Child Support card that can only be spent on the child; Women are against it

[tru_m.a.c]

Let's assume that your kid uses $100 of utilities a month? Why can't you split it 50/50?

Also I've heard of so many men only have their kid like every other weekend. That's four days out of 30 and 48 out of 365 days a year. That's almost over a month out of the year. The child is spending the majority of their life with their mother.

Look, you keep bringing up the issue of primary custody, but what you don't realize is that it's a state issue. Here in maryland, men are given 50/50 custody off bat. Listen to what I said, men are GIVEN custody. It's not a natural right. It's not a fact of life. When a child is born in a split home, nobody is throwing that man a shower and helping him decorate the kids room. Nobody is creating 50/50 schedules for the child to split time at two different homes. Being a father means you are entitled to spend time as much time with your child as you would like.....as long as you and the mother are together. Y'all aren't together? You're required to pay for your child and you're "allowed" visitation rights. That's it. The glory of childhood is vastly different from a male's perspective.

This money for child support battle really isn't about the funds. It's about the fact that from the time a woman decides to have a child, the man no longer has any real power given the jurisdiction the baby is born in. It's that simple.

 

[PeridotPuss]

great post. Let's take it further...what if the mother. Has a husband, do y'all still feel a card would not be justified? @PeridotPuss @LadySimone


@MoonGoddess the only one with some sense

Wouldn't that be bm support? If you as a parent can't support yourself with the child being taken care of with CS maybe you don't need to have sole custody.

If the baby mama new husband adopts the child then no payment needed. As long as baby daddy legally the child father. ..he should pay it

 

[PeridotPuss]

Look, you keep bringing up the issue of primary custody, but what you don't realize is that it's a state issue. Here in maryland, men are given 50/50 custody off bat. Listen to what I said, men are GIVEN custody. It's not a natural right. It's not a fact of life. When a child is born in a split home, nobody is throwing that man a shower and helping him decorate the kids room. Nobody is creating 50/50 schedules for the child to split time at two different homes. Being a father means you are entitled to spend time as much time with your child as you would like.....as long as you and the mother are together. Y'all aren't together? You're required to pay for your child and you're "allowed" visitation rights. That's it. The glory of childhood is vastly different from a male's perspective.

This money for child support battle really isn't about the funds. It's about the fact that from the time a woman decides to have a child, the man no longer has any real power given the jurisdiction the baby is born in. It's that simple.

Factuals

 

[wet landscapes]

it shouldn't be though. when you in a relationship and both live in the same apartment or house, the rent and shyt is split 50/50 never with the consideration of the amount of electricity or water being used by the child. that shyt is just not even factoring into the equation until the child is old enough to pay bills.

I think it's a very unfair act to charge the father with supporting the Mother as well, if she isn't able bodied to pay for her own rent and shyt then yea I might feel some sympathy but not for her, but for not wanting my child to go without lights and shyt. but to automatically charge a man/father with those bills on top of making sure his son or daughter is taking care of is wrong.

All these "I don't need a nikka" single mothers be the first one's needing a nikka's money though
Not all women abuse the system but the one's that due give other idiots courage to wash they baby father's bank accounts out.

Legal System + Ain't shyt ass Females + Unprotected Sex = 18 Years Brehs.... kanye warned us.

yeah but I guess the cause of concern is that the mom has to support the child and work and it might be difficult
it seems like the ideal is both parents half supporting themselves and half supporting their kid, since unless the person is loaded, their child support payments can't sustain a household
and kids cost more that fieldtrips and shoes and clothes...I think lol

 

[Queen]

LMAO, you throw rocks. I tell you I'm not going to partake in your shyt games and you still try and flip it on me?

Judging from your signature, you're a single mother? and I'm assuming the Child's Father was smart and left you. either way, get lost you trouble maker. I know your kind.

P.S. last time I'll ever respond to your trolling ass.

Thank you. Once again you've proven that you lack the competence required to be a useful member of a strong society.

You would be wise not to respond. It would be the first wise action you've taken in this thread. Because "my kind" = someone more intelligent than you are. And you cannot reply to me without bringing attention to your inadequacies.

 

[O.G.B]

Which means nikkas not shyt

Or maybe some women should keep their legs closed and quit sleeping & having babies with broke busters & dime bag weed hustlers who aren't marriage material from the jump!


Once again, your slogan " "My Body, My Choice"

 

[Nomadum]

yeah but I guess the cause of concern is that the mom has to support the child and work and it might be difficult
it seems like the ideal is both parents half supporting themselves and half supporting their kid, since unless the person is loaded, their child support payments can't sustain a household
and kids cost more that fieldtrips and shoes and clothes...I think lol

The Father has to work as well and take care of the child on his week or weekends. the Mother working isn't nothing special nor out of the ordinary, she should be working just as the father is unless it's a medical reason for her not being able to to. but giving softer treatment to single parent mother's automatically is weird to me. I think that when it comes to child support it should all be factored ONLY on what the child will need. fukk what the father or mother needs, its about the child. but hey what do I know? I already got a female in here wishing I die cause I don't support lazy mothers.

