Did You Lose Your Social Life...?

[Cynic]

She wants to save her own money but spend yours. Wants that lifestyle but has a dead end job with no plan, so needs you to do the heavy lifting spending. But still acting like she the prize... lol

I wouldn't generalize and say they've all been like that (in my experiences) but i will say that i've certainly added more 'filters' to what i tolerate.. because ultimately it can be a chore "dating" or being in a relationship where your focus is on your vision, while she's just... along for the ride in a sense.. and she starts feeling more like a business expense that's greater than the ROI.

Money is abundant . Time is limited. They are problem centric so you can never be at peace.

Man for real, that's the same shyt I'm going through. I just started looking closely at my finances on the mint app, and noticed a trend. I'm spending like over a grand a month just on eating out
And I mean it's not even about the money per se but I expect my personal lifestyle to be damn near drama free if I'm shelling away dough like that. Otherwise that's money that can be invested into getting me more money. My last straw was this past Friday, when I'm tired as fukk from work. Was busy from 4am to 8pm. Then coming home and dealing with her wanting to go out, when I'm trying be low-key especially since we don't live together and I gotta drive everywhere. I said fukk this and went awol, when she felt she was too good for Wendy's especially after the previous weekend we out to a couple places. If you really down to ride, it don't matter whether it's Wendy's or Ruth Chris.

The worst part is when they know you caking. It's like yo, it's my money not ours. And my motto has always been just because you have it, doesn't mean you should spend it. With that said 2017 should be a lovely year

Drama free ? Dating western women ?

You better take her out, pay for everything and be thankful you getting access to her sexual organs boy

A real man treats women like a queen even if he's dog shyt tired. Cater to her whims or else

 

[Primetime]

Man for real, that's the same shyt I'm going through. I just started looking closely at my finances on the mint app, and noticed a trend. I'm spending like over a grand a month just on eating out
And I mean it's not even about the money per se but I expect my personal lifestyle to be damn near drama free if I'm shelling away dough like that. Otherwise that's money that can be invested into getting me more money. My last straw was this past Friday, when I'm tired as fukk from work. Was busy from 4am to 8pm. Then coming home and dealing with her wanting to go out, when I'm trying be low-key especially since we don't live together and I gotta drive everywhere. I said fukk this and went awol, when she felt she was too good for Wendy's especially after the previous weekend we out to a couple places. If you really down to ride, it don't matter whether it's Wendy's or Ruth Chris.

The worst part is when they know you caking. It's like yo, it's my money not ours. And my motto has always been just because you have it, doesn't mean you should spend it. With that said 2017 should be a lovely year

Yup, it's the principle more than the actual money. Going to a fancy steak or seafood place isn't a big deal but shyt for that "$100 steak" experience I can get 2 orders of half rack honey chipotle ribs with 2 side orders from Chilis, for $20 bucks, and my taste buds will be just as good! I could give a shyt about the added $200 + gratuity experience of being somewhere fancy.


But see, i'm lowkey. If i like something fancy, I'll humor it but I don't find such things necessary and i certainly don't like feeling forced or pressured to conform for it.. esp when i see the person trying to impose that shyt ain't really got shyt going for themselves. Now, that down to earth chick with a good ass job that helps with the expenses and knows you work late so she makes sure you at least come home to a Chick Fil A grilled chicken sandwich, fries (still warm), lemonade with NBA League Pass already turned to the marquee game of the night... jesus what a fukkin unicorn that would be

 

[Serious]

Money is abundant . Time is limited. They are problem centric so you can never be at peace.






Drama free ? Dating western women ?

You better take her out, pay for everything and be thankful you getting access to her sexual organs boy

A real man treats women like a queen even if he's dog shyt tired. Cater to her whims or else

I know right. Thing of is, my previous chick wasnt from here. And she did everything for me without complaint. I was like biggest bum on the planet and still had a chick who cooked, cleaned and gave an abundance of sex, literally drama free, only problem is she had no true ambition of her own, which meant all she wanted to do was be under me 24/7 which is too much....

But I see my brother learned. He's with a foreign chick now, it's not necessarily drama free, but the problems are different.....


Oh man that cater to her and entitlement shyt is real

 

[Cynic]

I know right. Thing of is, my previous chick wasnt from here. And she did everything for me without complaint. I was like biggest bum on the planet and still had a chick who cooked, cleaned and gave an abundance of sex, literally drama free, only problem is she had no true ambition of her own, which meant all she wanted to do was be under me 24/7 which is too much....

But I see my brother learned. He's with a foreign chick now, it's not necessarily drama free, but the problems are different.....


Oh man that cater to her and entitlement shyt is real

I had a Cypriot mixed girl like that.... she was about that $$$ and started a printing business sold it

and started this website helping suicidal people...sold that too and owned her house outright

I had my own cash but she took me out , sucked me dead...............

