Brehs with Young Daughters and Sisters

[number21]

But in your 20s everyone is broke and figuring it out unless you come from money and that's a rare exception. statistically most people don't make a comfortable income until their 30s.

You just answered your question, right there.

 

[Scaaar]

Might not be any consequences.

There's always an opportunity cost/consequences in everything we do in life. It might not always be positive it might not always be negative but something is always obtained.

 

[Houston911]

Of course not

Yuck

 

[Scaaar]

Exactly. How is it struggle when we’re all the same?

On one hand they say all women want are surrogate daddies to take care of them, then on the other hand actively encourage older men to seek out this same uneven dynamic where the men are only seen as ATMs. But any women that DO take the offer of an old man is a money hungry gold digger but any man that does is living the life. Yell GMB any chance they get but any woman that isn’t married by 27 is “leftover”.

It’s not adding up

And the same brehs yelling GMB are the same ones clowning Irv Gotti when he is a role model for the type of life the say they strive for. It definitely isn't adding up and they gotta pick a side. Being a contrarian just for the sake of it solves zero problems and only adds more discourse to the issues.

 

[Still Benefited]

If that is and I've given her the game then she's gotta accept what consequences come on that back end. I'm tired of hearing the victim stories when we've had yrs of the same thing happening and what the results are going to be. I already have it set that I can save my daughter from certain things only once after that, you gotta live with what you wanted to do. I stumbled and got the bumps and bruises in life so you don't have to. You gotta uphold the standards even if it's my own blood.

Make sure you give your sons and brothers the game too. 10 years after the fact,the woman will be on social media talking about you groomed her. And that "looking back,its sick that a man his age would even be interested in an 18 year old girl". With a picture of her and you,you looking smug like a big shot#WeCanAllBeCosby

 

[Stuntone]

The real problem with women looking for marriages in their 30s is, most men finally start making good money in their 30s and can finally get the cars and clothes they've always wanted. They finally can live the player lifestyle. Most men playa phase is in their 30s.

After a few years of being a player and nearing 40, mostly reasonable men start realizing the streets is wack and want a decent, easy to get a long with woman to settle down with and have a family. A woman in her mid/ late 20s is the sweet spot. Even dating women that are 32+ are approaching high-risk pregnancy age. So after a few years of dating, she's now 35.

Seems to be a lot of fear of 40+ men. Yes some will manipulate any women they can, but I think 40 yo well to do men are the most generous men in the game.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Preparing your womb,having kids,taking care of the home,teaching the kids our cirriculum and good character,chores,errands,reading,honing your sex skills,developing and knowing yourself. Unless of course you have something better to do



When your righteously attached,family is a corperation. Worry more about cooperation than a corporation, and we as a community will have more righteous unions. This goes for both men and women.

What about if your kid gets cancer and your family can’t afford health insurance? Husband dies in a car accident on the way home? at least your sex skills are honed? Or can you take all of what you said AND ensure that you’re able to fully care for your child in a world ruled by money? I went to college, I’m an FNP and make over 100k working 4 days a week from home so I cook for my family, teach my kids, spend most of my time with my kids and my family and if my children needed something money-wise I’m also able to provide that. I’m a complete parent on my own and so is my husband together we’re more than enough and our children will never be lacking in any needs they have.

No financial stress so I can be stress free parent to my kids and wife to my husband.

 

[Scaaar]

Make sure you give your sons and brothers the game too. 10 years after the fact,the woman will be on social media talking about you groomed her. And that "looking back,its sick that a man his age would even be interested in an 18 year old girl". With a picture of her and you,you looking smug like a big shot#WeCanAllBeCosby

I think you took what I said out of context. I'm not approving of my daughter dating an older breh at all. Especially if he's my age. I know what he wants up front. I'll tell her the exact same thing and to avoid it. But if she still chooses to go along with it after my counsel, she gotta eat whatever negative consequences that come on the back end. But I do talk to my younger brothers and cousins and try to coach them. They've fallen into the trap where they feel that all they have to do is make a lot of money and it will solve their problems when it comes to life and women. I want them to be more well rounded because there's so much more to life than what you produce. Your character and what type of man you are will stand the rest of time way longer than the dollars that you made.

