Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[sanityovar8ted]

Medium ugly

Ijs they ain't got 2 b no pretty nicca as long as they not hideous cuz I don't go after looks cuz beauty is in the eye of the beholder n what might be cute 2 me might not be cute 2 sumbody else. Plus I don't want no nicca I gotta fight for the mirror n shyt. Cuz honestly as long as a nicca can make me laugh and smells good he in lol

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

You lost him in the text. He seemed enthusiastic and into you but when you basically said it would be "boring" to just sit with him you lost him which his probably why he was late, disinterested and didn't want to pay.

You shot yourself in the foot before the date even started.

People are saying he wasn't interested. That's not the case. You lost his interest with the language you used and also made it seem like you were just looking to be entertained.

Go back and read your texts as if you were him; a guy interested in a woman.

Men are VERY sensitive. You gotta watch your language. Sometimes less is more.

...And so shines a good post in a weary forum...

 

[gho3st]

I mean he took you to Chili’s . That’s an L right there

 

[Peter Popoff]

You lost him in the text. He seemed enthusiastic and into you but when you basically said it would be "boring" to just sit with him you lost him which his probably why he was late, disinterested and didn't want to pay.

You shot yourself in the foot before the date even started.

People are saying he wasn't interested. That's not the case. You lost his interest with the language you used and also made it seem like you were just looking to be entertained.

Go back and read your texts as if you were him; a guy interested in a woman.

Men are VERY sensitive. You gotta watch your language. Sometimes less is more.

This. Honestly, subtle clues make me stop responding to a woman and pursue interest elsewhere. Not sensitivity but I just don't want a wack stuck up chick.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

This. Honestly, subtle clues make me stop responding to a woman and pursue interest elsewhere. Not sensitivity but I just don't want a wack stuck up chick.

I know that if I invited someone out just to get to know them and they basically said just talking to me wasn't good enough I wouldn't take them seriously. As a woman I wouldn't talk to them anymore. If I was a man I may try to smash and dash or just ghost them.

@Yinny said she had told him that she had a bad experience in that same Chili's. I think he knew what he was doing and was trying to be poetic in his "diss." Maybe trying to get her in some deja vu cleaver shyt.

When dating it is always important to be able see things from the other person's prospective. I think if both men and women did that we'd have a lot more empathy for one another.

 

[Yinny]

I mean he took you to Chili’s . That’s an L right there

Apparently it’s one of his favorite spots, lol at the Coli where no one thinks women should get their meals free but Chili’s is an L, which is it? I doubt he’s been to anything nicer.

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

I recommend that you should just cut him off...

You said he looks slow, dresses bad & isn't even attractive so yeah you should just leave him alone & find someone better now I assume you're an attractive woman so why would you continue to second guess cutting him off?

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

The entitlement of women in 2019 is straight up disgusting

 

[blues_funk_reggae]

You lost him in the text. He seemed enthusiastic and into you but when you basically said it would be "boring" to just sit with him you lost him which his probably why he was late, disinterested and didn't want to pay.

You shot yourself in the foot before the date even started.

People are saying he wasn't interested. That's not the case. You lost his interest with the language you used and also made it seem like you were just looking to be entertained.

Go back and read your texts as if you were him; a guy interested in a woman.

Men are VERY sensitive. You gotta watch your language. Sometimes less is more.

All excellent points.

"Go back and read your texts as if you were him"

I wish both men and women would do this more often, not just in the dating game but in general.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

@Yinny , you left out the most important bit of informationand since my Coli brehthren didnt ask, I will.

Spoiler

How was his hairline holding up

Spoiler

somebody had tto ask for the follicularly challenged brehs like myself:mjhairline:

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

An @Yinny if you don't mind a little extra advice. Take it or leave it.

Men respond better to soft persuasion than direct criticism. For example, if you wanted his to take you to dinner but he suggested just sitting on the board walk, instead of saying "No I don't wanna do that." I would say "Okay that's great." I would meet with him, give him goo goo eyes and then once an hour passed I would hit him with "Oh babe I love talking with you but I'm starving. Imma head home to eat something before I die". *giggle*

Ain't a man alive would let your sexy ass leave and not buy you some food.

 

[Peter Popoff]

When there's no feelings involved, dating is more complicated than it should be. shyt becomes a playbook rather than organic but chemistry is hard to find.

 

[Peter Popoff]

An @Yinny if you don't mind a little extra advice. Take it or leave it.

Men respond better to soft persuasion than direct criticism. For example, if you wanted his to take you to dinner but he suggested just sitting on the board walk, instead of saying "No I don't wanna do that." I would say "Okay that's great." I would meet with him, give him goo goo eyes and then once an hour passed I would hit him with "Oh babe I love talking with you but I'm starving. Imma head home to eat something before I die". *giggle*

Ain't a man alive would let your sexy ass leave and not buy you some food.

If she was feeling him, something would've worked out. She probably dates ugly dudes with good hearts because the guys she's attracted to are a$$holes or players.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

If she was feeling him, something would've worked out. She probably dates ugly dudes with good hearts because the guys she's attracted to are a$$holes or players.

Idk about all that. I just think she needs a softer touch.

 

[Yinny]

An @Yinny if you don't mind a little extra advice. Take it or leave it.

Men respond better to soft persuasion than direct criticism. For example, if you wanted his to take you to dinner but he suggested just sitting on the board walk, instead of saying "No I don't wanna do that." I would say "Okay that's great." I would meet with him, give him goo goo eyes and then once an hour passed I would hit him with "Oh babe I love talking with you but I'm starving. Imma head home to eat something before I die". *giggle*

Ain't a man alive would let your sexy ass leave and not buy you some food.

Lol, I see you advice and appreciate it. I could stand to be softer, I think he just brings out a less than sweet side of me but it’s finished. I’ll Def use this on my current big interest but we don’t even have to jump through hoops to get food lol he’s greedier than me