Depression finally won

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I was feeling low last Friday myself man I hadn't been drinking in a while but I went on a 16 hour bender doing all kinds of coke,pills and just drinking the day away like I was the fukking Sandman. I lost my job,girl and a bunch of friends in a short amount of time and just woke up on one not giving a fukk. Went out at 1pm didn't get home till 5am I had the cops looking for my black ass out of concern from family and friends. Keep it together man I'm trying my hardest to keep everything together luckily I haven't drank anything since and I was afraid I was gonna slip back into daily binges after already going to rehab for alcohol in October. It's tough man just try to do shyt to relieve that stress I try to listen to my music and keep up with my sports and been keeping up with election just to take mind off all the bullshyt. If I could smoke all day I would but I gotta stay clean. Hang in there breh do it for your kids
Drugs and alcohol would make things ten times worst if u ask me
 

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I'm not gonna sit here and say I have any of the answers breh...but offing yourself isn't the answer.

There's too much in this world that you haven't seen yet, there is too many things that has to happen in the future for you to be a part of before checking out of this realm.I don't know what you're going through, but whatever it is it can't be so bad that you're willing to quit the world when there is so many things to look forward too.

All I can say is just keep on holding on my man.

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at this point nothing makes me happy i always feel like the bottom gone drop out on me i'm in training for a project cordinator job but these white folks at my job are trying their best to sabotage that i been running my security company and have some concerts lined up (boosie,bando jonez) and i spend every other weekend with my kids but i still feel empty as hell me and the misses is off and on fukk man i been drinking and cryin and in the morning i'm just gone check myself in i don't even trust myself right now i just don't know what to do

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Drugs and alcohol would make things ten times worst if u ask me


Yeah it does I felt like garbage the rest of the weekend and was thinking back to myself how lucky I was nothing went down. I almost got in a couple scraps I'm pretty certain one of them cats was packing heat luckily I was coherent enough not to be the old no1es and get myself in some deeper shyt. shyt is frustrating trust I'm glad for the Coli lord knows id be laying around staring at the walls thinking nothing but negative thoughts right now but instead seeing this young nikka going through this rut is able to get others to speak up and let me know I'm not the only one going through some BS. @nawlinsnfinest get that shyt taken care of man get some people around you don't try and handle shyt solo right now you need some love around you man. That's one thing that was killing me last week I reached out to some of my so called "friends" and these cats thinking everything was sweet only a few really stepped up and reached out on some real shyt.
 

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I never mentioned any of those other things. :yeshrug:
Im just saying its not really selfish.

If the dude or a person doesn't want to live, and he keeps living to appease others, and fulfill 'responsibilities' instead of selfish is he now selfless? where does one draw the line, he feels like shyt everyday, i dont advocate it but its not like he's just bullshytting neglecting responsibilities and his children, he clearly doesnt feel good about himself and his lifestyle, can he change, yes. Should he do it (change) for his kids, and his coworkers? No. Should he do it (change) for himself? Yes. If he changes for the better for himself he will inturn be a better father and everything else.

Shaming, guilting and blaming people who are suicidal or who have committed suicide may make you feel better but its not the reality of the situation. Suicide isn't often the result of a bad day, or a negative situation, its its generally unbearable for all people who end up faced with the choice. People have different thresholds, Not being able to empathize with those who are feeling bad is the equivalent of watching someone hit their thumb with a hammer or break their leg and while they cry out in pain or scream in agony you say "man, it aint that bad!"
 

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i tried to walk into on coming traffic tonight tried to drive off the road i'm gone check myself in at this point i wouldn't even fight for my life if something were to happen to me. i dont want to cause no pain and don't want my kids to cry but at this point i just want the suffering to stop. i even tried to start a fight with a motorcycle club and they wasn't going dude told me they not doing my dirty work. fukk it time to go to the hospital
Glad you decided you need help and no disrespect but :laff: at the bolded. I've been where you are breh, I never contemplated offing myself but I've felt like the world was caving in on me. Get the help, it's not gonna be easy at first but it'll get better.
 

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Im just saying its not really selfish.

If the dude or a person doesn't want to live, and he keeps living to appease others, and fulfill 'responsibilities' instead of selfish is he now selfless? where does one draw the line, he feels like shyt everyday, i dont advocate it but its not like he's just bullshytting neglecting responsibilities and his children, he clearly doesnt feel good about himself and his lifestyle, can he change, yes. Should he do it (change) for his kids, and his coworkers? No. Should he do it (change) for himself? Yes. If he changes for the better for himself he will inturn be a better father and everything else.

Shaming, guilting and blaming people who are suicidal or who have committed suicide may make you feel better but its not the reality of the situation. Suicide isn't often the result of a bad day, or a negative situation, its its generally unbearable for all people who end up faced with the choice. People have different thresholds, Not being able to empathize with those who are feeling bad is the equivalent of watching someone hit their thumb with a hammer or break their leg and while they cry out in pain or scream in agony you say "man, it aint that bad!"
I labeled him. I never blamed him.

