Divorce statistics. GMB

[UberEatsDriver]

Again?? some one always saying rumors and gossip like they think they know me.

Nah...marriage is not for me. I've seen too many dysfunctional relationships and issues with married people, I'm not trying to go that route. That romance stage is over real quick so you have to be prepared with the realistic side. My parents got divorced. Their second marriages didn't work. Brother got married in his early thirties and divorced 5 yrs later. I'm doing ok with income so I think the same reasons that men have with a certain higher income have with protecting their financial security is what I see too. Also, I have enough responsibility, I can't see being responsible for another person's emotions, dealing with them on the daily, living with them. Too focused on other more productive things. I'm used to having my own space and I need that space . I value friendships,too many selfish people out here that get involved with each other for the wrong reasons. But if you find someone you can build with and y'all value each other for the right reasons, then whatever works for you.

So do you just date?

My homeboy has a girlfriend that he’s been with for 20 years. He has a kid with her and all and no marriage.

 

[Sad Bunny]

The Coli is so against marriage but divorce happens.

Its ain't that deep. Lol.

And no....not every wife walks away with half. That's overblown due to us hearing about celebrity divorces etc.

I could get divorced tomorrow and nothing would change in my life. She ain't getting a penny of mine


Although im fighting for ownership of this couch

 

[Professor Emeritus]

Marriage is not for everyone, nor is parenthood. I have ZERO problem with brehs who are like "I don't want to get married". I got fam who are the same way and I don't judge. Marriage is hard and it requires sacrifice. Sure, there may have been money I could have had or chicks I could have fukked, etc. if I never got married, but having picked the right person it feels good having someone unconditionally at your back for almost a decade now. Granted I do have friends that have been divorced, some bitterly so, and it is a risk, but hey so is starting a business or fukking a chick raw.

My only thing about GMB is:

1) You can't push GMB for the whole community and claim to be pro-Black. I don't care what your political stance is, how much money you make, or how militant you are. Largescale GMB leads to either the continuation of many Black children with no dad at home or the extinction of Black people through low fertility if chicks don't have kids out of wedlock. There are no alternatives. GMB dudes, unless they are fine with getting chicks pregnant, won't have descendants and a hand in perpetuating the community. You will die and not many people will give a shyt and your paper will go to ungrateful friends/relatives, charity, or the State. It sounds harsh but that's reality I got friends and fam who went out like that and they were sad towards the end.

2) You act like GMB is some awesome cheat code for life. Like it will protect your happiness, sanity, and wealth if you just don't get married. It's hilarious. Most broke brehs are GMB. Most financially well off brehs are married (though yes many get divorced).

The problem is the best wives are not what young people like. They aren't partying all the time, they aren't "exciting", and they aren't instathots.

I am entering the 40s and a lot of my friends who have been running through chicks since college are now asking me how they can find someone to settle down with. GMB is fun in your 20s and 30s when there is a lot on offer from the opposite sex but once the pickings get slim and you tire of all the games your thots pull, post here in a few years.

But if you're happy, do you

You getting repped once I can.

Marriage is first:
1. Spiritual Relationship
2. Friendship
3. Family Relationship. If your families don't get along, it's not worth it.
4. Business Relationship.
5. Family planning and efficiency building for the family.

If you want to get married and you aren't ready for 1-5, you might wanna sit this one out.

Amen for the most part. Every one of those was serious on my mind when I made my decision, though #3 was probably the least important for me personally. (I got along with her folks and she gets along real well with mine but I gotta admit it helps that we live a long ways from her family.)

 

[Eclipser]

Divorce rates are measured as a percentage of the people getting married though. Those stats are saying that 65-70% of MARRIAGES will not end in divorce.

You can't explain that solely by saying that less people are getting married.

Sure you can? Fewer people are getting married because those who traditionally divorced are opting not to get married.
Those who get married these days are older, more financially secure, and are marrying people on the same financial/educational level leading to a lower divorce rate.
This is how fewer people getting married leads to a lower divorce rate. Marriage is becoming an institution for the middle class and above.
What he said is not inaccurate.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

So do you just date?