Then resurrected me with just her lips

Puss was lit but I was a dog.... (smashed her friend in her own house/ Dumped her like 4 times)

Mama told me to avoid none two parent girls and western girls without strong family ties


The series of Ls after her could have easily been easily avoided


but I'm GMB/HOH and twice semi-retired before 30 so it worked out

 

[JahFocus CS]

I just started looking closely at my finances on the mint app, and noticed a trend. I'm spending like over a grand a month just on eating out

:manepicard:

 

[MillionMills]

Yall nikkas dating the wrong women

 

[Serious]

:manepicard:

Yeah tbh I love premium steaks.

 

[the bossman]

It depends on the level of your ambition.
If you just want to hit mid to high 6 figures and have disposable income then this is sound advice.

But there are levels to this sh!t and this mythical girl with her head on straight doesn't exist in the West. Most women are uncontrollable variables and demand your time/attention to keep you interested/under control.

They'll get upset if your core focus is on the business/career that will benefit both of you long term but cost her feelings short term.

I personally find, I'm more clear headed, creative, productive, energetic when I dont have to kowtow to some chick and have compared revenue to confirm this.

By all means live life by your standards, everybody is different. Some people want a balanced life, some people want to be bums, some people want their vision.

brehs let's not turn this into the same ol generalization of "western women are all bad blah blah" rhetoric. There's enough of that in TLR
And yall have traveled enough to know that theres immature aint shyt broads in every country Millions of women out there. all different. find one that matches your speed. set the tone in your relationship from jump street about how you focus and a quality chick wil understand when it's time to chill and when it's time to leave you alone while you on your grind.

do what works for you but let's not pretend like it's impossible to have a woman and be highly successful in your career/business/whatever. cats with discipline way more successful than you or me doin it everyday b. Obama handled running a country, 2 teenagers in high school, and a wife. I think I'll b aight

 

[Cynic]

brehs let's not turn this into the same ol generalization of "western women are all bad blah blah" rhetoric. There's enough of that in TLR
And yall have traveled enough to know that theres immature aint shyt broads in every country Millions of women out there. all different. find one that matches your speed. set the tone in your relationship from jump street about how you focus and a quality chick wil understand when it's time to chill and when it's time to leave you alone while you on your grind.

do what works for you but let's not pretend like it's impossible to have a woman and be highly successful in your career/business/whatever. cats with discipline way more successful than you or me doin it everyday b. Obama handled running a country, 2 teenagers in high school, and a wife. I think I'll b aight

I'm not turning it into anything. My ideals are my own. Getting defensive
over how I choose to view western women is up to you.

There are distinct cultural differences and expectations from third world women
ranging from less belligerence, more submission, more culinary skills. I've spoken to
western, eastern, african men ...divorcees, bachelors and married men as well
along with going into these continents.

.............................They are not the same..................................................

This isn't something I take lightly as my financial, mental and physical health are at stake.
And honestly I'd rather not give anyone the opportunity to seize my future kids from me

There are also successful men who committed suicide over alimony/divorce payments

I'm not gambling my future on Obama but go ahead and do ya thing

 

[MillionMills]

That whole "western women" shyt is the lazy way out

 

[phcitywarrior]

Idk how friendships are in the West but I feel in Nigeria friendships run much much deeper. Most of my "uncles" are really my parent's really good friends that are essentially like family. I don't have that many friends per se, but a good number of boys that are pretty much like my brothers at this point. Family is very important in my home.

 

[Serious]

:manepicard:

Spent $260 @ a steakhouse, with my older bro

 

[the bossman]

I'm not turning it into anything. My ideals are my own. Getting defensive
over how I choose to view western women is up to you.

There are distinct cultural differences and expectations from third world women
ranging from less belligerence, more submission, more culinary skills. I've spoken to
western, eastern, african men ...divorcees, bachelors and married men as well
along with going into these continents.

.............................They are not the same..................................................

This isn't something I take lightly as my financial, mental and physical health are at stake.
And honestly I'd rather not give anyone the opportunity to seize my future kids from me

There are also successful men who committed suicide over alimony/divorce payments

I'm not gambling my future on Obama but go ahead and do ya thing

You right breh. No Nigerian woman or Thai woman could ever treat you as bad as some American thot would

Use weak men who made poor choices in the women they wifed as the reason to shyt on all western women brehs

You right breh

 

[the bossman]

That whole "western women" shyt is the lazy way out

It's what happens when you been burned by one too many thots. nikkas gotta be able to cope

 

[the bossman]

Idk how friendships are in the West but I feel in Nigeria friendships run much much deeper. Most of my "uncles" are really my parent's really good friends that are essentially like family. I don't have that many friends per se, but a good number of boys that are pretty much like my brothers at this point. Family is very important in my home.

Exactly breh. This grind 24/7 no breaks mindset is weird as fukk. We are social creatures at the end of the day. Having some type of brotherhood is highly underrated