@KushSkywalker
No. That would be inaccurate because my sister works a regular job. But she isn't married. My father provides for her, but she still is expected to work because she is an adult.
If she were to get married then the man would be expected to not have an issue with being a provider.
I am spoiled though. That is accurate.
A woman should not spend her life screwing around with broke men who cannot provide for them or any children they have. I say don't have sex outside of marriage to begin with. But many women are not virtuous or chaste, so if you are going to be screwing around, why set yourself up to struggle if you end up pregnant? Get a vibrator and save the hassle.
I have two degrees. I've run a business since I was 19 years old. I have my own money, my own investments, and my own (small) staff. I don't NEED a man, but if I am going to have one then he is going to make life easier for me and any children we have. I have my own, but my husband has more. I am not in a competition with him therefore I don't need to prove that I can make more than him.
I can more than him because I am entrepreneurial and he is not. But then how will I have time to homeschool the kids? How will I have time to cook all these meals? How will I have time to pursue my interests? No, I keep my business at a level where I don't need to be as hands on, and that allows me to use my time how I want to use it. Should something happen where I need to scale up, then I have created a situation where I can do that.
I value having time to do what I want and not worry about money. There are plenty of women who will do everything for you and work two jobs. I am not one of them. If I am busting my butt at two jobs, then I am single and my business has failed.
I don't mind being called a gold digger. I am one. Better to dig for gold than for scraps. What do I look like praising the struggle? Please.
However, my husband does not like me being referred to as a gold digger because he said that a gold diggers means someone who will do anything for money and not care - and that doesn't describe me. If that is a gold digger then no I am not. But if it means that money matters (not the only factor but it matters) then yes I am.
As I said in an earlier post I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself and any children I have. However, if we are married then making money is not my primary concern.
I want to be a wife and a mother. That is my focus. That is what interests me. So no, I would not deal with a man who could not financially provide for me above or at the same level to which I can provide for myself. And I am sure my husband wouldn't deal with a fat, ugly, and dumb woman so we are even. Not "the same" but even.
can't argue with this
