coli ladies when you friendzone a guy

[Art Barr]

I think nikkas take the friendzone treatment too hard. Ok so she wouldn't let you hit. That don't mean ya'll can't still be friends unless she played you. You never know what might happen in the future. Plus if you just up and leave after that, she'll just see you as every other dude that came her way. Women look for something different. Not the same lame ass dude that tried to hit, got mad and moved on because he didn't. You can still be her friend and try to take down other females at the same time.

beta.

you never use the friend door.


Art Barr

 

[McPiff]

You have female friends who come over to your place and you have absolutely no, zero intention of doing anything other than literally just chilling out?




Edit: And not because you know they'd shoot you down but because you are not interested

The shyt happens way more than you think. I have a couple of close females friends, that i would never try to smash cause i dont see them like that at all. But i enjoy being around them and yeah having a cool female friend that is great all around is a really great networking "tool"

Dont sleep on it.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

@O.T.I.S. I just realised my comment could be the relationship version of "why don't poor people just get jobs". Maybe as a female there are some variables I just don't "get". So no disrespect

The shyt happens way more than you think. I have a couple of close females friends, that i would never try to smash cause i dont see them like that at all. But i enjoy being around them and yeah having a cool female friend that is great all around is a really great networking "tool"

Dont sleep on it.

Out of curiosity is it because you're not attracted to them? Have you ever taken it beyond friendship or tried to?

 

[Black Magisterialness]

The shyt happens way more than you think. I have a couple of close females friends, that i would never try to smash cause i dont see them like that at all. But i enjoy being around them and yeah having a cool female friend that is great all around is a really great networking "tool"

Dont sleep on it.

They don't even know...and not to mention socially it just looks powerful. A man that can navigate his way around women platonic or not is attractive to other women. It's seriously not that complex. The friend zone is not real. Every woman doesn't want to fukk you its simple as that. The more you get that in your head as a man the easier it is to take the steps and actually find the ones that do.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

You guys make being a guy sound so complicated. If it were me, girl texts me or w/e tries to hang out, then cool manoeuvre the hang out into a date situation i.e. blah blah....yo I'm actually kinda hungry wanna grab some food, bam. Then while eating get personal, ask her questions, get flirty, establish contact, touch her arm, put your foot next to hers blah blah blah, end of the night make it awkward, physically, establish some intimacy, get in her personal space. Do that a few times and get more bold then seal the deal, if she's receptive then done if she's not, next time she tries to contact you tell her you're not looking for a female friend and you can't be her friend because "I want you"

If that girl does not come crawling back it was a lost cause, move on. Do not respond to texts, do not attempt to hang out. But. Recognise what crawling back looks like, she's going to try to be sly. If you do decide to give her another chance, let it be face to face and it has to be a step forward, not the same old square.

I would make a bad ass man, some of the simp/confused stuff I read in that sticky thread

And you make sounding like a guy so easy

I'm supposed to figure out and know what every bullshyt intention or game a woman wants to play and then be the bigger person and not respond to her calls or text?

I just asked what goes on in a woman's mind when they try to keep a guy as a friend with no intentions on their being anything more.

And not like a "we talk every now and again" type friend. But a "I need someone to listen to all my bullshyt friend".

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

And you make sounding like a guy so easy

I'm supposed to figure out and know what every bullshyt intention or game a woman wants to play and then be the bigger person and not respond to her calls or text?

I just asked what goes on in a woman's mind when they try to keep a guy as a friend with no intentions on their being anything more.

And not like a "we talk every now and again" type friend. But a "I need someone to listen to all my bullshyt friend".

When you think about it thought this aspect is kind of easy; do you want to be her bff? Whether yes or no the instructions are sound.

But okay, what goes through a woman's head when she's looking for someone to listen to her BS....I was going to post a rant of thoughts but to summarise, it's all about her, her thoughts, her emotions, her needs and you are there to listen, to give a male's perspective if appropriate and to make her feel better.

She hasn't probably thought outside or beyond that personal bubble. If asked why she thinks it's appropriate she would say something like "I'd do that for him too if he needed it" and she'd be genuine and maybe she's not even a bad person, she's not holding you hostage, if you hated the situation that much and if it bothers you, why aren't you saying anything?

 

[YaBoy]

@YaBoy I am NOT leading him on, I have never asked him for anything and I am also not hard to look at so I don't see how he's taking any L's for this. You do realise with us it's "should we be getting married" not about hooking-up. And with marriage, we are not compatible. So it's a mediocre win-win for as long as we're at the same uni we at least get someone we are attracted to that we can look at

Not mental gymnastics, I now know for sure. It makes sense. You don't have to be with every person you attract and you don't have to throw people in the bushes just because the outcome isn't exactly what you had in mind.