I realize this ...
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I disagree with a lot of this though ... there is nothing wrong with living for other people. In fact some of the greatest people that ever lived, lived for other people.
 

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People can make you feel as if they don't like you then no one else will like you. You are a fellow breh here and we want to see you stick around.
 

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at this point nothing makes me happy i always feel like the bottom gone drop out on me i'm in training for a project cordinator job but these white folks at my job are trying their best to sabotage that i been running my security company and have some concerts lined up (boosie,bando jonez) and i spend every other weekend with my kids but i still feel empty as hell me and the misses is off and on fukk man i been drinking and cryin and in the morning i'm just gone check myself in i don't even trust myself right now i just don't know what to do
dont wait until morning. go to the ER right now. call someone to drive you there if its not safe for you to do it yourself. iff you are making attempts you need to go to the hospital right now.
 

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I labeled him. I never blamed him.

I realize this ...
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I disagree with a lot of this though ... there is nothing wrong with living for other people. In fact some of the greatest people that ever lived, lived for other people.

i get what you are saying, however you can only be as good to others are you are to yourself. those great people who dedicated their lives to others and served for others took care of themselves.

life isn't easy or easier anyway you cut it but people who think, you dont need to love yourself or be happy without yourself go just love others and serve others. life doesnt work that way especially when it comes to depression and mental health/emotional issues.

if people could just 'turn off' and just neglect their own well being in order to sacrifice for their children or their jobs, we'd have a mass population of drones/zombies/robots/slaves.

living takes energy. when you are depressed you lack energy. it takes energy to get out of bed, to lift your head and look people in the eyes, to have the will to walk out of your door and go to work, to talk to your kids, and interact with others. if you dont have it, you don't have it. if your car doesnt have gas you can't just ride on E. you have to get gas. you dont have to get a full tank, but once you are empty and your car is stopped you gotta get started. depression is sometimes the gas light that is on just saying "shyt aint right" sometimes its the car sputtering telling you "im about to stop" sometimes its the car when its stuck in its tracks and isn't moving, you keep turning the key but its not going to turn over.
 
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i wasn't telling him to kill himself :comeon:

Im not gonna type a bunch of shyt pretending i have the answers for him

I hope he toughs it out and finds happiness
My bad bro, u know how the coli brehs can get
 

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Check yourself in and get help. Trust me at first it's weird, but you learn so much when they put you with other people just like you. Things do get better I know that sounds corny, but it's true. This is all coming from experience.
 

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im just going to say this man. everyone has their ups and down. the only thing that makes some people be down for a second or a minute or a day vs a couple of days, weeks or month is resiliency.

you can't just snap out of it but a lot of people that dont stay depressed and such have various outlets that keep them grounded. if you are at the point where you find yourself helpless and hopeless you have to consciously search for the things that make you happy and that ground you. like everything else it takes time. youve got to make a list and then start to rotate those things in and out of your life otherwise your going to burn out .

for instance i like to grill- i can only grill when its sunny out (for best results), and I can't spend all day eating (obviously I would get full and you can't force yourself to keep eating)
I like to make beats but I can't sit in front my my mpc all the time (my back starts to hurt, and if im not grinding them i'll get frustrated) I like to search for samples so i'll spend hours listening to albums on youtube or listening to others work, i like certain shows ( i dont like to binge watch but having little mini marathons isn't bad), i like videogames, i like fixing shyt around my crib- I have more than enough things that i like to do to keep me occupied plus more that i didn't mention and i have backup stuff i like to do or can do to occupy my mind and my time. I rotate those things in and out daily, weekly, monthly to stay grounded otherwise whats the point of living? those are things that 'i enjoy doing and also look forward to doing and in some cases like to share with others- thats what being grounded is about.

youtube some yoga videos if you stay depressed and do a bunch of yoga in 3 months you can a bad ass yoga doin motherfukker. or youtube bodyweight exercises, pushups, and bodysquats, dips and crunches- if you stay depressed for 6 months and this is an outlet for you 6 months from now you'll be cut or ripped up or atleast in better shape then you can go to the pool or somethin...by a cheap guitar from walmart or a pawn shop and shut your self in a room and teach yourself to play try to get out some of your emotions and feelings through music--hell if you have pencils and pens start drawing or writing.

theres a million and one things you can be doing other than drinking and crying,
 

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Is it just me or do these threads get made pretty often? Depression ain't no joke but if u have kids, you have to fight it off for them. I don't have time to be depressed, I have two little ones and my life is to live for them. There's a lot of shyt that I could just let take me over but I just think about them, and know I have to handle it. Everyone has different situations but in the end, u can't hurt your family, they rely on you.
 
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