Coli Ladies - Please GTF in here

[MikelArteta]

I know all about that "being happy and having it ruined by a single text" life..

I don't even answer the phone for numbers I don't recognize.

thats why i change my number.

I don't even have social media, no one knows my email except a few people, no one knows where I live.

I remember when I ran into some chick I smashed last year and she told me she was looking for me for 3 years

A mouse only needs a little hole to get in

 

[2stainz]

Ill bet there were times when he hated her......or stuff about her that disgusted him when they were together.

remind him of those things when you can

 

[sanityovar8ted]

She's a bytch, she does it on purpose. He is better off w/o her, he's just still got feelings for her.

 

[Music Fiend]

everyone can be fixed its not to late!

But How do you feel about these traits Emp?

- she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". Projection?
- Shouldn't a pretty girl who is social have an easy time making friends?
- I know she was in therapy for something as well. Don't know what it was, none of my business really,
- She had low self esteem, my bro was always tryna build her up. But truth be told, she was one of the most social and confident women I have ever seen.
- In the relationship she played the victim role on my bro so hard, times shed geniunely be overreacting.

I'm asking because I encounter these things myself and I'm not sure if these traits are of a quality woman or not. The main thing I always found weird was how she always needed attention, she'd come over and be with my bro and she'd be having 15 mnutes convos with her girlfriends while at the crib. Whenever she was bored she always had someone to call. But always whined about nto having friends....

I have a good female friend who i always tried to get with who would come over whiel she was there and she would always say she got the crazy bit*h vibe from her.

I would totally take his phone and block her, but it's not for me to do. I want him to practice what he preaches, dude always tells me I'm simpin but this isnt?

 

[Music Fiend]

Ill bet there were times when he hated her......or stuff about her that disgusted him when they were together.

remind him of those things when you can

i'm pretty sure he hates her. I try to reason with him even if she comes back can you legitimately tell me you won't be insecure she'd do it again? lol

He hates her, but theres that thin line bro. i hate a few of my exes, and I still have feeling for em.

 

[Music Fiend]

She's a bytch, she does it on purpose. He is better off w/o her, he's just still got feelings for her.

What if she wasn't sucessful or doing so great? Still a bytch move?

I am assuming success here, for all i know she could just be getting flown out and smashed by these celebrities lol.

I tell him it's a btich move regardless of how she's doing because you respected she didn't wanna be with you, why can't she respect your space? She continues to try to contact you and get your attention with texts like "hey" once or twice a year and on your bday when she knows you'll see it.

 

[MikelArteta]

But How do you feel about these traits Emp?

- she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". Projection?
- Shouldn't a pretty girl who is social have an easy time making friends?
- I know she was in therapy for something as well. Don't know what it was, none of my business really,
- She had low self esteem, my bro was always tryna build her up. But truth be told, she was one of the most social and confident women I have ever seen.
- In the relationship she played the victim role on my bro so hard, times shed geniunely be overreacting.

I'm asking because I encounter these things myself and I'm not sure if these traits are of a quality woman or not. The main thing I always found weird was how she always needed attention, she'd come over and be with my bro and she'd be having 15 mnutes convos with her girlfriends while at the crib. Whenever she was bored she always had someone to call. But always whined about nto having friends....

I have a good female friend who i always tried to get with who would come over whiel she was there and she would always say she got the crazy bit*h vibe from her.

I would totally take his phone and block her, but it's not for me to do. I want him to practice what he preaches, dude always tells me I'm simpin but this isnt?

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[MikelArteta]

But How do you feel about these traits Emp?

- she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". Projection?

Most people who have issues keeping friends and calling them all fake is a projection of themselves. People don't want to hang around negative people.

- Shouldn't a pretty girl who is social have an easy time making friends?

not really many pretty women don't have friends because of entitlement and the attitude they have

- I know she was in therapy for something as well. Don't know what it was, none of my business really

red flags

- She had low self esteem, my bro was always tryna build her up. But truth be told, she was one of the most social and confident women I have ever seen.

many beautiful women have self esteem issues. I even dated a model and her self esteem was in the dumpster. Women will flash this outward appearance on social media or in real life when inside they are empty and hollow. NEver build up a woman I say, get a woman that is built!!!

