Dated a single mother once, I asked her "if she didnt have kids would she still date me"

[Ol’Otis]

She told me we would be good friends

2/3 months later I bounced & never looked back. It hurts to say she saw me as "Mr Nice guy" she would date after she been ran through

Needless to say I had her doing some freaky ish from the pornos

you need to commit that breh

 

[Cladyclad]

I feel ya op. I was talking to this one chick. Jumping through mad hoops for her. She tried to friend zone me, but I kept pressing her ass. It would be times she would always make a excuse no to see me, but now I'm in Savage mode She hit me up all the time

My my how the tables turned

 

[Carlton Banks]

100% truth.

it's because they know they ain't shyt. no moral code. so, when you teat them like what they are they don't feel obligated to act like angels and they bust it open.

EXACTLY. Fact is most women know they ain't shyt. They just pretend that they don't know. So treating them as such, makes them more comfortable to be themselves (hoes) around you.

 

[SchrodingersStrapped!]

I feel ya op. I was talking to this one chick. Jumping through mad hoops for her. She tried to friend zone me, but I kept pressing her ass. It would be times she would always make a excuse no to see me, but now I'm in Savage mode She hit me up all the time

My my how the tables turned

Revenge smash and run breh

 

[ℒℴѵℯJay ELECTUA]

You sharing those kids breh!

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Always said, if you get a sense that her old boyfriends look like the entire Cobra from GI Joe

And you out here looking like Winston Zeddemore

Toss that fish back in the sea. She better make it work with the guys she used to go for. She had her chance. Shoulda been Bustin' ghosts but she chose to bust it open

LMFAOOOOOOOOOO

 

[J.E.T.S]

This thread contains very accurate information.

 

[outordinary]

She told me we would be good friends

2/3 months later I bounced & never looked back. It hurts to say she saw me as "Mr Nice guy" she would date after she been ran through

Needless to say I had her doing some freaky ish from the pornos

Not gonna lie, she had the respect to at least tell you the truth instead of lie to your face. You would have ended up Captain SAH

Only thing I learned, stop being so invested. Girls are like busses, and your boss doesn't mind how late you are. Grand gestures, persistence...bush all that
bullshyt. Say whats on your mind and don't give a fukk. If there are certain things lacking in your interactions, cut the cord. You don't have to be a scumbag, and you don't
have to radically change. Just do whatever it takes so you don't care that damn much. The less you care, the more you can get things done without letting feelings
cloud your judgment. Ladies are gonna say "Thats awful. Brothas ain't shyt." Then you realize, so many of them respond to that shyt, it is their fault

You don't shame the Wolf for eating when you were letting him starve as a pup. He learned by example. Have fun, do you, and don't invest in shyt but yourself. Eventually
a chick will come along that makes you want to change your ways up, but the fact is, most won't, so you win more by being whimsical than you do being all in they shyt.

Its quite a shame, but this is the usual path of the good guy these days. The "pup" stays clean until he realizes that other "wolves" out here eating like gluttons, he gets tempted by them out indulging themselves and unless he finds another "pup",
he ends up giving in to hunger and turning into a wolf himself. You gotta be strong though OP, be strong, she out there looking for you man!

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Why would you even float that out there

That's free ego boost nobody's passing that up

And it screams insecurity as well. The real issue is OP has no idea how to be around females.

The last way you want to look in front of a female is insecure. Keep certain questions to yourself. Like the quoted states, females love an ego boost. Why do you think so many females love Facebook? Kids or no, they can go on there... share some bs memes and have swagless dudes they won't let near their p*ssy comment emojis under their well staged thirst trap pictures. Don't hate them for this. They're just wired for that constant emotional high. Emotional lows are a real down for females. And if they have an ounce of pride, they will evade it the way a heroin addict evades sobriety. If you accept this and build your approach around this, shyt becomes easier.

But there are no cheat codes, per say. It's easy but it's not. Easy on the surface but are their levels? What you think?

And, frankly, if you have to ask a woman a question like that you don't need to be with her period. You were right to let her ride. Wrong to waste so much of each other's time, however.

 

[Aufheben]

looking square aint an issue as long as u are confident, have game and garner respect

u cant be worried about who a chic dated in the past. you have to focus on what you got going on and making that bond btwn y'all stronger. if u do it right u gon end up being her ideal and she gon look on her past nikkas with disgust

u gotta show her what she supposed to like and how she supposed to be treated. you come up with a new "normal" for her. you become the standard. but a lot of nikkas is too insecure to see the game like this or just too dumb to present it like this. relationships is serious shyt. you gotta inculcate your woman with the correct programming

 

[outordinary]

looking square aint an issue as long as u are confident, have game and garner respect

u cant be worried about who a chic dated in the past. you have to focus on what you got going on and making that bond btwn y'all stronger. if u do it right u gon end up being her ideal and she gon look on her past nikkas with disgust

u gotta show her what she supposed to like and how she supposed to be treated. you come up with a new "normal" for her. you become the standard. but a lot of nikkas is too insecure to see the game like this or just too dumb to present it like this. relationships is serious shyt. you gotta inculcate your woman with the correct programming

That is the correct way to

Problem is most people don't want to put in that much effort, its easier to take a good lady and imprint on her an ideal than to take a lady that had the wrong ideals in her mind. It has nothing to do with insecurity.

 

[Diyhai]

yall nyggas hurt
all u can ask for is honesty and she kept it real
u the emotional one if u still liked her should have rolled with it
I rather have respect from a woman over love
most nyggas giving bad advice got hurt and now they scared to feel something its part of the game
If a women took ur ability to care about another thats the biggest L you can take she got u

 

[Diyhai]

I feel ya op. I was talking to this one chick. Jumping through mad hoops for her. She tried to friend zone me, but I kept pressing her ass. It would be times she would always make a excuse no to see me, but now I'm in Savage mode She hit me up all the time

My my how the tables turned

sucka shyt
u mad at her for playing games but u doing the same
childish
I just stay solid never let a chick take me out of my character

 

[Cladyclad]

sucka shyt
u mad at her for playing games but u doing the same
childish
I just stay solid never let a chick take me out of my character

Not one game was played on my part. I just stop talkin to her.

 

[Neil Tyson]

sucka shyt
u mad at her for playing games but u doing the same
childish
I just stay solid never let a chick take me out of my character

I did that same thing. But I wasn't playing a game. Best way to win that game, whatever it is. Is to not play.