Dating red flags/tips you learned over the years
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Damn, sounds like you ran into a lot of duds.... Unfortunate
El negrito de tejas
Fukk the govt I got my own Deficit
-Suggesting expensive restaurants on the first few dates
-quick to mention getting into a relationship
-asking me too quickly what's my thoughts on kids and marriage
- mentioning how long it's been since they had sex after sleeping with me(stop lying to justify sleeping with me on the first night)
-hygiene issues
-dirty apartment/house
-no desire to cook
-smokes blunts regularly
- wants to hangout everyday
-lack of diversity in food
-wants to post every thing she does on social media
-no desire to workout
-willingness to not try new things
-quick to mention getting into a relationship
-asking me too quickly what's my thoughts on kids and marriage
- mentioning how long it's been since they had sex after sleeping with me(stop lying to justify sleeping with me on the first night)
-hygiene issues
-dirty apartment/house
-no desire to cook
-smokes blunts regularly
- wants to hangout everyday
-lack of diversity in food
-wants to post every thing she does on social media
-no desire to workout
-willingness to not try new things
Bless't
Living the dream
Has @Nicole0416 commented in here? Curious about her red flags.
Most of these lists have a YMMV premise to them but much of them are very spot on.
Most of these lists have a YMMV premise to them but much of them are very spot on.
No worries babe!Damn, sounds like you ran into a lot of duds.... Unfortunate
Ain't shyt people are everywhere.
Chicks gotta be mentally balanced as fukk to dodge the sheer amount of bullshyt that comes her way trying to smash and dash from the time she even starts showing the slightest figure and unfortunately sometimes before that.
For what it's worth, my recognizing bullshyt keeps me from not falling for it, being able to
when them "just the tip" nikkas come thru, and juke move around the nonsense without getting caught up and becoming bitter. I love men to death...but I don't put up with their idiocy.Dodging dummies like IP man in these streets.
I've heard a lot of foolishness from dudes throughout the years and you don't have to be nasty with em in letting them know u not buying it.
When they start that bro-babble and trying to run game, just ever so kindly let em know what's up.
Wanna fukk raw?
Can't answer questions straightforwardly?
Won't take the time to know you but always worried about fukking?
Trying to run game?
Trying to emotionally manipulate you by threatening to leave or telling u ur gonna be alone?
Hypocrite with a bunch of double standards?
Think women are less than human or like children?
Women who learn to say no to a 99% of the bullshyt dudes try on them end up the happiest.
Ooooh I forgot one.
If dude is a chatty patty.
Knew a dude who told everything in his relationship to his homeboys and his baby mama and his mother and sisters.
A bunch of people in ur business and literally fukk it up.
Also if he guards his cell phone and social media like a bulldog with a bone.
If dude is a chatty patty.
Knew a dude who told everything in his relationship to his homeboys and his baby mama and his mother and sisters.
A bunch of people in ur business and literally fukk it up.
Also if he guards his cell phone and social media like a bulldog with a bone.
No I don't think that I've commented in here yet but I did on the friendship thread because I believe in order to date someone, you have to establish the basis for a friendship.
https://www.thecoli.com/threads/red-flags-for-people-u-call-“friends”.723884/page-2#post-34462013
Red flags on dating from my experience... (let me think about that and I'll respond to you in a few).
See, I completely disagree with this. I know a lot of men say this, but I think it's best to get the question out of the way because you all might not have the same goals or aspirations in life. I don't think most ask to see if you want to have kids or get married to them, but if that's something that you see happening in the future. It's just as appropriate a question as asking career goals. Men have asked me this first date before and I don't think it's a red flag, but I guess we all see things differently...
The. FUKKIN. worst!!! OMG. I absolutely cannot stand a dude that's always up in the mix of action or stays talking about everyone's business. An opinion one thing, that's fine, but I'm talking the chattery for flattery types. That is so cringe - moist, effeminate characteristics. Nothing makes me madder (or is more mad? lol) than a man who talks too much about nothing and everybody; or talks too much about the wrong type of things. I like the strong, silent type - you know, the men whose whole aura and presence is known before he says a word. But when he does speak - doesn't have to say much to get his point across.Ooooh I forgot one.
