Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

My attraction is funky as in, it grows. I disregard initial thoughts because it’s so rare for a guy to physically just do it for me. And it wasn’t just him not paying, he was late with no notice, he had shyt eye contact, convo we talked sports, a nonprofit he’s starting, other pretty banal but typical topics. He looked so zoned out and I told him as much but he swears he likes me and wants another chance.


The worst part is that I told him about my experience at that same Chili’s a few weeks prior and he deadass asked me five mins later “So have you ever been here?”

Sound like he was nervous and couldn't even pay attention. Some dudes be socially awkward when around women. I got a homeboy like that. He act all shy and be lookin everywhere but at the female when he's around them.

 

[Balla]

I don't know why dudes be acting like paying a woman's bill is some simp shyt. You don't have to take her anywhere expensive. Applebee's is about as cheap as you can get. If all it takes $20 to get rid of a broad I say good riddance.

It’s not simp shyt, it’s the principle and always has been.

Girls want you to pay as an ego boost or because they feel should be compensated for going out with you.

A girl will expect you to pay all the time if you come off that way, and if she doesn’t wanna see you after you didn’t pay, what does that tell you?

 

[Balla]

...and they did......at least i thought, but why wouldn't i feel obligated to pay if i asked them out?

Lol why do you feel obligated at all?

Is she obligated to do anything?

Not saying she gotta put out, but is she obligated to give you conversation with a nice attitude?

What is she obligated to do?

I never understood that rule, “you ask them out, you pay”.

How many chicks are really asking the guy out first?

But I thought the man is supposed to have the balls to ask the woman out first?

So if the man is the one who is supposed to ask the woman out first, then that means automatically the man will be the one paying. Hmmmmm interesting.......

 

[Balla]

1. Smashing a dude you don't know for carry out

vs

2. A dude taking you out to get to know you

I think it's pretty obvious which scenario is in the better interest of the woman. I already said it's about going out; not carry out. Idk why you're so stuck on carry out.

I’m not stuck on carry out, I’m just saying what’s in the best interest in the man.

All I will say is this, if y’all go out and y’all feeling each other, there’s nothing wrong with taking it to the next level.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

It’s not simp shyt, it’s the principle and always has been.

Girls want you to pay as an ego boost or because they feel should be compensated for going out with you.

A girl will expect you to pay all the time if you come off that way, and if she doesn’t wanna see you after you didn’t pay, what does that tell you?

If a broad feels like she winning because she got a $20 meal who gives a fukk Tell you what, If you feel so bad like you took a L, go to the steakhouse and send her some pictures

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I’m not stuck on carry out, I’m just saying what’s in the best interest in the man.

All I will say is this, if y’all go out and y’all feeling each other, there’s nothing wrong with taking it to the next level.

It depends on what that man is looking for.

It will never be in the best interest of a woman or man to sleep with someone they don't know unless the only agenda is sex. It's kinda a no brainer. If you want to be successful you have to use some type of intelligence.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Send the medium ugly fellas with a good sense of humor my way...preciate it breh

Here i go.
Hit my PMs

 

[The Phoenix]

Are we gonna start our own AITA (Am I the a$$hole) section like on Reddit?

My verdict, OP is the a$$hole here. Why even fukk with that slow ass nikka in the first place?

 

[Mike Nasty]

Why even fukk with that slow ass nikka in the first place?

Like someone said early on in this thread about water finding it's level. The OP obviously is no dime piece.

 

[iBrowse]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

This sounds like it’s @willstyles @bmooregorrilaxxx_23

 

[iBrowse]

Is that the same dude who put his thumb in your ass?

Aw man

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

This sounds like it’s @willstyles @bmooregorrilaxxx_23

Will is a police officer now

 

[iBrowse]

I actually do sweetheart but thanks for your concern! I have several dates lined up this week. Lmao at @Nicole0416 jealous ass in my thread go raise your seeds bytch.

I was wondering if I was being too harsh to the breh, I don’t feel guilty about brushing him.

 

[iBrowse]

I actually do sweetheart but thanks for your concern! I have several dates lined up this week. Lmao at @Nicole0416 jealous ass in my thread go raise your seeds bytch.

I was wondering if I was being too harsh to the breh, I don’t feel guilty about brushing him.

 

[Honey Bee]

So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):




So I passed, and then he hits me up again this Saturday to go out TO DINNER. He picked Chili's in *** at 7, so I'm like okay cool, I'm confirming with him to make sure that still works as I was less than 10 mins away by car.

I get to Chili's at 7:02, he's nowhere in sight - I text him I'm here and then call as it was crowded so I wanted to know where he was (figured he was already there). He calls me back and says he was there earlier but ran an errand and would be back in 15 mins. I order a drink and wait at a table, he strolls in at 7:30.

I told him he should've just said something instead of me having to contact him for his whereabouts for a time HE picked.

Anyway, we order, and I'm noticing that he makes shyt eye contact, literally looking everywhere as he talks like a child.

Finally after finishing our food I pull out my wallet and ask "So how do you want to do this? Are we splitting it?"

He pretty much didn't say anything. Bear in mind my salad was 11.99 and my drink was $9.

So I paid my part and he gets up to walk me to my car, tried to put his hand around my waist and I smacked it away like

Then I told him in the parking lot that he could get a handshake instead of a hug and that wasn't a date because I paid my own way, he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

He wants another chance. Should I let him make it up or am I being a bytch for deading him?

Give him another chance if YOU feel like it, but if it was me I would ghost his ass. Hell, in fact I would have hung the phone up in his face when he mentioned Chili's. I am sorry but Chilis is a no go for me. Don't feel bad for sticking to your standards when it comes to dating