My homeboy has a girlfriend that he’s been with for 20 years. He has a kid with her and all and no marriage.

20yrs is a long time. They might as well have married. Is it a commitment issue?
Dating is ok if you're in your 20s but in my 30s, randomly going out and hooking up is kind of corny to me. I prefer to convo and see what that person is like, their character , see what their social circle is (like someone mentioned on here) - can't get that from "dinner and a movie" type situation. Example -Like getting a slice and going to a small intimate setting (lounge or park) without a lot of people is more beneficial to me than going someplace expensive, like a crowded restaurant or club and finding out you have nothing in common or don't like the person.

 

[Save $ not Hoes]

So marriage is for people trying to build with paper apparently

Broke hoes thinking they're about to upgrade and end up being jump offs at 40 just like that show insecure.

 

[Scuti]

Over the past year I've witnessed first hand the decline of a family friend's marriage, to the point where they are about to get divorced any day now.
He married the daughter of the pastor at the church. It was the first wedding I've ever been to. Beautiful couple and they have some great kids together.
Fast forward 10 years...let's just say, to cut a long story short, she turned into a completely different person; disrespects the hell out of him, yells at him for being 'boring' even though he's working to provide for the 6 of them, started dressing sexy for the men at her work, cheating, etc.

All I can say is, if my parents try to shame me into marriage ima just tell em "Remember Corey?"

 

[Professor Emeritus]

Sure you can? Fewer people are getting married because those who traditionally divorced are opting not to get married.
Those who get married these days are older, more financially secure, and are marrying people on the same financial/educational level leading to a lower divorce rate.
This is how fewer people getting married leads to a lower divorce rate. Marriage is becoming an institution for the middle class and above.
What he said is not inaccurate.

So your claim isn't solely that fewer people are getting married, it's that fewer people are getting married AND the "right" people are choosing to get married.

But even that isn't enough by itself. If those articles I posted are accurate, then the Baby Boomers really were having fewer successful marriages than the recent generations, not just choosing to marry more. Divorce really did become a cultural thing for the Baby Boomers in a way that it hasn't been post-1990s.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Over the past year I've witnessed first hand the decline of a family friend's marriage, to the point where they are about to get divorced any day now.
He married the daughter of the pastor at the church. It was the first wedding I've ever been to. Beautiful couple and they have some great kids together.
Fast forward 10 years...let's just say, to cut a long story short, she turned into a completely different person; disrespects the hell out of him, yells at him for being 'boring' even though he's working to provide for the 6 of them, started dressing sexy for the men at her work, cheating, etc.

All I can say is, if my parents try to shame me into marriage ima just tell em "Remember Corey?"

Does he know she’s cheating? If so if he’s still with her then that man is SIMP. Don’t care for the 4 kids either the selfishness started with her.

 

[AtomicUse]

12 years happily married brehs.

My wife is a fantastic mother and overall care taker of our family. She loves the fukk out of me and puts up with all my bullshyt. Even let’s me watch TV alone at night so I don’t need to watch her reality nonsense.

#SMB gang here.

You fukked up by thinking your wife needs to "let" you do anything.

She controls you to the point you her need permission to watch TV alone.

Pathetic.

 

[AtomicUse]

Marriage is not for everyone, nor is parenthood. I have ZERO problem with brehs who are like "I don't want to get married". I got fam who are the same way and I don't judge. Marriage is hard and it requires sacrifice. Sure, there may have been money I could have had or chicks I could have fukked, etc. if I never got married, but having picked the right person it feels good having someone unconditionally at your back for almost a decade now. Granted I do have friends that have been divorced, some bitterly so, and it is a risk, but hey so is starting a business or fukking a chick raw.

