Stuff like car payments and the electric bill she has to pay from her own pocket. She uses that stuff by default, so no CS money going to that.
Why? You genetically made 50% of this kid, whats wrong with your funds going to help pay for the extra miles on a car that goes into taking a child to and from school, doctor, extra curricular? Or at least covering the difference that an extra child makes in power costs?
Because they don't want to talk about it.
It destroys the whole child support-deadbeat narrative that they are trying to ram down our throats
Ask these women. They all will tell you that they believe women are superior parents to men and because of that they always should have custody and the father should pay child support to help support their decision to be single mothers.
Child Support is used as a tool to punish a man for not doing what the mother wants. These arrangements of payment and childcare can be set-up without getting the courts involved. CS is used as a control mechanism.
It is a woman's way of exercising control over an ex and having some say in his life for years to come.
I get your point, and I even somewhat agree but this sounds like a bitter ass post.
1. Don't wanna deal with it don't have kids...and if you do don't have them with bird ass women.
2. If you wanna set up payments outside of the court system, you'd have even LESS control over how the funds are spent, that directly contradicts the program you are trying to support.
3. Being a woman doesn't inherently make someone a good parent. But mothers are usually awarded custody because the better part of our society has conditioned them to bear and rear children. They have better life training, on average, to be mothers than men are to be fathers. This is a fact. Now does that mean that there AREN'T good fathers...nah. Or does it mean that there AREN'T shyt mothers...nah. But on average, women are mentally and emotionally more conditioned to be parents. Not saying men shouldn't EVER win custody...but just be logical here. Taking care of a kid is about A LOT more than just a house and some money and some food. And our predisposition to analyze and expect black/white outcomes doesn't really work well with kids. This is why having BOTH parents in the kids life will ALWAYS be ideal.
4. You have a kid together....regardless of how you feel about her...you have a say in EACH OTHERS lives for the sake of that child.