Last time I thought I had a job (off the books) but I quit 3 weeks later. I tried working for my sister's ex from high school (I don't know why she still has him as a friend. He's a creeper).
He told me that my hair needs to look more European. (I was growing out my perm since my hair was damaged and falling out, so it was kinda "bushy"). He said because I have white in me I need to look like it and lean more towards the white side of me in order to drive business up (I was just a damn secretary nothing major at all). He also told me I need to dress like his niece (she dresses in club wear and hooker clothing). He kept saying I look white (and I got tired of hearing that) and asked why I don't act like it; that it will put more money in my pocket and all of this crap. I felt very uncomfortable because he kept touching me and asking me sexual questions. To this day my sister takes his side. I hated him and I never knew he was like that as I was growing up. Knew him since I was little and I have a feeling he's been watching me the whole time from childhood on up.
Being around him just made me even more hostile and careful of men. I never knew he was that way and I still shake my head!...and he had the nerve to wear African clothing at work.
Now that I have the full fro it's a full on problem for a lot of people. I'm not denying my ancestry but I do enjoy being black -- I relate way more to that than anything. The only men that hate my hair I've noticed are the black men. Is afro hair that damn ugly to the black guys?