Did You Lose Your Social Life...?

[Matt504]

IDK about this breh. You seem to be using the phrase "hanging out" as if it carries a negative connotation. Absolutely nothing wrong with spending time with close friends and fam cultivating meaningful relationships.

No one ever says on their death bed "I sure wish I had spent more time at work."

hanging out does have a negative connotation to me, UNLESS the hanging out includes constructive activities but hanging out just to "kick it" and "chill" are off limits.

 

[Geek Nasty]

That's the good and bad of growing up. Your social circle shrinks. People bail out on shyt all the time because they're legit tired from work, chores, and home life in general. I looked at my phone and I probably call 1% of people who aren't family in my contacts list.

Kind of sad, but everyone's out doing their thing. You just have to create new friends IMO.

 

[Serious]

hanging out does have a negative connotation to me, UNLESS the hanging out includes constructive activities but hanging out just to "kick it" and "chill" are off limits.

Your stance summed up at 6:30

 

[patscorpio]

My social life isn't dead but it's changed so much over the years...like mentioned everyone is doing their own thing

 

[MillionMills]

That's the good and bad of growing up. Your social circle shrinks. People bail out on shyt all the time because they're legit tired from work, chores, and home life in general. I looked at my phone and I probably call 1% of people who aren't family in my contacts list.

Kind of sad, but everyone's out doing their thing. You just have to create new friends IMO.

How do you do that when everyone is off doing their own thing

 

[the bossman]

some of yall nikkas crazy man. I understand the need to build, build, bulid. but for your mental you need to have some type of a social life to balance shyt out. and not just fukkin random skeezos you dont give two fukks about neither. find you a chick with her head on straight. if you outgrown your partnas from years back, then find some new ones. a having some type of a brotherhood is severely underrated. good way to bounce ideas, or even come up with some business opps

I got three of my boys to organize and we all booked a flight to South Africa this November.

got another cat I used to work with. we gonna take our motorbikes and roll up the pacific coast this summer.

 

[MillionMills]

some of yall nikkas crazy man. I understand the need to build, build, bulid. but for your mental you need to have some type of a social life to balance shyt out. and not just fukkin random skeezos you dont give two fukks about neither. find you a chick with her head on straight. if you outgrown your partnas from years back, then find some new ones. a having some type of a brotherhood is severely underrated. good way to bounce ideas, or even come up with some business opps

I got three of my boys to organize and we all booked a flight to South Africa this November.

got another cat I used to work with. we gonna take our motorbikes and roll up the pacific coast this summer.

This the shyt I'm talkin bout

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Yes....


It was worth it.

Came in to say this. My money and my family are more important than hanging out and fukking around.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

some of yall nikkas crazy man. I understand the need to build, build, bulid. but for your mental you need to have some type of a social life to balance shyt out. and not just fukkin random skeezos you dont give two fukks about neither. find you a chick with her head on straight. if you outgrown your partnas from years back, then find some new ones. a having some type of a brotherhood is severely underrated. good way to bounce ideas, or even come up with some business opps

I got three of my boys to organize and we all booked a flight to South Africa this November.

got another cat I used to work with. we gonna take our motorbikes and roll up the pacific coast this summer.

Now this I can get behind. Problem is nikkas like me are always busy with our own shyt, so it's hard to put my shyt to the side for somebody else.

 

[Pressure]

Just find people you like with a similar schedule and interest.

 

[Cynic]

some of yall nikkas crazy man. I understand the need to build, build, bulid. but for your mental you need to have some type of a social life to balance shyt out. and not just fukkin random skeezos you dont give two fukks about neither. find you a chick with her head on straight. if you outgrown your partnas from years back, then find some new ones. a having some type of a brotherhood is severely underrated. good way to bounce ideas, or even come up with some business opps

I got three of my boys to organize and we all booked a flight to South Africa this November.

got another cat I used to work with. we gonna take our motorbikes and roll up the pacific coast this summer.

It depends on the level of your ambition.
If you just want to hit mid to high 6 figures and have disposable income then this is sound advice.

