Choose Better Men

[Spatial Paradox]

It sucks that there's dudes out there putting on a front and being dishonest about their intentions. It breeds distrust and just makes things harder for the next guy who has honest intentions. My conscience won't let me intentionally lead someone on about wanting a relationship when I really don't want that. It's also less stressful to just be upfront IMO

But then again, a lot of people in general either pay attention to the wrong parts of the package when vetting someone. Or they outright get so caught up with certain aspects that they ignore obvious red flags.

As with a lot of things when it comes to people, it depends on what the situation is.

Is this a meme?! Looks more like comedy to me.

Men should be able to discern if he's being used or not. Free material shyt has nothing on emotional damage tho.

Similar to how women should be able to discern a man who's honest about his professed good intentions vs. a man who's putting up a front but really is just trying to smash and dash, right?

 

[*Angel*]

It sucks that there's dudes out there putting on a front and being dishonest about their intentions. It breeds distrust and just makes things harder for the next guy who has honest intentions. My conscience won't let me intentionally lead someone on about wanting a relationship when I really don't want that. It's also less stressful to just be upfront IMO

But then again, a lot of people in general either pay attention to the wrong parts of the package when vetting someone. Or they outright get so caught up with certain aspects that they ignore obvious red flags.

As with a lot of things when it comes to people, it depends on what the situation is.



Similar to how women should be able to discern a man who's honest about his professed good intentions vs. a man who's putting up a front but really is just trying to smash and dash, right?

There's no way to know before the damage is done.

The only thing I agree with is that sex should not be a factor in the getting to know process. Take the time to vet properly.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

How can we tell women to "Choose Better" when so many men are masuerading as "Better Men" and "Selling Hoes the dream"?



I'm sure alot of these women choose men who they think are Better Men, but these men end up gaming her. Then we blame her for choosing Horrible Men. Why is that?

Victim blaming is far too common in this world

 

[MaxPain]

Is this a meme?! Looks more like comedy to me.

Men should be able to discern if he's being used or not. Free material shyt has nothing on emotional damage tho.

Women should be able to discern if they are being used or not as well.

Thats the issue tho, a lot of people aint up on game or just ignore the signs.

 

[MaxPain]

I never feel sorry for anyone who gets played, male or female. If you're mature enough to date you should be mature enough to understand that there are risks and you have to move a certain way.

I've seen too many people, male and female, smell smoke and ignore it until they're trapped in a burning building. All because they don't wanna be alone.

I'm the type of guy who is honest to my own detriment. I'm not the type who will lie or sugarcoat shyt to spare someone's feelings and I wouldn't intentionally play with someone's emotions.

Women say they want a guy who is honest and upfront about what they want. I'm that type of guy and I have been overlooked by some (not all) women because of that. Why? Because a lot of women like the drama that comes with guys who play games. Many women also don't like the truth.

I don't hate women, but I don't feel sorry for them or any adult who chooses incorrectly.

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I figured this out a long time ago and used it to my advantage. They dont want the truth

 

[Trapperman Dave]

Once upon a time I used to care about treating a woman good, but I realized im not what they want so fukk em they get what they deserve if they not paying attention to obvious signs

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

How about people just grow tf up and act like mature adults in
the dating scene. Why is that so hard?



Some people are disingenuous and others are honest... it's all a gamble.

U sound like u got tricked by ur bd

 

[*Angel*]

Women should be able to discern if they are being used or not as well.

Thats the issue tho, a lot of people aint up on game or just ignore the signs.

This isn't about women discerning being used, its about women being deceived just to fuk.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

It's funny that these same dudes that have no problem when dudes finesse women out of p*ssy will lose their fukking minds of a women finessed a dude out of a meal.

"Why lead that man on if you wasn't gonna deal with him, sis? He paid for a meal and took you on a date but you wasn't serious about it? women should just be upfront if they didn't want this to go anywhere! #hoh #gmb #hoesaintloyal

@BocaRear broke it down perfectly. U either the one getting played or the player. My generation is a fukking mess

 

[#SOG_soldier]

Just remember these response when some nikka gets played and these dudes start posting about how hoes ain't shyt and where are the female coli posters and how we never call out women lol. Hypocrites the lot of them...

Edit: not all of em lol, there are some that are honest.

Thanks for that. Not all male coli posters are one way hypocrites

 

[MaxPain]

This isn't about women discerning being used, its about women being deceived just to fuk.

U just contradicted urself, ur confused.

Saying men should discern whether or not there getting used then turning around and acting as if women dont ignore the signs is just making it seem like women have no agency and men are the only ones who can be responsible for their actions.

A grown ass woman cant be deceived to fukk, she fukks cuz she wants to. No one puts a gun to yall head and tells yall to fukk a dude u know is no good for u the same way no one tells a simp to wife up an obvious whore who clubs every weekend.

I just said it in my post the difference between a woman with succesful relationships and one without them is accountability. One accepts that she ignores the signs and does better the next time.

U know what, dont listen to me. Its never ur fault. Ur always tricked. Keep getting tricked and whining about it.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

U sound like u got tricked by ur bd

I don't have a baby daddy, I have a husband.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

I don't have a baby daddy, I have a husband.

Lol I bet I can take u from ur husband

 

[Henri Christophe]

U know what, dont listen to me. Its never ur fault. Ur always tricked. Keep getting tricked and whining about it.

this is how I operate with every female that isn't family.... let them be stupid... their brothers and fathers shoulda put em on game before their titties grew but I guess they weren't around, now they're stuck in the childhood phase of ignorance as grown women

 

[Spatial Paradox]

There's no way to know before the damage is done.

The only thing I agree with is that sex should not be a factor in the getting to know process. Take the time to vet properly.

Just like there's no foolproof way of knowing a woman is just using you for money before you realize it.

It's funny you mention the bolded because I'd think that's actually one way to dissuade any guy who's just looking to smash and dash, no matter how well put together he seems. Again, it's definitely not foolproof, but it's definitely one way to weed them out

Plain old luck doesn't come up enough in discussions about relationships. We all take on a certain amount of risk of coming across someone with bad intentions when dating.

But even with that in mind, we'd all do well to pay attention to any potential red flags and act accordingly.