Dating At 53

[MaccabeanRebel]

At 53 the options are only women in their 40s

I'm seeing so many women pop up with buzzer beater babies in their late 30s. The baby dads been old ass brehs. And they be old ass cooked brehs...this brotha in shape. He can pull women mid/late 30s easily. The cheat code is taking care of yourself

 

[GreenGhxst]

Single at 53 sounds like a nightmare

That trick life would be calling mane

 

[Babymama Magnet]

At least he’s realistic! Nothing wrong with what he said. But someone 10+ years younger will def want to be provided for

If a woman is in her late 30s early 40s and is already established (well should be) career wise and financially why would they still wanted to be provided for??

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

He is anomaly tbh
I was referring to the average 53 year old man

But your right
Gym life is cheat code

I'm seeing so many women pop up with buzzer beater babies in their late 30s. The baby dads been old ass brehs. And they be old ass cooked brehs...this brotha in shape. He can pull women mid/late 30s easily. The cheat code is taking care of yourself

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

Even a 50 year old woman will see him as her retirement plan.

At his age he should be focused on getting ready for retirement, making sure his house is paid off and making sure he has good health care.

 

[Phitz]

People dont look their age anymore these days and you can't really apply a one size fits all rule anymore.

Who am I to give advice to a 53 year old man who has had more experience than me.

I've seen mature 25 year olds and immature 50 year old women. After 30, it's not like you can go pick somebody off a tree like an apple, hell you cant even go outside to pick an apple off a tree anymore. It's likely women of ANY age will be looking at his pockets, that thing is not limited to age.

Also personalities have to click.

Im noticing when you're older than 30 as man in this environment it's easy to get sex and much harder to get a meaningful connection. Everything seems disposable.

 

[Forsaken]

Guy sounds like one of them old single ladies. he wants to date women 13 yrs younger than him and complaining because they want his resources.

When have women not focused on what a man can do for them?

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

If a woman is in her late 30s early 40s and is already established (well should be) career wise and financially why would they still wanted to be provided for??

You'd be surprised. I've talked to women making good money who are in the anti-50/50 gang. That's what he was referring to the expectations what he can do for them. It's a really fycked mindset (individualism) going in today's society.

 

[Piff Perkins]

im assuming he has a little bread

everything else you said is hella wrong...
especially for black men.

if youre semi normal, have some money and in shape the dating market is wide open for you

that man in Chicago would be pulling fine ass women 35+

This simply isn't true overall according to every piece of data we have about women's dating preferences and habits. You can point to an outlier example of a few guys but the vast majority of 53 year old men in this country cannot bag a significantly younger woman if they aren't rich; I'm not talking about "works at the Ford plant and has health benefits" stability, I'm talking about RICH. There's this weird idea that age doesn't matter for men, that we're gonna be on top of the mountain forever and can do whatever we want (whereas women must be married before 30). It's not true. If you are 53 you're going to lose every time in a competition with a 35-40 year old man who has as much stability, is younger, and could start a family. Women aren't thinking of 53 year old men as potential partners or fathers to children. And if it's about money they can find someone younger/more attractive with money.

 

[V Skyye]

If a woman is in her late 30s early 40s and is already established (well should be) career wise and financially why would they still wanted to be provided for??

Men providing for women is not always a ‘need’ for the woman, but it’s more than often the trade off for dating a man no longer in his prime.

Even a 50 year old woman will see him as her retirement plan.

At his age he should be focused on getting ready for retirement, making sure his house is paid off and making sure he has good health care.

I tell men and women to lock somebody down by late 30s. Because who really wants a 50 year old for who they are? Who is a 50 year old? Set in their ways, planning for retirement, don’t look as good or move as quick as they used to. The only person that appreciates that is the person already with you or a person at a similar stage of life.

 

[Phitz]

Because a woman in her 50s is set in her ways
Got a bad attitude she ain’t trying to change for no one
Probably divorced/widowed, so she not really looking for a life long commitment or another marriage
She just wants a companion at this point
The age range he wants is old enough to have been through some shyt but young enough to (hopefully) have healed and still mobile in the sense of doing activities outside
Older women(men too) ain’t trying to rip and run in these streets
They are either traveling, doing home projects, hanging with friends at card nights
So 37-42 is a sweet spot before everybody becomes completely jaded with life and love

right, and too many men in their 50s say women their same age dont have the same sex drive as them.

If you're in shape man at 53, I think 33-55 is a big range to snag something somewhat compatible. As you said 37-42 is a sweet spot.

Furthermore I'm not gonna judge, because one day I hope to reach 53. When I was 25 I wasnt thinking how 30 is around the corner, and so on.

One day we all gonna be old, or hope to be

 

[GreenGhxst]

If a woman is in her late 30s early 40s and is already established (well should be) career wise and financially why would they still wanted to be provided for??

Cause he has a shorter shelf life

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

This simply isn't true overall according to every piece of data we have about women's dating preferences and habits. You can point to an outlier example of a few guys but the vast majority of 53 year old men in this country cannot bag a significantly younger woman if they aren't rich; I'm not talking about "works at the Ford plant and has health benefits" stability, I'm talking about RICH. There's this weird idea that age doesn't matter for men, that we're gonna be on top of the mountain forever and can do whatever we want (whereas women must be married before 30). It's not true. If you are 53 you're going to lose every time in a competition with a 35-40 year old man who has as much stability, is younger, and could start a family. Women aren't thinking of 53 year old men as potential partners or fathers to children. And if it's about money they can find someone younger/more attractive with money.

I blame the redpill YouTubers who tell men to wait at 40 to find their wives

Its a smart way of them getting rid of the male competition lol
So they can have all the young women to themselves

 

[Diyhai]

This simply isn't true overall according to every piece of data we have about women's dating preferences and habits. You can point to an outlier example of a few guys but the vast majority of 53 year old men in this country cannot bag a significantly younger woman if they aren't rich; I'm not talking about "works at the Ford plant and has health benefits" stability, I'm talking about RICH. There's this weird idea that age doesn't matter for men, that we're gonna be on top of the mountain forever and can do whatever we want (whereas women must be married before 30). It's not true. If you are 53 you're going to lose every time in a competition with a 35-40 year old man who has as much stability, is younger, and could start a family. Women aren't thinking of 53 year old men as potential partners or fathers to children. And if it's about money they can find someone younger/more attractive with money.

I don't think a man would have a problem with women in the 35-45 range at all
but the 50 is the fall of point for men "the male wall"
those 35-40 yr old men will want younger woman most of the time
but most of the better woman are already locked down at that point
so you are catching divorced women with some type of emotional baggage
why would a quality woman be single at 35

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

If a woman is in her late 30s early 40s and is already established (well should be) career wise and financially why would they still wanted to be provided for??

Because she'd rather spend his money than her own.