Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

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Is she your colleague? For the average guy, it's easier to chat to a coworker than approaching a random girl, it shouldn't be a problem if the former(Colleague) is the case.
She's a coworker.

But I have such a defeatist attitude I feel like talking to any woman is a waste of my time because they not gonna let me smash.

I understand it's unhealthy and I don't wanna think like that anymore
 

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She's a coworker.

But I have such a defeatist attitude I feel like talking to any woman is a waste of my time because they not gonna let me smash.

I understand it's unhealthy and I don't wanna think like that anymore

Damn, in my opinion, you should start working on yourself and finding yourself before pursuing women, I suggest you work out and read books on Stoicism.

Check this:https://dailystoic.com/stoic-response-rejection/
 

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i get too annoyed with women when i cold approach

Before i had a huge fear of rejection.

But looking back on my hs years and just looking further beyond the scope of a decent face and a fat ass, some of these women just some duck ass crazy hoes.
:yeshrug:


It is what it is, but its moving backwards getting hung up on 1 chick when there’s a chick that looks similar, if not better than her thats around the corner somewhere. You just got to keep moving n focusing on the positives
 

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i get too annoyed with women when i cold approach

Before i had a huge fear of rejection.

But looking back on my hs years and just looking further beyond the scope of a decent face and a fat ass, some of these women just some duck ass crazy hoes.
:yeshrug:


It is what it is, but its moving backwards getting hung up on 1 chick when there’s a chick that looks similar, if not better than her thats around the corner somewhere. You just got to keep moving n focusing on the positives
Dont take it personal or expect to get anywhere if it happens it happen if dont then on to the next
 

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Dont take it personal or expect to get anywhere if it happens it happen if dont then on to the next
Exactly what im saying


We as men get too hung up on a fat ass nice titties (Physical shyt) when every girl who cares is getting/working on getting the same shyt

Meanwhile hoes tryna find the richest man n marry rich cause they broke or finacial situations

I know cold approaching is just focusing on getting to first base, but what im saying is while men just focused on first base women focused on winning the game.
N we not on the same team


I learned the game early but not everybody had the same opportunity as me

Don’t mean you can’t learn now tho. I really learned from watching tv
 

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It's not that hard. And I'm saying this as a total introvert. Like a super introvert. As long as you're not a disrespectful jerk then you're going to be okay. If she seems like she's not interested, just take the hint and keep it moving. Just talk to women and enjoy flirting. Any and every woman. Even that cashier that you have no interest in. Just ask her how her day is going. All women are hardwired the same. Even the ones that make you go :scust:. But even just shooting the breeze with them will make it easier with the ones that make you go :mjlit:. Even if you only approach the women you're attracted to, you're not going to sleep with all of them. Hell, you aren't even going to walk away with contact information from all of them. So by treating all of them the same, you'll desensitize yourself from being a nervous wreck when you come across the types that typically get your heart rate up.
 

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:lupe: can I start after I get a haircut


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Dont take it personal or expect to get anywhere if it happens it happen if dont then on to the next

Very important. Even after you are „in the game“ for a long time, you still get plenty of rejections. Some days you approach like 5 women and get 5 dates, sometimes you approach 5 n get only rejections. Sometimes its 10 approaches with just one or two dates or none at all. Sometimes its 7 out of 10. I could basically go through endless combinations of numbers but you get it. But the people who shoot the most shots get the most rejections but also the most success. Dont take it personal or get frustrated & become some weirdo women hating incel school shooter in the making...
 

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Very important. Even after you are „in the game“ for a long time, you still get plenty of rejections. Some days you approach like 5 women and get 5 dates, sometimes you approach 5 n get only rejections. Sometimes its 10 approaches with just one or two dates or none at all. Sometimes its 7 out of 10. I could basically go through endless combinations of numbers but you get it. But the people who shoot the most shots get the most rejections but also the most success. Dont take it personal or get frustrated & become some weirdo women hating incel school shooter in the making...
:manny: it's a number game
 

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Exactly what im saying


We as men get too hung up on a fat ass nice titties (Physical shyt) when every girl who cares is getting/working on getting the same shyt

Meanwhile hoes tryna find the richest man n marry rich cause they broke or finacial situations

I know cold approaching is just focusing on getting to first base, but what im saying is while men just focused on first base women focused on winning the game.
N we not on the same team


I learned the game early but not everybody had the same opportunity as me

Don’t mean you can’t learn now tho. I really learned from watching tv
I get what you saying now. But we have to play the game like that(winning the game) I'm 25 now. It's not all about p*ssy anymore. I want somebody that has something going for their self (career and financial wise) somebody I enjoy spending time with, somebody I could be myself with. You gotta find somebody who compliment your life but theirs alot of brehs on here who are scared to even approach somebody they like, they need to focuse on first base.
 
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