sex partners.
Then after that, there's the obligatory finger wagging and scolding of men for "being selfish", etc.
Let's go ahead and nip this shyt in the bud.

From my extensive experience in the field, I can tell you one thing for certain.
Most women don't know how their own bodies functions sexually.
I'm talking about grown women in their mid-20's and beyond. Way beyond.
Too many of my sessions have turned into an adult Sesame Street episode.
"This is your G-Spot."
"It's 'clitoris' not 'click' and it's here."
"You didn't pee on yourself."
"Make an appt with your gynecologist ASAP."

We're not even going to get into performance or technique.
Women love to front like they're super educated and informed about sex and sexuality.
Some are. Most ain't.
Then, there's the issue of most women thinking that the p*ssy is magic and does all the work.
The best thing that could happen to any young person is that they come across a knowledgeable and patient partner early on that will help them navigate the vast terrain of sexuality.
Otherwise, it's up to you to find out what you're into sexually.
I find that some grown women revert to this childish place mentally when sex comes up.
There's no reason a woman in her 30's should be asking repeatedly "what are we doooing?" or "what's happeniiiing?" during a make out session.
For me, that's a cue to stop.

It's true that men are far less cerebral when it comes to sex and making us nut is fairly easily.
Rub our dikk the right way and enough and we gonna bust.
With women, their primary sex organ is their mind.
Any physical sexual function a woman's body performs is set up in their mind first.
The exception is vaginal lubrication, the body handles that involuntarily and too many of us mistake her being wet as consent.
Don't end up in the bing over that mistake, breh.

Unfortunately, society puts out a ton of mixed messages to girls and young women about sex.
Childhood sexual abuse, which is rampant, or witnessing domestic violence throws things even further out of whack.
Some young women are so conflicted about sex that they initiate it and then freak out with fear when it's about to happen.

The last stats I read were that women nut 93% of the time when they masturbate.
They come 64% of the time with other women and only 7% with men.
After college, I worked with young adults and a few teenagers. I used to tell some of the younger homies not to give themselves complexes about making a woman cum because if she doesn't, and you're trying, it might not be your fault.
Some of em (fukk it, it was the Asian kid) thought they might not have enough meat.
I stopped em right there because
But I told them to think about it. Some women can get off sitting on a washing machine or with their fingers.
You have more than enough tools at your disposal to make something happen.

Let's cut the shyt.
Penetration low-key scares a lot of women.
Not only that, a lot of women are low key scared of men in general.
Taking a dikk in one of your orifices is a commitment and once it's done, it's done.
As they say, "you can't unsuck a dikk".
Not to mention, penetration definitely has consequences.

Those numbers, if accurate, just backs up what I already know.
When women masturbate, there's nothing for them to worry about.
They can fantasize about whatever they want. Don't matter how mundane, deviant, or nonsensical it is.
They also don't have to worry about being judged about what turns them on.
It doesn't have to make sense to anybody but her.
It can be as random as a scent, to seeing a nikka lift something heavy, or getting caught fukking outdoors.
Some of the shyt she fantasizes about that makes her come can be things that she actually does not want to participate in herself.

The numbers drop drastically when another person enters the equation.
Lezbots were beating their chest about the 64% but ignoring the fact that's steep fukking drop-off from 93%.
With another woman, there's far less anxiety and a lot less fear.
It's going to be kissing and rubbing and licking mostly, so there's not the sense of commitment or crossing a line as there is with penetration.

Since we're being real, let's be real.
Slangin D properly is a skill.
Like I said, before most of us are on our own learning about sex.
Some ppl never learn or they half-ass learn.
A lotta nikkas live in jackrabbit mode.
Some got the weak stroke regardless of size
If you're doing the job properly, some women love to tell you the shortcomings of other dudes.
Or you'll hear it just talking to women in real life
But I digress, aside from doing your part to make her bust, there's a whole lot going on in her head.

Bottom line is this here.
A woman needs to take the time to learn herself and learn her body.
She needs to know what gets her off.
Then she needs to actually tell her guy these things.
Most women don't want to.
First, they feel like "you should know". Which is bullshyt. Every woman is different.
Second is fear. Again.
Fear of you judging her for what she likes or fear that you'll be insulted by her asking you to do something, as if what you were doing wasn't enough.
This shyt needs to be discussed beforehand unless it's a spontaneous session that neither expected.
There's therapy for things like that if communication beforehand isn't enough.

Lastly, there's that 7% that don't get off at all.

It's still on her to know herself and communicate.
If she continues to fukk nikkas that don't get her off, that's on her.
If she's super conflicted about sex, she needs to handle that before tryna be in the mix then being mad awkward during sex.

Me personally, I'm gonna give her 20-30 min to get it done.
After that, I'm going to get some juice or some water.

One time for the "hoe babble" and "who cares" attention seeking, dap fishing brehs.

TL:DR; Brehettes gotta know what gets themselves off and they need to seek partners to give them that experience. If they're too mixed up or scarred to do that, holla at the therapist before hollerin at a breh.

Quoted for emphasis

I'll try to keep it short, but it probably won't be.


Lately, I've been seeing chicks online throw out a bunch of numbers about how little they come with male sex partners.
Then after that, there's the obligatory finger wagging and scolding of men for "being selfish", etc.
Let's go ahead and nip this shyt in the bud.

