Coli Breh that have had kid(s) with your girl and maintained the relationship..whats the secret??

[Why-Fi]

remember that women are different af than we are and...let shyt slide. and always be aware that you get on her nerves too

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I know, I was alerted lil sis

Sure buddy

 

[WhiteDawg3000]

subs...interesting thread.

 

[Marzupial]

nikkas clown them redpill cacs but they give good explanations about this topic

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Priority yes but that don't mean going to the extreme of being a totally different person

I think that's the problem, again you found another way to put the blame on the man

The woman had something in her body so cool we respect that

The child is the priority cool we respect that


So now what about the man? Just work for the kid and accept the woman moodswings

Sounds great

Im not blaming the man, I'm saying what the man is responsible for. nikkas dont seem to understand the difference

You put a baby in a woman... as a man, your top priority is that baby and that woman. Your happiness comes third. Men are supposed to be the providers and foundations of their families. You sound like a woman with that "what about my needs" bullshyt. If every thought you have ends with "ok but what about me though" you aren't ready to be a father

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

You sound bitter. Remember, woman don't HAVE to get pregnant.

But i agree men could be more empathetic. That doesn't mean they should be VILLIFIED for wanting intercourse. I literally didn't have sex for 2 years with my wife after our first child, then 3 years after our second child. Not fun

You sound (justifiably) bitter from 5 years of no sex with your wife. I can understand why you feel this way. But postpartum depression is real. Instead of fixating on sex look at the bigger emotional picture (if you didn't)

 

[Marzupial]

Im not blaming the man, I'm saying what the man is responsible for. nikkas dont seem to understand the difference

You put a baby in a woman... as a man, your top priority is that baby and that woman. Your happiness comes third. Men are supposed to be the providers and foundations of their families. You sound like a woman with that "what about my needs" bullshyt. If every thought you have ends with "ok but what about me though" you aren't ready to be a father

I disagree

As a man my purpose comes 1st, some man do think that being a provider and a "slave" to the woman and kids makes him better

Personally Iam defenetly not having some kid in those terms

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

I disagree

As a man my purpose comes 1st, some man do think that being a provider and a "slave" to the woman and kids makes him better

Personally Iam defenetly not having some kid in those terms

I agree with you both, as a father of two and been in a marriage for a good minute...these things all don't have equal weight.

Like just because you need to tend to your kids and her needs before your own don't make your own needs any less great...balance is the key and the difference determines successful marriages.

I'll be damned if we go too long without my needs being met, which is the same with her...but we got them kids to handle first.

It's not an all or nothing game brehs...its a lil bit of that here right quick , and a lil bit of that over there right quick, then voila you got success

The problems come when yall don't wanna fukking talk and be adults about shyt and trying to be selfish all the time.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I disagree

As a man my purpose comes 1st, some man do think that being a provider and a "slave" to the woman and kids makes him better

Personally Iam defenetly not having some kid in those terms

What could possibly more important to a man than his own children

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

What could possibly more important to a man than his own children

His nutt of course

 

[BrehWyatt]

What could possibly more important to a man than his own children

Perhaps he includes fatherhood as a part of his purpose?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

The problems come when yall don't wanna fukking talk and be adults about shyt and trying to be selfish all the time.

This is all I'm trying to say. I don't think brehs are wrong to be angry or frustrated if their needs aren't being met. But there's a difference between that and being resentful that your needs are no longer top priority

If you have good communication and mutual respect shyt should be cool. And if it isn't you will at least have the foundation and bigger vision to get through it instead of being self centered and resentful

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Perhaps he includes fatherhood as a part of his purpose?

Given the fact that he likens prioritizing family to slavery I seriously doubt it

 

[Marzupial]

Perhaps he includes fatherhood as a part of his purpose?

A man purpose

A lot of kids get older and don't even appreciate the sacrifices you did for them

I said "slavery" cause you alluded to the fact of a man working just to satisfy others needs and forget about his own

Like I said if that's your choice cool but I don't think you are less of a man if you put your purpose in 1st place

 

[True Blue Moon]

Fam. This explains a lot. Her family is Hounding her on the low for having a baby out of wedlock. I promise you.


nikka sound like you been reading The Way of the Superior Man

shyt changed my life

Respect