If dude is a chatty patty.
Knew a dude who told everything in his relationship to his homeboys and his baby mama and his mother and sisters.
A bunch of people in ur business and literally fukk it up.
Also if he guards his cell phone and social media like a bulldog with a bone.
I dated n used a bytch that always complained.... "you dont love me enough...u dont do this"
Always ran to face book to thru subttle shots n posts memes like "a real does blah blah"
Always ran to face book to thru subttle shots n posts memes like "a real does blah blah"
Gurrrl.
It's SERIOUSLY the worst b/c u don't expect it from dudes. Society tells us chicks are the talkers, and we believe that shyt only to find low and behold a nikka that can't hold water.
Right. It's never an issue to let people know where u are in life and ur intentions. That doesn't mean you won't continue to enjoy each other's company in the future but u it allows u to move accordingly knowing where u stand.
I blame masculinity being eliminated from modern culture....No worries babe!
Ain't shyt people are everywhere.
Chicks gotta be mentally balanced as fukk to dodge the sheer amount of bullshyt that comes her way trying to smash and dash from the time she even starts showing the slightest figure and unfortunately sometimes before that.
For what it's worth, my recognizing bullshyt keeps me from not falling for it, being able to
Dodging dummies like IP man in these streets.
I've heard a lot of foolishness from dudes throughout the years and you don't have to be nasty with em in letting them know u not buying it.
When they start that bro-babble and trying to run game, just ever so kindly let em know what's up.
Wanna fukk raw?
Can't answer questions straightforwardly?
Won't take the time to know you but always worried about fukking?
Trying to run game?
Trying to emotionally manipulate you by threatening to leave or telling u ur gonna be alone?
Hypocrite with a bunch of double standards?
Think women are less than human or like children?
Women who learn to say no to a 99% of the bullshyt dudes try on them end up the happiest.
But you keep mentioning thing like "fukk raw"... at the same time you dont like someone politically conservative...
You know if you dated someone who is conservative, you might eliminate some of that aint shyt behavior, right, darlin'?
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Nah. Men been like this since the beginning of time. I give men hell but I recognize a lot of the silly shyt that comes out of their mouths comes from them being biologically pressed to reproduce.
I think societies are currently crumbling due to the reckoning from men having been able to run amok for CENTURIES.
All the "boys will be boys" bullshyt, messing over chicks in their youth but feeling entitled to a good woman who will wait hand and foot on ya, while u cheat and go start another family across town, but get back in the kitchen shyt is gone.
Now people who were dependent on that old paradigm don't know what the hell to do. Because the social safety nets are gone. You actually have to be a genuine person and cant feel entitled anymore. And dudes are literally shooting people over entitlement.
Women are smirking arrogantly, but that shyt works both ways b/c a lot of women aren't used to operating outside of victimization and learned helplessness. It's an adjustment for them too...and many don't know what the hell they want in the face of all these new options available to this generation that previous generations of women couldn't even fathom. Women's rights never had anything to do with trying to act like excessive promiscuity and a lack of integrity equals "EMPOWERMENT!" bytch please. Meanwhile all these "empowered" chicks STILL can't find the will to tell a dude "nah" and keep gettin finessed by random dikk who could care less about whether they are breathing beyond the nut they leave in em.
We go from one extreme to the next until equilibrium is found.
In my heart of hearts, I think men and women can benefit from this social reset and find people they love not out of economic necessity but out of true and real enduring love and respect. But people are REALLY stupid and REALLY stubborn, so u see men doubling down on their woman-hate idiocy and women acting fukking nuts.
But as I said b4. We are watching evolution in the making. If men and women can't be sensible and learn to come together successfully, we will be going extinct. And we deserve it if something as simple as mastering mutual respect for one another is that much of a challenge.