Deep down does any man really wanna be in a relationship?

[DaChampIsHere]

I don't. Not right now at least. I'm still growing and I'm not in the right environment for that, so I'm chilling back on the commitments until I am ready.

I would one day like to have a family and wife to come home to as my father has done, but I'm taking my time. My dad and mom met in college together, I don't think that will happen for me as I would like to settle down professionally before jumping into a relationship.

I'm having fun right now though so whatever... I'm not getting into a relationship no matter how good a girl is right now though

Men around my age only care about partying and sex.

Ya damn right

 

[Rich Spirit]

It seem like most guys say they want to be in a relationship but don't want to deal with the things it takes for one to work.

One of the main reasons why I remain single.

edit: and on top of that, the only guys that seem to want to be in a committed relationship tend to be in their late 20s early 30s.

Men around my age only care about partying and sex.

same thing goes for guys in their late 20s and up. It just all depends who you meet. We're all different.

 

[rapdonttweet]

so option one thirty dime pieces you can maintain in a rotation for the rest of your life guaranteed. they all know about each other and are cool with each other. they all give it up whenever you want and also are willing for threesomes or even moresomes. you don't ever have to commit to any of them and they'll all be cool with it. if any of them leave the rotation they're instantly replaced with another dime.

option two a relationship with one woman only that leads to marriage

you gonna chose option two huh?

See I'm the type of guy who wants a loyal chick. A relationship is a situation where both of you only fukk each other. She wants the relationship so I'm not off fukking other chicks, and I want the relationship so she's not off fukking other dudes. Its beneficial for both parties.

 

[rapdonttweet]

i've been pressured into relationships my whole life. i just woke up and realized that i never wanted to be in them just conceded to be in them for the safety and convince they were supposed to provide.

in the beginning they all started off great but they eventually turned into wounds that never healed and got infected. as the expectations, commitments, compromises, and obligations began to pile up they all became coffins of inconvenience where the negatives outweighed the positives.

we're out here playing a game with women where most of the group's endgame is being a stay at home mom that spends your money on useless bullshyt you don't care about or want. is that your endgame as a man?

I can't relate to this at all. Never dated a woman who's goal in life is to be a housewife. Half of them had better jobs than I did, all of them were doing stuff with their lives. Maybe you were with the wrong females.

so new p*ssy gets old?

meanwhile you're saying what amounts to eating the same meal every day for the rest of your life doesn't?

we're men, we have a biological desire to sow our wild oats and that's it. women are the ones with the biological desire to nest.

You have a biological desire to sow your oats...in your 20s. It starts dying down after that from what I hear. In your fantasy life you're gonna be in your 40s with 30 chicks you can't get it up for.

 

[MrFantastic]

It gets to a point in life where chasing after puzzy gets old.

I'm starting to think that conceding a relationship to a woman is just something most men do to appease them.

it likely goes like this:
1. guy meets girl
2. guy pursues girl for sex
3. girl gives up sex to guy
4. guy and girl are in grey area where they're basically fukk

One day you gonna meet a girl who gonna be cool with just 1-4... Six months go by you gonna check to see where her head at...she gonna be cool.. Like straight on where yall at.. A year go by.. She still cool.. She only fukking you.. She not pressed.. She doing her and you doing you... You gonna noticed that you have ran thru chicks but this one chick is STILL HERE.. You gonna break down and be like "umm Whats up!" and she gonna be like" nah im cool.. You said we was only fukking.. So I played my part.. I like where at.. I like you but your not bf material"


And thats when the game not going to be the same anymore...

 

[Egomaniacal1]

I dunno. There are some chicks you just don't wanna see with another man. That's the only reason I'd put the cuffs on a chick. Cause I want them in my life.

Real shyt right here.

As a man its easier for us to walk away from or shy away altogether from a relationship/marriage because most women go all out for a man when they in one, therefore they aren't all that special in general from one to the next as far as being loved is concerned. However its the small things with women that set them apart so when u find one who is worth it TO YOU, makes it hard for you to deny her in comparison to what else is out there and that you have come across.