My only thing about GMB is:

1) You can't push GMB for the whole community and claim to be pro-Black. I don't care what your political stance is, how much money you make, or how militant you are. Largescale GMB leads to either the continuation of many Black children with no dad at home or the extinction of Black people through low fertility if chicks don't have kids out of wedlock. There are no alternatives. GMB dudes, unless they are fine with getting chicks pregnant, won't have descendants and a hand in perpetuating the community. You will die and not many people will give a shyt and your paper will go to ungrateful friends/relatives, charity, or the State. It sounds harsh but that's reality I got friends and fam who went out like that and they were sad towards the end.

2) You act like GMB is some awesome cheat code for life. Like it will protect your happiness, sanity, and wealth if you just don't get married. It's hilarious. Most broke brehs are GMB. Most financially well off brehs are married (though yes many get divorced).

The problem is the best wives are not what young people like. They aren't partying all the time, they aren't "exciting", and they aren't instathots.

I am entering the 40s and a lot of my friends who have been running through chicks since college are now asking me how they can find someone to settle down with. GMB is fun in your 20s and 30s when there is a lot on offer from the opposite sex but once the pickings get slim and you tire of all the games your thots pull, post here in a few years.

But if you're happy, do you

The black community is done.

Blacks are going to be a permanent underclass because the community does not have the connectivity to mobilize for anything progressive. And the subjugators of blacks will literally just kill black people if any real progress is made, and there will be a subset of blacks that will help them do it.

Permanent underclass, community is done.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Wives are the ones who most often file for divorce at 66 percent on average. That figure has soared to nearly 75 percent in some years.

The divorce rate among U.S. Navy Seals is over 90 percent. @Sweet Meat Chaucer

60 percent of cohabiting couples will eventually marry. However, living together prior to marriage can increase the chance of getting divorced by as much as 40 percent.

56. If you are a female serial cohabiter – a woman who has lived with more than one partner before your first marriage – then you’re 40 percent more likely to get divorced than women who have never done so.
Yeah if i was to ever do it aint no cohabiting until maybe a year before we plan.

When compared to women who began sexual activity in their early 20s, girls who initiated sexual activity at ages 13 or 14 were less than half as likely to be in stable marriages in their 30s. – (in this study a stable marriage was defined as a marriage of over five years).

62. Women with 6 or more premarital sexual partners are almost 3 times less likely to be in a stable marriage.
Hence why sex has always been sacred in every religion or culture since the begining of time.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Just got married last month, wife is 25 and I'm 34. Hope we make it. We have been through so much shyt in 3 years it ain't funny. Alot of people are rooting for us to fail. We both agreed til death due us part, let's see.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Again?? some one always saying rumors and gossip like they think they know me.

Nah...marriage is not for me. I've seen too many dysfunctional relationships and issues with married people, I'm not trying to go that route. That romance stage is over real quick so you have to be prepared with the realistic side. My parents got divorced. Their second marriages didn't work. Brother got married in his early thirties and divorced 5 yrs later. I'm doing ok with income so I think the same reasons that men have with a certain higher income have with protecting their financial security is what I see too. Also, I have enough responsibility, I can't see being responsible for another person's emotions, dealing with them on the daily, living with them. Too focused on other more productive things. I'm used to having my own space and I need that space . I value friendships,too many selfish people out here that get involved with each other for the wrong reasons. But if you find someone you can build with and y'all value each other for the right reasons, then whatever works for you.

Dap+rep is coming your way from me
I would go out on the line and say it’s not so much as selfishness it more of the responsibility of the other person.I can say for myself a relationship brings the worst at of me. I say this cause when I’m by myself the things that get accomplished is just amazing.i could say much more but I’m good for now

 

[MikeOck]

12 years happily married brehs.

My wife is a fantastic mother and overall care taker of our family. She loves the fukk out of me and puts up with all my bullshyt. Even let’s me watch TV alone at night so I don’t need to watch her reality nonsense.

#SMB gang here.

See how marriage has breh thinking that being allowed one hour of late night TV in the house that he paid for is some type of achievement

Bet she allows you to have your own little 6sq ft man cave in the basement too, right?

What a great wife, what a great man. Stay married brehs