Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[tuckgod]

He ran out to make a sale right quick, you should've been earlier, time is money

As far as him not paying, you should've kept your wallet in your bag and waited to see how he'd play it.

He's obviously a nikka bout his paper, sounds like a keeper..

 

[GreenGhxst]

Dude dont sound solid at all, but it also sounds like you never really liked the nikka much anyway

You said yall went to Starbucks and it was whatever, why even keep agreeing to meet up with someone you dont feel?

 

[Phantum]

Nah, Newark but I’m there every once in a blue-very familiar. And we ended up somewhere further down the parkway in Union county.

Oh I guess you went on 22? Anyway, you did dude dirty though lol. But if you aren't feeling him On to the next.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So if he bought you dinner and y’all went y’all separate ways after, that would be better?

1. Smashing a dude you don't know for carry out

vs

2. A dude taking you out to get to know you

I think it's pretty obvious which scenario is in the better interest of the woman. I already said it's about going out; not carry out. Idk why you're so stuck on carry out.

 

[Software]

Please don't lead people on. You don't seem to like him at all. Why make him think he has a chance, and potentially hurt his feelings when you already know you're not with it?

This. She know she likes the attention.

 

[AceMan]

OP is the 5/6 that thinks she’s a 9/10

Pay attention, inexperienced brehs. Dude was trying wayyyy too hard anyway. That errand actually saved himself future headache.

 

[Abraxus]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

Well...you kinda sorta answered your own question there. If you can't see yourself naked with him and you guys humping....

wasting time. Unless you just want to hang out but sometimes that leads to a pity fukk....or for us as men....a grudge fukk



But dude may be a supreme box eater, you'll never know. Cause you didn't explore his depth.

 

[Abraxus]

...i wouldn't say you were being a b***h at all. i'll say this to you like i would say this to my little sister...son asked you out, then had you pay for your own food. unbeknownst to him, he friend zoned himself with that s**t.

on all of my dates, i stayed my true self but i always stayed tried to put myself in the best light possible when selling myself. my paying for food or drinks wasn't an ego trip, or me trying to prove a point or anything other than it being my way of saying "thank you luv for spending this time with ya boy--you could have been anywhere in the world, but you are here with me."

90 percent of the time for us, the endgame is clapping them cheeks, so the least we can do when we ask y'all out is pay. by paying we're literally saying thanks for listening to our sales pitch.

Gentleman shyt will always get you good points. You on your grown man shyt breh

 

[Abraxus]

You lost him in the text. He seemed enthusiastic and into you but when you basically said it would be "boring" to just sit with him you lost him which his probably why he was late, disinterested and didn't want to pay.

You shot yourself in the foot before the date even started.

People are saying he wasn't interested. That's not the case. You lost his interest with the language you used and also made it seem like you were just looking to be entertained.

Go back and read your texts as if you were him; a guy interested in a woman.

Men are VERY sensitive. You gotta watch your language. Sometimes less is more.

Preach that shyt! I went out with a 'meal grabber' a few years ago. She showed up looking like a 5 and was a 9 from her pics. I'm in a suit cause I said i'm hitting up some grown folk spots later. She picked the dinner place. Very expensive. Think I spent almost $200 that night. What she didn't know was I had been there previously years ago. So i'm like hell yeah, lets eat. Fams, this had to be the most shallow mf I ever met. As she ordered I was smiling lol, hell I even ordered some food to go too. Afterwards she was like oh thx for the meal, you're very nice.

LMAO I was like hey, anytime you want to go out let me know. LOL She called me and texted my ass for 2 months trying to get another dinner like that but I was like bottom line, IDGAF about spending money on no food but be real about what you want. Hell, I just may want some company that day and yo ugly ass got lucky to sit and break bread. With me

 

[dontreadthis]

...i wouldn't say you were being a b***h at all. i'll say this to you like i would say this to my little sister...son asked you out, then had you pay for your own food. unbeknownst to him, he friend zoned himself with that s**t.

on all of my dates, i stayed my true self but i always stayed tried to put myself in the best light possible when selling myself. my paying for food or drinks wasn't an ego trip, or me trying to prove a point or anything other than it being my way of saying "thank you luv for spending this time with ya boy--you could have been anywhere in the world, but you are here with me."

90 percent of the time for us, the endgame is clapping them cheeks, so the least we can do when we ask y'all out is pay. by paying we're literally saying thanks for listening to our sales pitch.

oh because she was really heads over heels for him before the "date"

Preach that shyt! I went out with a 'meal grabber' a few years ago. She showed up looking like a 5 and was a 9 from her pics. I'm in a suit cause I said i'm hitting up some grown folk spots later. She picked the dinner place. Very expensive. Think I spent almost $200 that night. What she didn't know was I had been there previously years ago. So i'm like hell yeah, lets eat. Fams, this had to be the most shallow mf I ever met. As she ordered I was smiling lol, hell I even ordered some food to go too. Afterwards she was like oh thx for the meal, you're very nice.

LMAO I was like hey, anytime you want to go out let me know. LOL She called me and texted my ass for 2 months trying to get another dinner like that but I was like bottom line, IDGAF about spending money on no food but be real about what you want. Hell, I just may want some company that day and yo ugly ass got lucky to sit and break bread. With me

y'all nikkas on this here website are DIFFERENT

 

[MajesticLion]

From the text alone I have no idea why either of you even bothered.

 

[Dwolf]

So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):





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Dont even need to read anymore, that triple text tells me everything I need to know.
Go on dates with men you clearly aren't interested in brehettes

 

[ALonelyDad]

whats his #? I would love to go to the Waterfront and eat Chilis with him

 

[Patrick Kane]

Preach that shyt! I went out with a 'meal grabber' a few years ago. She showed up looking like a 5 and was a 9 from her pics. I'm in a suit cause I said i'm hitting up some grown folk spots later. She picked the dinner place. Very expensive. Think I spent almost $200 that night. What she didn't know was I had been there previously years ago. So i'm like hell yeah, lets eat. Fams, this had to be the most shallow mf I ever met. As she ordered I was smiling lol, hell I even ordered some food to go too. Afterwards she was like oh thx for the meal, you're very nice.

LMAO I was like hey, anytime you want to go out let me know. LOL She called me and texted my ass for 2 months trying to get another dinner like that but I was like bottom line, IDGAF about spending money on no food but be real about what you want. Hell, I just may want some company that day and yo ugly ass got lucky to sit and break bread. With me

I was reading that thinking you was gonna walk out on the bill, leaving it with her or have her pay for her food.. but nope, you dropped 200 dollars on a dinner for a bird just so she could “break bread” wit you. you played yourself bruh.

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

You lowkey hurt that nikka's feelings in that text message when you declined his offer I to be outside at night and shyt. That was dude's go to move to get to know you better and see if a vibe exist. Once you came with that whiny ass no, dude decided to take the passive aggressive approach to get back at you which was being late to that half ass date at Chili's he suggested.

I'm almost positive, that weird ass nikka would have put his best foot forward if you went on that date he wanted to do in the text. Once that wasn't happening, his connection to you dissolved. He was never gonna pay for your meal after all of that and was prolly relieved when you brought up going dutch at the end. Only way the dynamic would have changed is if you were all over him or basically showing him that you really into him. That wasn't gonna happen tho since you weren't attractive to buddy so.....

shyt happens for a reason and it didn't seem like ya'll had any chemistry anyway so fukk it.