From my extensive experience in the field, I can tell you one thing for certain.
Most women don't know how their own bodies functions sexually.
I'm talking about grown women in their mid-20's and beyond. Way beyond.
Too many of my sessions have turned into an adult Sesame Street episode.
"This is your G-Spot."
"It's 'clitoris' not 'click' and it's here."
"You didn't pee on yourself."
"Make an appt with your gynecologist ASAP."

We're not even going to get into performance or technique.
Women love to front like they're super educated and informed about sex and sexuality.
Some are. Most ain't.
Then, there's the issue of most women thinking that the p*ssy is magic and does all the work.
The best thing that could happen to any young person is that they come across a knowledgeable and patient partner early on that will help them navigate the vast terrain of sexuality.
Otherwise, it's up to you to find out what you're into sexually.
I find that some grown women revert to this childish place mentally when sex comes up.
There's no reason a woman in her 30's should be asking repeatedly "what are we doooing?" or "what's happeniiiing?" during a make out session.
For me, that's a cue to stop.

It's true that men are far less cerebral when it comes to sex and making us nut is fairly easily.
Rub our dikk the right way and enough and we gonna bust.
With women, their primary sex organ is their mind.
Any physical sexual function a woman's body performs is set up in their mind first.
The exception is vaginal lubrication, the body handles that involuntarily and too many of us mistake her being wet as consent.
Don't end up in the bing over that mistake, breh.

Unfortunately, society puts out a ton of mixed messages to girls and young women about sex.
Childhood sexual abuse, which is rampant, or witnessing domestic violence throws things even further out of whack.
Some young women are so conflicted about sex that they initiate it and then freak out with fear when it's about to happen.

The last stats I read were that women nut 93% of the time when they masturbate.
They come 64% of the time with other women and only 7% with men.
After college, I worked with young adults and a few teenagers. I used to tell some of the younger homies not to give themselves complexes about making a woman cum because if she doesn't, and you're trying, it might not be your fault.
Some of em (fukk it, it was the Asian kid) thought they might not have enough meat.
I stopped em right there because
But I told them to think about it. Some women can get off sitting on a washing machine or with their fingers.
You have more than enough tools at your disposal to make something happen.

Let's cut the shyt.
Penetration low-key scares a lot of women.
Not only that, a lot of women are low key scared of men in general.
Taking a dikk in one of your orifices is a commitment and once it's done, it's done.
As they say, "you can't unsuck a dikk".
Not to mention, penetration definitely has consequences.

Those numbers, if accurate, just backs up what I already know.
When women masturbate, there's nothing for them to worry about.
They can fantasize about whatever they want. Don't matter how mundane, deviant, or nonsensical it is.
They also don't have to worry about being judged about what turns them on.
It doesn't have to make sense to anybody but her.
It can be as random as a scent, to seeing a nikka lift something heavy, or getting caught fukking outdoors.
Some of the shyt she fantasizes about that makes her come can be things that she actually does not want to participate in herself.

The numbers drop drastically when another person enters the equation.
Lezbots were beating their chest about the 64% but ignoring the fact that's steep fukking drop-off from 93%.
With another woman, there's far less anxiety and a lot less fear.
It's going to be kissing and rubbing and licking mostly, so there's not the sense of commitment or crossing a line as there is with penetration.

Since we're being real, let's be real.
Slangin D properly is a skill.
Like I said, before most of us are on our own learning about sex.
Some ppl never learn or they half-ass learn.
A lotta nikkas live in jackrabbit mode.
Some got the weak stroke regardless of size
If you're doing the job properly, some women love to tell you the shortcomings of other dudes.
Or you'll hear it just talking to women in real life
But I digress, aside from doing your part to make her bust, there's a whole lot going on in her head.

Bottom line is this here.
A woman needs to take the time to learn herself and learn her body.
She needs to know what gets her off.
Then she needs to actually tell her guy these things.
Most women don't want to.
First, they feel like "you should know". Which is bullshyt. Every woman is different.
Second is fear. Again.
Fear of you judging her for what she likes or fear that you'll be insulted by her asking you to do something, as if what you were doing wasn't enough.
This shyt needs to be discussed beforehand unless it's a spontaneous session that neither expected.
There's therapy for things like that if communication beforehand isn't enough.

Lastly, there's that 7% that don't get off at all.

It's still on her to know herself and communicate.
If she continues to fukk nikkas that don't get her off, that's on her.
If she's super conflicted about sex, she needs to handle that before tryna be in the mix then being mad awkward during sex.

Me personally, I'm gonna give her 20-30 min to get it done.
After that, I'm going to get some juice or some water.

One time for the "hoe babble" and "who cares" attention seeking, dap fishing brehs.

TL:DR; Brehettes gotta know what gets themselves off and they need to seek partners to give them that experience. If they're too mixed up or scarred to do that, holla at the therapist before hollerin at a breh.

Did not read

 

[Thanos]

You gotta communicate with your partna how you want your shyt done. You can't go up some burger joint, not set iternary, and assume they gonna do your shyt medium rare.

But on the guys end, some of nikkas don't care about your partner, so the complaints are somewhat warranted.