Btw had an almost similar talk at work tonight, shyt was straight out of a Coli thread. Had two female workers, one blk one white both kinda older(in 40's), the blk chick is cool...a real straight shooter in my eyes. She asked is anybody ever happily married. I lol'd at first and told her sure some ppl are...she asked who i knew personally that was happily married...i was like ....said some ppl out there are happily married i believe even if they are in a low percentage and i personally believe in marriage even if i don't want to get married. She looked at me funny and asked why not...told her i don't believe in WOMEN!

She lol'd and tried to act like i must a really been hurt to be that way....i was like naw it's like this, finding a chick(or a man for that matter to go from her perspective) perfectly compatible enough to commit the whole rest of your life to is akin to the ole needle in a haystack saying. Most ppl settle to some degree but lets assume you find your needle, at the end of the day her story(as i point to co-worker #2, let's call her Becky) is the perfect example of ppl who have free will to do whatever they want doing stupid shyt and thats why i can't do it. We both while Becky is ....she says why u say that?!?! I'm not that terrible!! I hit her with

The cliffnotes version to Becky's backstory is she was married for 20 years to her hubby until last summer she started fukking this other guy from work. I think ole boy did something to her brain(altho she likes to blame it on the Cancer she had at the time) when he put it down on her because since then she has become the biggest whore i know. I suspect its always been in her but that her hubby was actually helping to subdue her whore urges throughout the marriage...basically he turned a hoe into a housewife but it actually worked for 20 years cuz she bought into being married because he gave her everything she needed in the marriage. After i saw this shyt with my own eyes i was like ain't no way i'm EVER getting married.

 

[kermit da hustla]

See I'm the type of guy who wants a loyal chick. A relationship is a situation where both of you only fukk each other. She wants the relationship so I'm not off fukking other chicks, and I want the relationship so she's not off fukking other dudes. Its beneficial for both parties.

sounds corny and boring. no, thanks. i really don't understand simp ass nikkas like you. but, i won't even try. do you.

 

[avon barksdale]

yeah after fuccing so many women you get tired of that stuff....now i want a chick to hold a nicca down

 

[Kenny West]

what kind of possessive mentality compels you to marry a woman so that she won't be with another man? that's warped. at the end of the day, all females are being shared, and there's nothing you can -- including being their husband -- that prevents that from happening. that's what so many simp ass nikkas don't understand. there is absolutely NOTHING, short of locking the bytch in a basement and never letting her see the light of day, that you can do to stop your girl from being shared with another nikka. it's in our nature! monogamy is not a naturally occurring dynamic on a sexual level. i will never ever believe that "being" with only one woman until death do us part is what life's about. fukk that.

I see your point, but here's how I look at it.

Say you're a coach and a woman with marriage potential is a star QB. When you drafted her you probably did so with a low salary, maybe in the thousands. After a few successful season you know what to expect from her. As good as a QB can be, it's not like one is going to develop the ability to fly or anything like that. Furthermore you already got use out of the QB and you could replace that QB with a younger fresher prospect who could be better or worse.

In a sense, resigning your Peyton Manning caliber player for hundreds of millions damages the fukk out of your salary cap and by doing it, it's not like your paying for something new.

So why do you re-sign/marry? It has absolutely no practical benefit.

Because you believe that person is worth it. They're special. No player making Tom Brady money is doing so without being used already and thoroughly tested. Most of all those type of players change franchises as do those type of women change men. That 90 million didn't buy the Patriots a new Tom Brady, but it was to keep him and keep him happy. Same with women. There are some women who have just the right traits that makes you say "damn, I'd sacrifice to keep her" just as a franchise looks over a star's stats and say "fukk the salary cap, we're gonna keep him"

Does making that leap guarantee the player is going to continue to perform that well? No. Does it guarantee that the player won't get jaded and end up breaking off their contract to go to another team? No. But what it does show is that you're giving back, because chances are if they making Brady money they earned it. It's a message of "I want you here, be the face of this franchise". If she wasn't important you could let them walk. Assuming you're not a simp, marriage should reward her loyalty. Call me possessive but I'll cuff because I like her enough that I want her to be part of my family.

Like NFL players, women have a clock that's winding down. Their value is perishable. Time is their biggest investment to lose in a relationship. As much shyt we talk on women on this board you can't forget that these bytches don't stay 22 forever. Every fukked relationship lowers the chances of them finding the relationship they dream of, especially when kids can detriment their figure. We risk money and pride but that can be recouped. They risk time, by far their most prescious asset sans p*ssy, and they'll never get it back.

