Did you get a lot of positive reinforcement as a youth?
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Nintendough
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No. I only got praise if I did something right.
Wisdomkeyz
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I was taught that my life is my own responsibility and not to blame other people for my fukk ups
If someone deceived me it was my fault for making the decision to trust that person
Alot of yall nikkaz parents raised you to be straight bytches who blame everything on everything on the white man
If someone deceived me it was my fault for making the decision to trust that person
Alot of yall nikkaz parents raised you to be straight bytches who blame everything on everything on the white man
Not with my mom as much as my dad. My mom was going through the motions in positive praise because for some reason, I don't think she respected how vocal and opinionated I was; we have completely different personalities and perspectives. I could do 100 things right, and she would focus on the one thing that I did wrong. My mother was too emotionally distant tho- my father was the parent that would actually talk and listen to me; positive reinforcement.
All Women Are Queens
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probably too much
yeah, I kind of kicked it to the wayside though
at the Leo’s in this thread. 
OliviaTwist
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My dad gassed the hell out of me growing up.
You made what in art class??
Good job!
You cooked this? It’s delicious
When I asked him about it now he said it was to motivate me to keep doing it since I knew he was pleased. Which I can understand. Of course a kindergarten fingerpainting won’t be a Picasso but if they put effort into it why not tell them you like it? The only criticism a child hears shouldn’t be negative. It’ll have them growing up thinking they can’t do shyt right.
You made what in art class??
Good job! You cooked this? It’s delicious
When I asked him about it now he said it was to motivate me to keep doing it since I knew he was pleased. Which I can understand. Of course a kindergarten fingerpainting won’t be a Picasso but if they put effort into it why not tell them you like it? The only criticism a child hears shouldn’t be negative. It’ll have them growing up thinking they can’t do shyt right.
Elle Seven
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Yesterday, in a candid moment, my oldest told me she thought she was stupid and couldn't learn anything new. It was clear she was upset. I felt like shyt because I immediately knew it was my fault.
Instead of giving her kudos most times, I'm always pointing out how she could be better and push herself more. She is scared to try anything new because of fear of it not being perfect. I don't allow my kids to say "I can't" and am just always making them think about how their choices affect their consequences, even when they are upset.
To have my child tell me that let me know I'm fukking up though. I'm just scared of this world eating my kids alive and determined to keep it from happening. I now know I'm harder on them than I may need to be.
Sometimes kids just need to know you love THEM, not what they can do. I'm taking what my baby told me to work on showing my kids that. Sometimes instead of guidance, I guess they just need your arms around them and an affirmation of a parent's unconditional love, even when they are acting their worse.
As for me, I cant say I remember how my parents were, but I certainly don't remember getting negative reinforcement. I knew they loved me because they were always involved in my life.
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That's good parenting. imo
this has nothing to do with my thread. stop derailing .I was taught that my life is my own responsibility and not to blame other people for my fukk ups
If someone deceived me it was my fault for making the decision to trust that person
Alot of yall nikkaz parents raised you to be straight bytches who blame everything on everything on the white man
