Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[Savvir]

 

[Umoja]

Right action, wrong reasoning. If you're working full time, you should expect to pay for the date.

That said, it looks as though he's looking for a side piece.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

Op imma take u out no funny shyt

 

[Umoja]

...i wouldn't say you were being a b***h at all. i'll say this to you like i would say this to my little sister...son asked you out, then had you pay for your own food. unbeknownst to him, he friend zoned himself with that s**t.

on all of my dates, i stayed my true self but i always stayed tried to put myself in the best light possible when selling myself. my paying for food or drinks wasn't an ego trip, or me trying to prove a point or anything other than it being my way of saying "thank you luv for spending this time with ya boy--you could have been anywhere in the world, but you are here with me."

90 percent of the time for us, the endgame is clapping them cheeks, so the least we can do when we ask y'all out is pay. by paying we're literally saying thanks for listening to our sales pitch.

You have no self-respect.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

why even bother after this... you entertaining attention you don't like dude and are not attracted to him. move on

 

[Bryan Danielson]

Send the medium ugly fellas with a good sense of humor my way...preciate it breh

Well I don’t judge guys on their looks. But I can tell you @bmooregorrilaxxx_23 got paper and likes to travel a lot.

Might even fly you out.

My best friend @O.T.I.S. is good guy to chill with a kind heart. He is extremely intelligent.

If you want to crack up like lots of laughs and jokes all night is @twan83. Really GOOD brother always positive

 

[Neuromancer]

Please don't lead people on. You don't seem to like him at all. Why make him think he has a chance, and potentially hurt his feelings when you already know you're not with it?

Because she wants a free meal.

 

[NinoBrown]

So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):




So I passed, and then he hits me up again this Saturday to go out TO DINNER. He picked Chili's in *** at 7, so I'm like okay cool, I'm confirming with him to make sure that still works as I was less than 10 mins away by car.

I get to Chili's at 7:02, he's nowhere in sight - I text him I'm here and then call as it was crowded so I wanted to know where he was (figured he was already there). He calls me back and says he was there earlier but ran an errand and would be back in 15 mins. I order a drink and wait at a table, he strolls in at 7:30.

I told him he should've just said something instead of me having to contact him for his whereabouts for a time HE picked.

Anyway, we order, and I'm noticing that he makes shyt eye contact, literally looking everywhere as he talks like a child.

Finally after finishing our food I pull out my wallet and ask "So how do you want to do this? Are we splitting it?"

He pretty much didn't say anything. Bear in mind my salad was 11.99 and my drink was $9.

So I paid my part and he gets up to walk me to my car, tried to put his hand around my waist and I smacked it away like

Then I told him in the parking lot that he could get a handshake instead of a hug and that wasn't a date because I paid my own way, he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

He wants another chance. Should I let him make it up or am I being a bytch for deading him?

Yeah....you came off disrespectful....."It wasn't a date"....then what was it?

Date a guy you don't even like for free food...

Never change ladies....

 

[O.T.I.S.]

An @Yinny if you don't mind a little extra advice. Take it or leave it.

Men respond better to soft persuasion than direct criticism. For example, if you wanted his to take you to dinner but he suggested just sitting on the board walk, instead of saying "No I don't wanna do that." I would say "Okay that's great." I would meet with him, give him goo goo eyes and then once an hour passed I would hit him with "Oh babe I love talking with you but I'm starving. Imma head home to eat something before I die". *giggle*

Ain't a man alive would let your sexy ass leave and not buy you some food.

Using Jedi mind tricks instead of saying what you mean, huh

 

[Roid Jones]

Is that the same dude who put his thumb in your ass?

 

[ItzRailT]

fukk him date was trash and playing games yeah no time for that fukkery but that's on you if you give a second chance.

 

[ATownD19]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

Are you overweight? Be honest...

 

[Kenny West]

Off the strength of the texts, yes you are bytch.

That said its not bytchy to not escalate with a dude you not feeling. You trash if you keep going with him tho

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Ijs they ain't got 2 b no pretty nicca as long as they not hideous cuz I don't go after looks cuz beauty is in the eye of the beholder n what might be cute 2 me might not be cute 2 sumbody else. Plus I don't want no nicca I gotta fight for the mirror n shyt. Cuz honestly as long as a nicca can make me laugh and smells good he in lol

Am I cute to you ?

Fred

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Using Jedi mind tricks instead of saying what you mean, huh

This is chess not checkers baby bro.