 

[rapdonttweet]

sounds corny and boring. no, thanks. i really don't understand simp ass nikkas like you. but, i won't even try. do you.

Simp? I probably spend less getting laid than most of y'all. Never shelled out for a date, its always split at least.

I don't think I'm alone on this. Only been here a few days but already seen hella posts of people crying about getting cheated on. But hey if you like dating sluts, do you.

 

[kermit da hustla]

i don't put on a cape for hos, so i don't care if they're sluts, to be honest.

 

[Schwarzkopf]

Nah coz i be gettin protective of the p*ssy if its the right girl. On some obsessive shyt

 

[rapdonttweet]

i don't put on a cape for hos, so i don't care if they're sluts, to be honest.

At the very least you should be worried about the stds, if nothing else

 

[winb83]

One day you gonna meet a girl who gonna be cool with just 1-4... Six months go by you gonna check to see where her head at...she gonna be cool.. Like straight on where yall at.. A year go by.. She still cool.. She only fukking you.. She not pressed.. She doing her and you doing you... You gonna noticed that you have ran thru chicks but this one chick is STILL HERE.. You gonna break down and be like "umm Whats up!" and she gonna be like" nah im cool.. You said we was only fukking.. So I played my part.. I like where at.. I like you but your not bf material"


And thats when the game not going to be the same anymore...

I'm not bf material and I'll probably make a shytty husband too. I know this deep down so I'll probably never do another relationship in my life. The very nature of relationships and their requirement to be obligated, committed, compromise, and the expectations they bring are interwoven into their fabric and are problems. One thing I don't wanna have to deal with is other people's problems or other people creating problems for me.

 

[winb83]

Real shyt right here.

As a man its easier for us to walk away from or shy away altogether from a relationship/marriage because most women go all out for a man when they in one, therefore they aren't all that special in general from one to the next as far as being loved is concerned. However its the small things with women that set them apart so when u find one who is worth it TO YOU, makes it hard for you to deny her in comparison to what else is out there and that you have come across.

Btw had an almost similar talk at work tonight, shyt was straight out of a Coli thread. Had two female workers, one blk one white both kinda older(in 40's), the blk chick is cool...a real straight shooter in my eyes. She asked is anybody ever happily married. I lol'd at first and told her sure some ppl are...she asked who i knew personally that was happily married...i was like ....said some ppl out there are happily married i believe even if they are in a low percentage and i personally believe in marriage even if i don't want to get married. She looked at me funny and asked why not...told her i don't believe in WOMEN!

She lol'd and tried to act like i must a really been hurt to be that way....i was like naw it's like this, finding a chick(or a man for that matter to go from her perspective) perfectly compatible enough to commit the whole rest of your life to is akin to the ole needle in a haystack saying. Most ppl settle to some degree but lets assume you find your needle, at the end of the day her story(as i point to co-worker #2, let's call her Becky) is the perfect example of ppl who have free will to do whatever they want doing stupid shyt and thats why i can't do it. We both while Becky is ....she says why u say that?!?! I'm not that terrible!! I hit her with

The cliffnotes version to Becky's backstory is she was married for 20 years to her hubby until last summer she started fukking this other guy from work. I think ole boy did something to her brain(altho she likes to blame it on the Cancer she had at the time) when he put it down on her because since then she has become the biggest whore i know. I suspect its always been in her but that her hubby was actually helping to subdue her whore urges throughout the marriage...basically he turned a hoe into a housewife but it actually worked for 20 years cuz she bought into being married because he gave her everything she needed in the marriage. After i saw this shyt with my own eyes i was like ain't no way i'm EVER getting married.

Marriage isn't about happiness its about convenience and agendas as well as social pressure. The reason marriage inevitably fails for most is because you have two variables enveloped in what's supposed to be a constant. You're not the same exact person mentally that you were 5 years ago you've changed grown and evolved. The same will be true for any wife you choose. People change, grow apart. For marriage to work you and your partner have to be devoted to the institution itself more than the person you're married to. You gotta be committed to making the marriage work because 5-10 years into it bout of you will likely be in a different place mentally than when you began it.