85% decided one way or another before you even talk to each other, unless he's really your type or really isn't then that number is higher.

You are making men sound so powerless, no one "keeps" them around. Guys in the friendzone stay around.

What can you do? Standup and walk away whenever they sit next to you?

But like I said, if a girl is calling you up, asking you for stuff, trying to get you to spend time or money on her then she's playing you. It's all in your hands, all the girl can do is give you the yes or no but what you do with it is up to you.

You guys make being a guy sound so complicated. If it were me, girl texts me or w/e tries to hang out, then cool manoeuvre the hang out into a date situation i.e. blah blah....yo I'm actually kinda hungry wanna grab some food, bam. Then while eating get personal, ask her questions, get flirty, establish contact, touch her arm, put your foot next to hers blah blah blah, end of the night make it awkward, physically, establish some intimacy, get in her personal space. Do that a few times and get more bold then seal the deal, if she's receptive then done if she's not, next time she tries to contact you tell her you're not looking for a female friend and you can't be her friend because "I want you"

If that girl does not come crawling back it was a lost cause, move on. Do not respond to texts, do not attempt to hang out. But. Recognise what crawling back looks like, she's going to try to be sly. If you do decide to give her another chance, let it be face to face and it has to be a step forward, not the same old square.

I would make a bad ass man, some of the simp/confused stuff I read in that sticky thread

More mental gymnastics . & can you stop deflecting @O.T.I.S. 's questions

 

[McPiff]

@O.T.I.S. I just realised my comment could be the relationship version of "why don't poor people just get jobs". Maybe as a female there are some variables I just don't "get". So no disrespect






Out of curiosity is it because you're not attracted to them? Have you ever taken it beyond friendship or tried to?

Never tried. They are good looking though. But nope never tried. We met 17 years ago and never tried anything. didnt feel the need to

They don't even know...and not to mention socially it just looks powerful. A man that can navigate his way around women platonic or not is attractive to other women. It's seriously not that complex. The friend zone is not real. Every woman doesn't want to fukk you its simple as that. The more you get that in your head as a man the easier it is to take the steps and actually find the ones that do.

Tell em breh. When other women you may want to pursue see you around good looking girls and see you act like you re not even sweatin it,

 

[Desirous]

I don't give people advice I think is bad.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

More mental gymnastics . & can you stop deflecting @O.T.I.S. 's questions

Now you're just being difficult. What would you have me do in this situation? Not like he's come right out and said anything and not like I'm reaching out to him via texts/calls or w/e


Which question am I deflecting, I thought I was answering and in too much detail even

 

[Sierra Mist]

When ya'll were in high school, ya'll never had that cool female friend? Or were you just trying to fukk every female in high school so you were only friends with dudes?

 

[YaBoy]

Now you're just being difficult. What would you have me do in this situation? Not like he's come right out and said anything and not like I'm reaching out to him via texts/calls or w/e


Which question am I deflecting, I thought I was answering and in too much detail even

I misread what you were saying, I thought you were reaching out to him. My bad
But you kept deflecting when he asked why you friendzoned guys you have no interest in.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

When you think about it thought this aspect is kind of easy; do you want to be her bff? Whether yes or no the instructions are sound.

But okay, what goes through a woman's head when she's looking for someone to listen to her BS....I was going to post a rant of thoughts but to summarise, it's all about her, her thoughts, her emotions, her needs and you are there to listen, to give a male's perspective if appropriate and to make her feel better.

She hasn't probably thought outside or beyond that personal bubble. If asked why she thinks it's appropriate she would say something like "I'd do that for him too if he needed it" and she'd be genuine and maybe she's not even a bad person, she's not holding you hostage, if you hated the situation that much and if it bothers you, why aren't you saying anything?

Didn't hate the situation nor did I say I felt like a hostage. I could've said something at anytime and eventually I did.. So don't think I wasn't saying anything just because. I was trying to read the person...


I just didn't understand the reason a female would attempt to make a straight guy her BFF without any care to date them. Unless they grew up as damn near related or something... And a lot of females try to do this

If I'm NOT interested in a woman, I don't call/text her everyday about damn near everything... Not just for her "female perspective" on shyt

So yeah, answer is somewhat understandable but not fully.

 

[Art Barr]

When ya'll were in high school, ya'll never had that cool female friend? Or were you just trying to fukk every female in high school so you were only friends with dudes?

you, still playing play sister games, as a grown up, Joe.
that shyt is wild beta.

Art Barr

 

[O.T.I.S.]

When ya'll were in high school, ya'll never had that cool female friend? Or were you just trying to fukk every female in high school so you were only friends with dudes?

Had plenty of female friends I was cool with. But we kept it cool. If we got to the point where we talked everyday about everything we eventually started dating