Dated a single mother once, I asked her "if she didnt have kids would she still date me"

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:lupe: ive got some tho(ugh)ts on this topic..
But I wanna maximize my daps so I need to position myself on an early page

I'll just save my shyt for tomorrow's thread :troll:
 

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And those same birds who overvalue "swag" end up being the same single mothers nikkaz shyt on everyday in this forum :mjlol:

Yeah but cats need to start being realistic with themselves instead of trying to shyt on others, especially black women because of their short comings .

Nobody is saying you have to Mr.baller of the year or a arrogant a$$hole but have your shyt on point and stay in your lane, women will be there.

I'm a nice guy to the T but I also work out 5 days a week, eat some what healthy, wear clothing that compliments my body, have hobbies that I'm passionate about, and enjoy the company of women talking about a variety of subjects.

I do OK with women
 

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It's not because you are nice, it's because you are swagless.
I don't have major problems with women its just I have bad luck with two including an ex fiancé. It aint always about having swag. With how thirsty niqqas are nowadays...u got fat, obese, basic, ill built, average, and below average women being gassed up on social media. Dudes always wanna fuk and if a woman who is a 3-6 being hit up by a dude who is considered a 8-10....of course that's gonna boost her ego and make her feel cocky. Then its the 80-20 rule where most women want the top 20 percent. I heard women who are obese, have sloppy bodies want a built niqqa...and that's fine...but its the fact that they feel entitled.

Niqqas always think its about swag....that's not always the case. Yes u need to wear clothes that's stylish and fitting to ur body and becoming, yes we need to keep our hygiene on point, fresh haircuts and shape ups, work out to not be overweight or obese, that's true and I do that myself...but being nice...most black women don't value that. I cant speak on white women or other non black women...being nice is seen as a weakness almost or it makes people see u as a target. Women like men with that edge, that rough appeal, that bad boy style, etc. I don't think u fully get it.
 

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I don't have major problems with women its just I have bad luck with two including an ex fiancé. It aint always about having swag. With how thirsty niqqas are nowadays...u got fat, obese, basic, ill built, average, and below average women being gassed up on social media. Dudes always wanna fuk and if a woman who is a 3-6 being hit up by a dude who is considered a 8-10....of course that's gonna boost her ego and make her feel cocky. Then its the 80-20 rule where most women want the top 20 percent. I heard women who are obese, have sloppy bodies want a built niqqa...and that's fine...but its the fact that they feel entitled.

Niqqas always think its about swag....that's not always the case. Yes u need to wear clothes that's stylish and fitting to ur body and becoming, yes we need to keep our hygiene on point, fresh haircuts and shape ups, work out to not be overweight or obese, that's true and I do that myself...but being nice...most black women don't value that. I cant speak on white women or other non black women...being nice is seen as a weakness almost or it makes people see u as a target. Women like men with that edge, that rough appeal, that bad boy style, etc. I don't think u fully get it.

Swag encompasses more than how you look, how you dress, and you know this. You talking about women being entitled but upset that women you see beneath you not wanting you and having the option to be with men of higher quality than you.

That's fukking entitlement. From this post alone I can pick up that you are a absolute bore to the women you desire to be with which has absolutely nothing to do with being "nice". Until you work on your personality, stay in your lane.
 

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Dating a single mother will always be a lose-lose situation. She knows you're settling, you know you're settling, and everyone that knows y'all knows YOU'RE settling. Just ask yourself, would you prefer if she didn't have kids? And don't say "it don't matter to me :yeshrug:" Cuz you'd be lying. Kids and baby daddy's get in the way, no matter what.
 

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Dating a single mother will always be a lose-lose situation. She knows you're settling, you know you're settling, and everyone that knows y'all knows YOU'RE settling. Just ask yourself, would you prefer if she didn't have kids? And don't say "it don't matter to me :yeshrug:" Cuz you'd be lying. Kids and baby daddy's get in the way, no matter what.
I would prefer a woman with no kids because I want some of my own as well. But I would date a woman with a kid as long as there is no baby dad drama and she was in relationship with dude who she had kids with. If she had multiple kids with different fathers...I would wonder why the relationship last and why she let those dudes pipe her raw and not even be with them long term. I have a old friend who married a woman with three kids all different fathers...very beautiful woman but she gets no child support and my old friend struggling trying to support that ready made family. Also he wants to have a child of his own but she had procedure to tie her tubes and they had to put on social media that they need thousands of $$ to get the procedure to untie them. I think they did it but she still haven't got pregnant. I know from reliable sources that she doesn't want any more children.

Seems like he think he got a huge W but doesn't realize he got some Ls in there somewhere. I think its best if you have multiple children to date others with kid(s) because if u don't want any more...it would work much better. Plus yall would have something in common.
 
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