Did You Lose Your Social Life...?

[Serious]

we definitely do. I refuse to put myself in a position where all I have is memories of "good times". Too many of us are doing a great disservice to our children by wasting time instead of building.

shyt is about balance though. At the end of the day, despite my many hustles, one thing I cringe at is waiting to be 45+, when I'll probably be financially sound, to start seeing and experiencing life, but this type of behavior needs to cease to exist:

savage hood rat beating

 

[Kenny West]

Yeah I'm there with you. I just make an effort and try not to think about it....Turn those idle thoughts toward grinding

I simply try to get in touch in people and maintain contact. I also realize if I don't always get a response then I can't take it personally because we are on our individual paths.

Real shyt

 

[Serious]

I had a social life when I started my career and was single



It obviously depends on the situation though. At one point, I had moved to a new city by myself and it's not easy making friends.

Sometimes friends are overrated anyways. Like 3 months back I found out one of my close friends in HS was a bum, living in his car. Dude reeked of alcohol, had a torn shirt on, pizza boxes in his car and was getting harassed by police, when I pulled up. I was like damn, I couldn't relate. Can't see how we drifted that far apart in a span of a few years. No excuse for being a bum at 25. Especially when I'm grinding like a mofo to constantly find ways to get better a making and managing money.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Taking hoes on trips outta the country >* turning up with you mans 3 times a week.

There's certain shyt you need to get out of your system but after it's out you'll never need it again.


Plus with tinder it's so easy to meet women now

 

[MillionMills]

fukk a social life, I would trade in all the "good times" for more experience in my field.

There no good reason any Black person should be wasting time hanging out when there's so much work to be done.

Exactly, you see all the threads in tlr, we got to do better....

I feel y'all on this, I just really dont understand why we cant have both?

I work a lot...but I still make time available to try and do things with other people but they always flakin and shyt...nikkas just going their whole adult lives without friendships?

I had a social life when I started my career and was single



It obviously depends on the situation though. At one point, I had moved to a new city by myself and it's not easy making friends.

Moving to a new city is damn hard to make new contacts

 

[Matt504]

I feel y'all on this, I just really dont understand why we cant have both?

I work a lot...but I still make time available to try and do things with other people but they always flakin and shyt...nikkas just going their whole adult lives without friendships?


Moving to a new city is damn hard to make new contacts

I have no desire to be friends with anyone to be honest, I wouldn't make much of a good friend because I'm not willing to make time to hang out or chill, I don't even talk on the phone unless it's absolutely necessary.

 

[Cynic]

Taking hoes on trips outta the country >* turning up with you mans 3 times a week.

There's certain shyt you need to get out of your system but after it's out you'll never need it again.


Plus with tinder it's so easy to meet women now

Taking western women abroad ?

why not stack till you can import 3rd World women for a vacation here in the west ?

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Taking western women abroad ?

why not stack till you can import 3rd World women for a vacation here in the west ?

Lol when I say hoes I mean regular girls you would date.

There is just something fun about going on a trip.

I'd never trick my money off on a third world hoe.

 

[Kenny West]

I feel y'all on this, I just really dont understand why we cant have both?

I work a lot...but I still make time available to try and do things with other people but they always flakin and shyt...nikkas just going their whole adult lives without friendships?


Moving to a new city is damn hard to make new contacts

Yo on the real I'm glad it's not just me feeling this I was thinking the same shyt like a year ago. Nowadays I hang out with a few of my boys regularly but forreal I think ppl start to rank a lot of stuff over hanging out once we past college age myself included so really I can't knock it .

nikkas grown I get it. But maybe I'm just a sentimental ass nikka because I feel obligated to fukk with people who had me when I was down and out off the strength.It's not that serious overall but I'm lowkey surprised at how little shyt like that matters to other people Especially since I peep most adult non-work friendships seem to start based off an exchange of value. Again I can't knock it but I can't help but feel it's a little scummy. Since becoming an adult there's been a lot more of the types of people who only fukk with you cause you got something, or you know someone who knows someone or you got hoes, cause you're plugged in here or there etc. I expected it but it's kinda sad seeing it play out

I had a complete fallback period where I just focused on grinding and finding my path too even though I realized I went about that wrong later on. People matter. The focus paid off but I feel like I coulda did both

I felt out of the groove after that. I felt off with some of my friends. It's like I missed the moment where everyone changed n shyt. I was under the impression even if we getting older and life is getting more filled up we could at least come together on some common type ground and communicate like men. But nikkas changed. Like you said flaky as shyt and not the ones who are actually busy. It's like damn I would expect this from bytches but dudes?

But people always say your circle slims as you get older. fukk it at least I got my real friends

 

[Cynic]

Lol when I say hoes I mean regular girls you would date.

There is just something fun about going on a trip.

I'd never trick my money off on a third world hoe.

I'll pass...too much entitlement/golden vagina syndrome

plus travelling with women slows you down and they are lazy AF


Gimme a third world girl who knows hardship and true sacrifice

 

[Serious]

I'll pass...too much entitlement/golden vagina syndrome

plus travelling with women slows you down and they are lazy AF


Gimme a third world girl who knows hardship and true sacrifice

@Malta

 

[Mr210]

When I went away to college, majority of my friends stayed here in San Antonio, so since I only came back once a year I lost contact with most. Well I moved back to San Antonio after college and non of the friends I made in college live here they all live 4-6 hrs away so since graduating ilost contact with them. When I was in my early 20s I sucked at staying in contact with people. I don't even have any cousins here in San Antonio and I'm an only child. So when I go out its either with my gf and occasionally I go out with coworkers

 

[MillionMills]

When I went away to college, majority of my friends stayed here in San Antonio, so since I only came back once a year I lost contact with most. Well I moved back to San Antonio after college and non of the friends I made in college live here they all live 4-6 hrs away so since graduating ilost contact with them. When I was in my early 20s I sucked at staying in contact with people. I don't even have any cousins here in San Antonio and I'm an only child. So when I go out its either with my gf and occasionally I go out with coworkers

I'm kind of in the same situation. And doing every single thing with your gf sucks sometimes

 

[MMS]

What if you're single

may as well commit that
















theres some good women in church right

 

[REdefinition]

fukk a social life, I would trade in all the "good times" for more experience in my field.

There no good reason any Black person should be wasting time hanging out when there's so much work to be done.

IDK about this breh. You seem to be using the phrase "hanging out" as if it carries a negative connotation. Absolutely nothing wrong with spending time with close friends and fam cultivating meaningful relationships.

No one ever says on their death bed "I sure wish I had spent more time at work."