- In the relationship she played the victim role on my bro so hard, times shed geniunely be overreacting.

Red flags again, women like these are charmers and manipulators, they like drama, they know what buttons to pull

I'm asking because I encounter these things myself and I'm not sure if these traits are of a quality woman or not. The main thing I always found weird was how she always needed attention, she'd come over and be with my bro and she'd be having 15 mnutes convos with her girlfriends while at the crib. Whenever she was bored she always had someone to call. But always whined about nto having friends....

I have a good female friend who i always tried to get with who would come over whiel she was there and she would always say she got the crazy bit*h vibe from her.

I would totally take his phone and block her, but it's not for me to do. I want him to practice what he preaches, dude always tells me I'm simpin but this isnt?

these traits arent traits of a quality woman

many women thrive off the currency of attention and validaton especially those with self esteem issues and daddy issues, pretty womenw ill always have a array of men, and evne women to talk to doesnt mean they are friends.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

What if she wasn't sucessful or doing so great? Still a bytch move?

I am assuming success here, for all i know she could just be getting flown out and smashed by these celebrities lol.

I tell him it's a btich move regardless of how she's doing because you respected she didn't wanna be with you, why can't she respect your space? She continues to try to contact you and get your attention with texts like "hey" once or twice a year and on your bday when she knows you'll see it.

Thats y she's a bytch. She doesnt want him yet cant let go. She's toxic. Success has nothing to do with it. She enjoys playing with his emotions.

 

[CinnaSlim]

I know all about that "being happy and having it ruined by a single text" life..

I don't even answer the phone for numbers I don't recognize.

 

[Ello_Vee]

Sorry @Music Fiend , just seeing this now.
If girl is hearing any whiff of how he took their break up, then she feels guilty. Over time, and through other relationships, she has likely come to realize how well he treated her (from your description) and she feels like a bad person. It sounds like she SHOULD feel like a bad person because she still doesn't know how to treat your poor friend. Stringing him along is all for HER benefit. To assuage her guilt or hold out hope that she always has at least one good guy to fall back on in hrr pocket.
Now, maybe you don't know all the details. Maybe she sent some apology and maybe he accepted it and maybe she thinks every thing is kosher now. Clearly it is not (and I'm sorry for you and your bro that the party fell apart.... but I suspect he was waiting for that text. )

I just got a message today from an ex bf trying to apologize. (I could see the beginning of the msg in the preview.) Guess who is not reading it, not acknowledging it, and will be putting him on block. Been years since I last spoke to him!!! Not the first apology attempt from him either. He just makes new accounts!!! Guilt + bad relationships make you start thinking about the good ones that got away!)

 

[Medicate]

So last night was my brothers 24th bday. Had the drinks going crazy, women turnt to the max, everybody feeling themselves.

Then right when it hit midnight, all of a sudden dudes demeanor changed.

His longtime ex fiance texted him happy bday right at midnight... She does this every year... Except this time it ruined the night

She left him years ago after many years and emasculated would be an understatement. The usual, "I don't love you, i want someone else, can we be friends" deal.

Shes flourished since tho, is now fairly famous and is dating an NFL player. She looks happy.

I keep telling him she ain't coming back and shes stuntin on him, then he always ends up wanting to fight me like last night. At this point, i refuse to go out on his bdays from now on cuz after midnight the nikka turns into a butthurt buzzkill.

You no longer "love" dude but do small things like this even 3 years later, while your in a relationship? What motivates this behavior? Guilt, residual feelings, is it just being polite or is it stunting because she's doing much better than him?

He made it clear years ago he wasn't gonna be friends, and never responds, but he won't block her... she texts him and it sends him into a depressive spiral every bday like wtf bro.



