coli ladies when you friendzone a guy

[Black Magisterialness]

How much time do you spend with these females whose company you enjoy?

periodic hangouts bars, coffee.....perhaps chillin at my spot or theirs.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Ladies when you friendzone a guy is it usually before or after he's shown he's interested in yiu

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

periodic hangouts bars, coffee.....perhaps chillin at my spot or theirs.

You have female friends who come over to your place and you have absolutely no, zero intention of doing anything other than literally just chilling out?




Edit: And not because you know they'd shoot you down but because you are not interested

 

[Ashley Banks]

If they tell you they like a girl and ask you for advice do you give them encouragement and lie to them about how any girl would want them knowing damn well you wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole or do you tell them what you really think which is you just couldn't imagine a anybody being attracted to them since you yourself don't find them attractive.

I tell them the truth. That there is someone for everybody and just because one person or even a million people don't like you that someone will, you just have to find a girl/guy that likes your type.

 

[YaBoy]

@YaBoy he doesn't have a shortage of women willing to give him what I won't so I don't feel too bad about it, he is not a simp and he gets loads of female attention so I am sure one female not caving won't do his ego any harm

You literally just said the exact same thing you're doing is wrong just a few posts ago. Like I said, mental gymnastics smh

 

[Black Magisterialness]

You have female friends who come over to your place and you have absolutely no, zero intention of doing anything other than literally just chilling out?




Edit: And not because you know they'd shoot you down but because you are not interested

Uh..yeah. If I wanna fukk I will. In fact one of my closest friends is a girl and I have NO interest in fukking her. And not cuz she isn't cute or would shoot me down...I'm just more interested in other types of females. But she's a dope chick and has great taste in music and functions as my thot radar.

My nikkas are my inner circle, I don't need no new nikkas around me. Females usually have not only more to talk about but in my experience are just as connected and much more willing to share those connections, professionally.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

@YaBoy I am NOT leading him on, I have never asked him for anything and I am also not hard to look at so I don't see how he's taking any L's for this. You do realise with us it's "should we be getting married" not about hooking-up. And with marriage, we are not compatible. So it's a mediocre win-win for as long as we're at the same uni we at least get someone we are attracted to that we can look at

Not mental gymnastics, I now know for sure. It makes sense. You don't have to be with every person you attract and you don't have to throw people in the bushes just because the outcome isn't exactly what you had in mind.

Ladies when you friendzone a guy is it usually before or after he's shown he's interested in yiu

85% decided one way or another before you even talk to each other, unless he's really your type or really isn't then that number is higher.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

@YaBoy I am NOT leading him on, I have never asked him for anything and I am also not hard to look at so I don't see how he's taking any L's for this. You do realise with us it's "should we be getting married" not about hooking-up. And with marriage, we are not compatible. So it's a mediocre win-win for as long as we're at the same uni we at least get someone we are attracted to that we can look at

Not mental gymnastics, I now know for sure. It makes sense. You don't have to be with every person you attract and you don't have to throw people in the bushes just because the outcome isn't exactly what you had in mind.




85% decided one way or another before you even talk to each other, unless he's really your type or really isn't then that number is higher.

Why friendzone him in the first place?

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

@O.T.I.S. you mean why friendzone guys in general?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

@O.T.I.S. you mean why friendzone guys in general?

Yeah... Especially if he's attracted to you.

What's the point?

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Yeah... Especially if he's attracted to you.

What's the point?

Are you talking about this guy in particular or are you asking me why every guy who is attracted is not given a chance?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Are you talking about this guy in particular or are you asking me why every guy who is attracted is not given a chance?

The guy in particular is me


I'm asking if you have no romantic interest in a guy why keep him around as a friend. Especially if he's acknowledged his attraction to you

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

The guy in particular is me


I'm asking if you have no romantic interest in a guy why keep him around as a friend. Especially if he's acknowledged his attraction to you

You are making men sound so powerless, no one "keeps" them around. Guys in the friendzone stay around.

What can you do? Standup and walk away whenever they sit next to you?

But like I said, if a girl is calling you up, asking you for stuff, trying to get you to spend time or money on her then she's playing you. It's all in your hands, all the girl can do is give you the yes or no but what you do with it is up to you.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

You are making men sound so powerless, no one "keeps" them around. Guys in the friendzone stay around.

What can you do? Standup and walk away whenever they sit next to you?

But like I said, if a girl is calling you up, asking you for stuff, trying to get you to spend time or money on her then she's playing you. It's all in your hands, all the girl can do is give you the yes or no but what you do with it is up to you.

Never said they were powerless

Or exactly being played for anything

I'm saying why bother calling, texting, trying to hang out, etc

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Never said they were powerless

Or exactly being played for anything

I'm saying why bother calling, texting, trying to hang out, etc

You guys make being a guy sound so complicated. If it were me, girl texts me or w/e tries to hang out, then cool manoeuvre the hang out into a date situation i.e. blah blah....yo I'm actually kinda hungry wanna grab some food, bam. Then while eating get personal, ask her questions, get flirty, establish contact, touch her arm, put your foot next to hers blah blah blah, end of the night make it awkward, physically, establish some intimacy, get in her personal space. Do that a few times and get more bold then seal the deal, if she's receptive then done if she's not, next time she tries to contact you tell her you're not looking for a female friend and you can't be her friend because "I want you"

If that girl does not come crawling back it was a lost cause, move on. Do not respond to texts, do not attempt to hang out. But. Recognise what crawling back looks like, she's going to try to be sly. If you do decide to give her another chance, let it be face to face and it has to be a step forward, not the same old square.

I would make a bad ass man, some of the simp/confused stuff I read in that sticky thread