Dating Coach says Black Men be BSing

[Hagendas]

why do women LOOK for serious behavior on dating apps?

Yh like tinder was made to be a hook up app women then changed it to be some serious dating thing

I mean if they want serious they could go to match or hinge but I guess they gotta put some effort in over there and that ain’t what they used to.

 

[coldcall]

I hate when black people put whites on a pedalstal like divestors do BUT I'm not going to dismiss her entire experience. Too many brehs think doing the bare minimum is a flex and everything else is simping. I've always felt that pushing for a date is the easiest way to stand out and jump ahead of the line since a lot of bw apparently aren't getting asked on dates.

I know money is tight for some of us but dating as an adult cost money.

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Asking to take her on an actual date doesn't just work online, it works wonders in person too when you ask her to go to a specific place and not just hang out or link.

 

[GreenGhxst]

I dont get how she thinks she can ride that wave when she sounds country Black, and not the white woman vocalfry Black

real talk, didn't even think about that

 

[BaggerofTea]

ALOT of Black Women are starting to get more bold that they prefer White Men

you seem giddy at the thought

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I hate when black people put whites on a pedalstal like divestors do BUT I'm not going to dismiss her entire experience. Too many brehs think doing the bare minimum is a flex and everything else is simping. I've always felt that pushing for a date is the easiest way to stand out and jump ahead of the line since a lot of bw apparently aren't getting asked on dates.

has it ever ponder to you why a lot of them don’t get asked on dates?

 

[Jazzy B.]

So how should ppl approach these apps?

You need to be getting the woman's number or setting up a date or meet up with a confirmed place and time within the first 6-8 messages on a FREE APP.

All that "getting to know her" stuff can take place IN PERSON OR on a brief call/facetime.

Anything outside of this you're being used as a validation boost/free attention/woman has no intention of meeting up.

 

[BeeCityRoller]

Women don't want to hear this but Online Dating is the laziest method of finding a long term partner. You go there because you do not do the work to meet these men at the Chamber of Commerce and Charity Events. You go there because your socioeconomic status does not put you in the same areas as these men and you're trying to cheat the game.

I'm not trying to hear about a black woman coached by a Onlyfans "sugar baby" going on a date with a white 47-year old doctor to Ruth Chris. You are not going to catch 80% of men doing even halfway decent online. We are not competing for swipes with some loser posted in front of a Challenger with his middle fingers up. Like that "Doctor" doesn't have kids and an Ex-Wife already, like he doesn't have flaws - that you will overlook just like other men you've dealt with in the past and got burned.

Come January 2025 I want to hear about this woman being married to said doctor. Otherwise, it means nothing, just like 99% of interactions on these sites.

 

[Mindfield333]

You need to be getting the woman's number or setting up a date or meet up with a confirmed place and time within the first 6-8 messages on a FREE APP.

All that "getting to know her" stuff can take place IN PERSON OR on a brief call/facetime.

Anything outside of this you're being used as a validation boost/free attention/woman has no intention of meeting up.

Tbh when I was on apps I probably spent way too much time getting to know them before setting shyt up. Probably seemed I was BSing. Things moved faster in person. shyt even on social media

 

[Mindfield333]

You can tell that she is lying.I find it funny how they work overtime to generalize black men. But other races of men can be treated like gods for simply talking to a sister.

I actually believe that most tiktok stories are caps.

Also it can be true be them dudes could be occupied at the moment and can’t fully reply. I don’t entertain new ppl unless I can give my full attention or it’ll come off as uninterested

 

[coldcall]

has it ever ponder to you why a lot of them don’t get asked on dates?

I'm sure you have an opinion but what does it matter? The fact is they want to be asked on dates like any other woman.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I'm sure you have an opinion but what does it matter? The fact is they want to be asked on dates like any other woman.

we all have wants in life, but many aren’t willing to put in the work to achieve it.

let’s also omit the phrase “other women”. There are BW who are courted romantically, who are given dinners, and who feel appreciation from a potential partner.

they exist

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I'm sure you have an opinion but what does it matter?

Well, not just my opinion — my homeboys, male classmates, my neighbors, the barbers at my barbershop, that one BM I bumped into at Publix, the other BM I chopped it up about sneakers..

they all have legitimate opinions and concerns, but just like you said.. they don’t matter.

and we are where we are because of it

 

[HARLEM AL]

has it ever ponder to you why a lot of them don’t get asked on dates?

They know the answer to that. They are playing stupid.

 

[Bigblackted4]

First two guys just weren’t that interested in my opinion, also a lot of dudes don’t have conversation or intention when talking to a woman which is why they are bad with women.

 

[Mindfield333]

Why some black people make dating cacs out to be this wholesome experience is beyond me, a big contingent of posters do this here as well.

The way they talk about them you would think they were gods gift to black people.

They are marketed too well. But they are poisoning and destroying the earth
I don’t get it.