 

[Stuntone]

I'm 42, my girl is 28. She's old fashion. Cook, clean, don't care to go out, doesnt believe in girl trips and Keke Palmer shyt. But we're both from the city. She was raised by her grandparents.

I think that's the best way for an older man to date younger. Older man can't be dating one of these modern party girls.

 

[Diondon]

Maybe if we were in Game of Thrones

 

[Gloxina]

I actually agree with this one.

The way income inequality and inflation is set up, I'd rather my niece find a stable partner than somebody who gives her tingles. Its not even about needing his money, it's the stability and leadership for me.

@Gloxina, the vast majority of bw don't have access to the bm we have access to. I personally think its unreasonable to expect them to find them in the wild. So, for a young woman who doesn't have access to that pool, expanding her acceptable age range will widen her available pool. As you said, it's a numbers game.

And I agree!


This was all based on the premise of a 53YO man like Irv desiring 23YO woman for whom $ wouldn’t be a factor. Like, it isn’t wrong to admit that young women aren’t trying to be with a man their father’s age.

But I will admit that my perspective is kind of skewed because of my environment, so, yea. There’s nothing wrong with opening the dating age range up a bit. But some of the brehs in here agree with me, at least to a certain extent. No one really looks at a 20yr in their family and tells her that a man old enough to be her dad is a prime choice. That’s all. I’m not saying we have to expect a man who is our exact age to ride in on his horse and give us a fairytale, but it’s ok to acknowledge that your 24yr old daughter could just as easily find a 30-34yr old who is on the right track in life and not have to be with a man who is 10yrs away from retirement

 

[Gloxina]

I'm 42, my girl is 28. She's old fashion. Cook, clean, don't care to go out, doesnt believe in girl trips and Keke Palmer shyt. But we're both from the city. She was raised by her grandparents.

I think that's the best way for an older man to date younger. Older man can't be dating one of these modern party girls.

That’s about my age gap and that’s cool! She’s grown and mature. Compare that to a 19YO one year outta HS with a 33YO. Ol boy would be running mental circles around the girl lol

 

[NO-BadAzz]

If a woman wants to be taken care of, more than likely she will have to marry an older man. Men in their 20s, (most) are not set up to take care of a woman. 50/50 is the standard or 60/40 in most cases.

Women don't want broke dudes, so what age range does a man make his most money? 20s, 30s, or 40s and so on??

Even Mary (young virgin) got with Joseph, he wasn't 22 or 19.

A father just has to really mold the daughter on what the results could be from dating an older man or younger man. Women hit their prime around 24-26, Men hit their prime around 45-55.

The creator set it up that way for a reason.

 

[Still Benefited]

She knows this but want to play that it's money and these women will end up homeless, so that's why they are staying in these fuk'd up ass relationships.

Who she think she's replying to, boo the fool Oh it's money that's keeping women in the relationship, get all the way out of here with that nonsense.

Like I said, mind is straight out of BET, la la land.

Grown ass adult women have jobs, these women take more vacations than most men with their girlfriends, these women pay for $100 dollar dinners, these women keep the weave and their nails and toes stay on point but you want me to believe that they can't get leave a man because they will end up homeless smh.

Stop living on TV

Exactly,plus shes also acknowledging it isnt about dreams and goals. But instead our women are working because they feel they have to. Which means maybe by their nature,they would rather not work.


So is it possible a woman would takE a few occasional slaps. So that they can continue to be kept women and not have to work? You can interprate those studies two different ways.


Are the women too afraid to be homeless? Or do they enjoy being taken care of so much, that they would take a few slaps or gut punches. Rather than have to leave and fend for themselves within white supremacy?



So instead of pushing that women need to be independent. Cant we just teach them how to become wifeable and good homemakers? Since MOST black men arent actually abusive? Why create an entire narrative and culture around being independent, based around the few black men who are abusive?

 

[UnQuantized]

Wisdom does not necessarily come with age, some people especially in this era just get older. I would advise a daughter, younger sister, niece to be discerning with everyone and understand the men that trigger raw attraction for you might not be the best long term choice.