coli ladies when you friendzone a guy

[YaBoy]

I don't see what's wrong with it. I've had this before. I'm not saying dudes should keep texting girls after they get friendzoned but if the girl decides to keep texting you for friendly conversation, I don't see why dudes can't engage.

I can only speak for myself. But, for one, the vast majority of females aren't very engaging/interesting in conversation. Secondly, having pointless conversation with no goal in sight is not what I want, its not what I'll be happy about, its what she'll be happy about. I'm not gonna sacrifice my happiness for her. & every conversation I'd just be thinking about how I want more.
Its like playing varsity ball in high school but you're the 12th man off the bench. Yea your on the team, but your not doing what you really want. I'd rather just not be on the team, rather then spending so much time on practices/games when I never actually see the court

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't see what's wrong with it. I've had this before. I'm not saying dudes should keep texting girls after they get friendzoned but if the girl decides to keep texting you for friendly conversation, I don't see why dudes can't engage.

because you are wasting your time, your not really friends because they are not interested in your life, your just a emotional tampon to hear their problems

if your fine with this then so be it

 

[MikelArteta]

I can only speak for myself. But, for one, the vast majority of females aren't very engaging/interesting in conversation. Secondly, having pointless conversation with no goal in sight is not what I want, its not what I'll be happy about, its what she'll be happy about. I'm not gonna sacrifice my happiness for her. & every conversation I'd just be thinking about how I want more.
Its like playing varsity ball in high school but you're the 12th man off the bench. Yea your on the team, but your not doing what you really want. I'd rather just not be on the team, rather then spending so much time on practices/games when I never actually see the court

exactly
look i've been there "Friends" with a female your really not friends, once they start to date you dont hear from them, only when their life is in shambles or they need someone to hear their problems they hit you up
'my only "female" friends are at work because i talk to them monday to friday.

 

[Sierra Mist]

because you are wasting your time, your not really friends because they are not interested in your life, your just a emotional tampon to hear their problems

if your fine with this then so be it

If she is just using you then fine but if she has a genuine interest in you as a friend then I don't see why that should be ruined.

I can only speak for myself. But, for one, the vast majority of females aren't very engaging/interesting in conversation. Secondly, having pointless conversation with no goal in sight is not what I want, its not what I'll be happy about, its what she'll be happy about. I'm not gonna sacrifice my happiness for her. & every conversation I'd just be thinking about how I want more.
Its like playing varsity ball in high school but you're the 12th man off the bench. Yea your on the team, but your not doing what you really want. I'd rather just not be on the team, rather then spending so much time on practices/games when I never actually see the court

But if you are going after other girls then you shouldn't be worried about her anymore once she turned you down because you doing ya own thing.

 

[MikelArteta]

If she is just using you then fine but if she has a genuine interest in you as a friend then I don't see why that should be ruined.

But if you are going after other girls then you shouldn't be worried about her anymore once she turned you down because you doing ya own thing.

 

[Sierra Mist]

To each their own.

 

[YaBoy]

If she is just using you then fine but if she has a genuine interest in you as a friend then I don't see why that should be ruined.

But if you are going after other girls then you shouldn't be worried about her anymore once she turned you down because you doing ya own thing.

If she turned you down, but you're still talking/texting her, then you're giving her an unnecessary amount of time because nothing will develop from it. Its not about being worried, its just a waste of time

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

If she turned you down, but you're still talking/texting her, then you're giving her an unnecessary amount of time because nothing will develop from it. Its not about being worried, its just a waste of time

Brehettes, bolded and underlined for emphasis; guys see you as a waste of time when you're not letting them hit. Don't be a statistic

 

[MikelArteta]

Brehettes, bolded and underlined for emphasis; guys see you as a waste of time when you're not letting them hit. Don't be a statistic

its not just sex, hell i went 3 years voluntary celibacy and still talking to women who are not interested in you is a big waste, because it comes down to it YOU are not a friend.

I recently travelled and asked a "friend" if we could hang out and she told me she couldn't, she had a bf

now if I was a female she would be perfectly fine with hanging out see my drift?

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

its not just sex, hell i went 3 years voluntary celibacy and still talking to women who are not interested in you is a big waste, because it comes down to it YOU are not a friend.

I recently travelled and asked a "friend" if we could hang out and she told me she couldn't, she had a bf

now if I was a female she would be perfectly fine with hanging out see my drift?

Had she graduated from the "smash or trying to smash" list?

 

[MikelArteta]

Had she graduated from the "smash or trying to smash" list?

yes i smashed
but we were just "friends"

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

yes i smashed
but we were just "friends"

The fact that you put the word in inverted commas answers your question

But I agree with the sentiment in this thread, boys and girls can't be friends. The only type of friends you can be is acquaintances who respect each other and can stand to have a conversation and work together. When you move to late night conversations, that friendship is en-route to an iceberg

 

[360dagod]

I think nikkas take the friendzone treatment too hard. Ok so she wouldn't let you hit. That don't mean ya'll can't still be friends unless she played you. You never know what might happen in the future. Plus if you just up and leave after that, she'll just see you as every other dude that came her way. Women look for something different. Not the same lame ass dude that tried to hit, got mad and moved on because he didn't. You can still be her friend and try to take down other females at the same time.

a female is a great networking tool..

even the ugliest ones know people who know people

 

[MikelArteta]

The fact that you put the word in inverted commas answers your question

But I agree with the sentiment in this thread, boys and girls can't be friends. The only type of friends you can be is acquaintances who respect each other and can stand to have a conversation and work together. When you move to late night conversations, that friendship is en-route to an iceberg

thank you sister
it's true it's true
only females i talk to regularly are the ones I work with, any other time its awkward.

However I can be a friend of a female I just don't see the point

 

[Incogno]

If they tell you they like a girl and ask you for advice do you give them encouragement and lie to them about how any girl would want them knowing damn well you wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole or do you tell them what you really think which is you just couldn't imagine a anybody being attracted to them since you yourself don't find them attractive.

neither one of those...

if they like each other ...i'll tell the person in question to pursue something with that someone...

i don't view friendships between men and women in the same light a lot of people do.. i value marriage...and the foundation of a marriage consist of a solid friendship between a man and a woman...so i actually do want to be friends with a man first and foremost.......and if the man isn't interested in that...that'll show me his character...and what his interest is in