But there are levels to this sh!t and this mythical girl with her head on straight doesn't exist in the West. Most women are uncontrollable variables and demand your time/attention to keep you interested/under control.

They'll get upset if your core focus is on the business/career that will benefit both of you long term but cost her feelings short term.

I personally find, I'm more clear headed, creative, productive, energetic when I dont have to kowtow to some chick and have compared revenue to confirm this.

By all means live life by your standards, everybody is different. Some people want a balanced life, some people want to be bums, some people want their vision.

 

[Serious]

It depends on the level of your ambition.
If you just want to hit mid to high 6 figures and have disposable income then this is sound advice.

But there are levels to this sh!t and this mythical girl with her head on straight doesn't exist in the West. Most women are uncontrollable variables and demand your time/attention to keep you interested/under control.

They'll get upset if your core focus is on the business/career that will benefit both of you long term but cost her feelings short term.

I personally find, I'm more clear headed, creative, productive, energetic when I dont have to kowtow to some chick and have compared revenue to confirm this.

By all means live life by your standards, everybody is different. Some people want a balanced life, some people want to be bums, some people want their vision.

This the shyt I be dealing with, they want security and lifestyle of a potential baller on the come up, but hate, when a breh has to actually put in that time to get paid. It's like there's where I just eat,sleep, bathe and work from dusk to dawn, and I can't be bothered with frivolous conversations about nothing
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@Primetime

 

[Primetime]

This the shyt I be dealing with, they want security and lifestyle of a potential baller on the come up, but hate, when a breh has to actually put in that time to get paid. It's like there's where I just eat,sleep, bathe and work from dusk to dawn, and I can't be bothered with frivolous conversations about nothing
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@Primetime

She wants to save her own money but spend yours. Wants that lifestyle but has a dead end job with no plan, so needs you to do the heavy lifting spending. But still acting like she the prize... lol

I wouldn't generalize and say they've all been like that (in my experiences) but i will say that i've certainly added more 'filters' to what i tolerate.. because ultimately it can be a chore "dating" or being in a relationship where your focus is on your vision, while she's just... along for the ride in a sense.. and she starts feeling more like a business expense that's greater than the ROI.

 

[Serious]

She wants to save her own money but spend yours. Wants that lifestyle but has a dead end job with no plan, so needs you to do the heavy lifting spending. But still acting like she the prize... lol

I wouldn't generalize and say they've all been like that (in my experiences) but i will say that i've certainly added more 'filters' to what i tolerate.. because ultimately it can be a chore "dating" or being in a relationship where your focus is on your vision, while she's just... along for the ride in a sense.. and she starts feeling more like a business expense that's greater than the ROI.

Man for real, that's the same shyt I'm going through. I just started looking closely at my finances on the mint app, and noticed a trend. I'm spending like over a grand a month just on eating out
And I mean it's not even about the money per se but I expect my personal lifestyle to be damn near drama free if I'm shelling away dough like that. Otherwise that's money that can be invested into getting me more money. My last straw was this past Friday, when I'm tired as fukk from work. Was busy from 4am to 8pm. Then coming home and dealing with her wanting to go out, when I'm trying be low-key especially since we don't live together and I gotta drive everywhere. I said fukk this and went awol, when she felt she was too good for Wendy's especially after the previous weekend we out to a couple places. If you really down to ride, it don't matter whether it's Wendy's or Ruth Chris.

The worst part is when they know you caking. It's like yo, it's my money not ours. And my motto has always been just because you have it, doesn't mean you should spend it. With that said 2017 should be a lovely year

 

[Cynic]

This the shyt I be dealing with, they want security and lifestyle of a potential baller on the come up, but hate, when a breh has to actually put in that time to get paid. It's like there's where I just eat,sleep, bathe and work from dusk to dawn, and I can't be bothered with frivolous conversations about nothing

@Primetime

They are classic narcissists who believe the gynocentric hype.... almost zero logic

Wright Brothers literally said we don't have time for both wives and aviation