@Giselle
@Colicat
@CinnaSlim
@Phoenix_Knightly23
@Ello_Vee
@Emperor_ReinScarf

Nah, she probably still have hidden feelings for him, and probably is not as "flourished" as you think.....the fact she still texts him on his Bday and they were never married, means she wants to keep some sort of connection with him. That Football player probably not treating her like ole boy was, and she want to make sure she keeps in "touch" in her mind and HIS, for that "out the blue" hookup....

Exes are really never exes, even if you block them out, they always will have you or you will have them in the back of the mind, no matter how far back it is....

 

[Ohene]

But How do you feel about these traits Emp?

- she always had issues with keeping friends. in her words, "they were all fake". Projection?
- Shouldn't a pretty girl who is social have an easy time making friends?
- I know she was in therapy for something as well. Don't know what it was, none of my business really,
- She had low self esteem, my bro was always tryna build her up. But truth be told, she was one of the most social and confident women I have ever seen.
- In the relationship she played the victim role on my bro so hard, times shed geniunely be overreacting.

I'm asking because I encounter these things myself and I'm not sure if these traits are of a quality woman or not. The main thing I always found weird was how she always needed attention, she'd come over and be with my bro and she'd be having 15 mnutes convos with her girlfriends while at the crib. Whenever she was bored she always had someone to call. But always whined about nto having friends....

I have a good female friend who i always tried to get with who would come over whiel she was there and she would always say she got the crazy bit*h vibe from her.

I would totally take his phone and block her, but it's not for me to do. I want him to practice what he preaches, dude always tells me I'm simpin but this isnt?

real friends are made from when youre young and ppl youve gone through special (good or bad) times with IMO. just b/c a girl is pretty and social doesnt mean shes gonna be able to make friends. if she dont have girls that she grew up with that were always there for her she aint gonna have any real friends. loyalty is hard enough to come by regularly. you see how these girls be jerkin nikkas...you dont think they treat they girls the same way? if anything its more difficult to make friends because girls be hatin hard.

literally all my friends are from high school, elementary school and my freshman year of university. A total of 6-8 maybe and everyone else can eat a dikk to be frank.

as far as self-esteem...its mental. it doesnt matter how well somebody is doing on the outside or how they appear to be doing. There are many factors that contribute to a persons real subjective well-being. Positive psychology, personality psychology and abrnomal psychology touch on the aspects a little bit. Some factors are dispositional and innate, some are chemical (think neuro transmitters), some relate to childhood, situational factors etc etc. Never judge a book by its cover and never judge somebody for going having these sort of problems.

 

[Giselle]

So last night was my brothers 24th bday. Had the drinks going crazy, women turnt to the max, everybody feeling themselves.

Then right when it hit midnight, all of a sudden dudes demeanor changed.

His longtime ex fiance texted him happy bday right at midnight... She does this every year... Except this time it ruined the night

She left him years ago after many years and emasculated would be an understatement. The usual, "I don't love you, i want someone else, can we be friends" deal.

Shes flourished since tho, is now fairly famous and is dating an NFL player. She looks happy.

I keep telling him she ain't coming back and shes stuntin on him, then he always ends up wanting to fight me like last night. At this point, i refuse to go out on his bdays from now on cuz after midnight the nikka turns into a butthurt buzzkill.

You no longer "love" dude but do small things like this even 3 years later, while your in a relationship? What motivates this behavior? Guilt, residual feelings, is it just being polite or is it stunting because she's doing much better than him?

He made it clear years ago he wasn't gonna be friends, and never responds, but he won't block her... she texts him and it sends him into a depressive spiral every bday like wtf bro.



@Giselle
@Colicat
@CinnaSlim
@Phoenix_Knightly23
@Ello_Vee
@Emperor_ReinScarf

It depends on how rich/famous the nfl player is. pm me the player's name. Then I'll be able to give a more accurate answer.

 

[Remote]

Yeah he needs to block that number.

If the texts are getting to him, he's still not completely over her...and maybe he never will be. So it's best to cut the cord completely.

Besides, what is he getting by not blocking the number? Is he hoping that one day she'll come around and want to get back together?
Or maybe he's hoping that one day she'll be down for a one-night stand?

Why would he even be interested in something like that? After years of her getting fukked by all those other guys?

Nah, B...