 

[Nomadum]

....

We beefing now breh,

look at what you done started.

I'm about to start a #fukkWestCoastAvenger Campaign. fukk you breh, lol

 

[LadySimone]

Simple answer, the Child is not under my roof. I would love to have custody of my child if I had an issue like presented in the OP. but I don't find it suitable to charge the parent who is required to pay support to also pay the utility bills of the parent in which they stay with.

the legal system is shytty when it comes to determining child support and 7/10 times the female get's sympathy because she's a woman and seldom is it taking into consideration that the mother was a shytty parent. unless the mother is clearly a drug addict or something, they win.

I find it odd that women assume that just because the male is the male, he must also help cover her bill as well. NO! Child Support ain't Ex-Support.

If the child isn't under your roof what's the argument for paying anything at all? It's still your kid. Your kid needs a certain standard of living or else the state will find the parent negligent. That includes clothes good and SHELTER and it's not kind of shelter if there are no utilities.

 

[Elle Driver]

I don't go through this cause I actually thought through a suitable father. Most of these fools don't give a fukk, dude doesn't care knowing his baby muva ain't shyt, and she doesn't care cause she's looking for a meal ticket. I'm not gonna cape for these women because they are not innocent, most of them suck as parents and unfortunately their kids would be better off in a foster family. These dudes didn't step up to the plate but they absolutely knew that, so they drag them to court and don't count all them 100s he gave for expenses for the child. Choose better y'all.

 

[wet landscapes]

The Father has to work as well and take care of the child on his week or weekends. the Mother working isn't nothing special nor out of the ordinary, she should be working just as the father is unless it's a medical reason for her not being able to to. but giving softer treatment to single parent mother's automatically is weird to me. I think that when it comes to child support it should all be factored ONLY on what the child will need. fukk what the father or mother needs, its about the child. but hey what do I know? I already got a female in here wishing I die cause I don't support lazy mothers.

I'm pretty sure it's because of how you were speaking to her
they should be working yeah, that would benefit everyone
just the things they listed seem kinda like not the things that child support goes toward, or why child support is so costly. Like, field trips?
I thought child support was like a financial boost so the primary caretaker has the financial room to support themselves and their children, without having to struggle

 

[LadySimone]

great post. Let's take it further...what if the mother. Has a husband, do y'all still feel a card would not be justified? @PeridotPuss @LadySimone


@MoonGoddess the only one with some sense Edit: @thirdeye

Wouldn't that be bm support? If you as a parent can't support yourself with the child being taken care of with CS maybe you don't need to have sole custody.

Yes and where is the phalanx of men wanting partial custody meaning they have their kids 3-4 days out of the week?

 

[shynewhatts]

I am all for it what i pay is for my child not for her to go get her hair done or spend on a treat for her self . I know alot of moms here in canada who get child tax which is roughly 500-600 if tour on the welfare and they will spend like 400 of that on themselves and post some shyt like " spoiled my self today " then a week later ask social media for size 2 diapers .

 

[Bigtymer301]

Child support is always a touchy subject, but to me it's both parents responsibility to take care of the child regardless to who has custody. All that is required are the necessities, and I'm sorry but that car note, and car insurance, gas, oil change, cell bill, Washington Post, Nba League Pass, Winter Vacation, and them bottles in the club, aren't necessities. I do think rent/mortgage, and utilities are apart of the child support equation, but I don't think the person on papers should be paying all of it. They should figure out what the child cost in those areas, and split that. Just because one is on papers, doesn't free the other up from contributing. I have no problem with the card. It would give transparency to the courts, as well as the parent on papers. If the funds are being misused, there will be proof, and both parties can go back in front of the judge. Child support is meant to help maintain the style of living of the child, not raise the style of living for the custodial parent.
Me personally though.....I don't see myself paying child support. I'm pretty careful with who I leave it in . My daughter's mother wouldn't dare put me on child support either, because she know she would get way less support than she getting from me now. I pretty much take care of everything for my daughter, but I do it for her, not her mother. I think nikkas sometimes get to emotional and caught up in there feelings when it comes to child support. I understand some of it, because some females put nikkas on child support out of spite, but if you really taking care of your child, regardless to why you get put on child support, you gonna make sure your child gets what they need.

 

[Elle Driver]

it costs about 250k to raise a child until adulthood. 1/3 of that goes towards housing. it makes sense that child support be spent on things like rent, electricity, water etc

No it includes rent if the child is being raised in the same home. If you can't afford rent then it's safe to say you shouldn't have your child living with you, but then again plenty of these unfit mothers wouldn't be entitled to as many safety nets.