DMX Just Cant Put Down The Rock

[aqualung]

I only saw the snippets posted on Oprah.com - Live your best Life - @OWNTV #supersoulsunday.
DMX and His Son, Xavier, Reunite - Video - @OWNTV #IyanlaFixMyLife
The 70 comments contain many conjectures that DMX is bipolar and using street drugs + alcohol + weed to medicate the mental illness.

DMX heard Iyanla telling him "I am tired of hearing that same old sad story." I didn't hear that, but I didn't see all of their interaction. DMX lashed out defensively because he felt attacked. THAT MUCH I can understand. Also, GUILT over a life and multiple relationships is very likely kicking his ass CONSTANTLY.
<-- He told JET magazine as much.

I cannot imagine growing up as a minor child with a parent who could weaponize their anger that readily. I thought my mom's temper was bad. DMX is b e y o n d .

 

[intilectual recipricol]

Lmao and it was mark ass niccaz talmbout this dude liks he was great

 

[aqualung]

After the big blow-up, a light-skinned heavy-set black woman with short natural hair sat at the end of the couch (on the side of Xavier farthest from Iyanla). WHO WAS THAT WOMAN?

Xavier was interviewed on youtube after the show taped. Xavier respond to DMX's accusations that "Iyanla did not fix my life. She made it worse."


Xavier admits that he can be moody and temperamental like DMX. I hope the bipolar disorder doesn't plague Xavier.

 

[Champ_KW]

stop it bruh....she step in when the denials and the talking over each other started. She was trying to inject a logical approach versus maintaining an emotional exchange between the two parties, which may go no where because both parties would just focus on trying to get their emotional points across

Versus listening to the other person, making sure you understand how your actions were interpreted by other folks, then the same should be done by the other party. All of this self reflection is done, while maintaining a perspective on the past, current, and future relationship. If you stuck in the hurtful past, then you will not be able to nurture your current relationship so that it blossoms in the future

X said he did the best he could, that's cool, but what he has done to that point was not working. So why not adjust and figure it out? Addiction is a disease, so until he's able to overcome that, then he won't be able to have a relationship with his seed

X has accepted the fact h doesn't have a relationship with his son, thus he has no motivation to repair/build a relationship now. His son asked him to detox and be a different person, cause the current person is similar to the past person, and the constant variable between the past and current X is drug use

Man cut that out! What logical point of view was she trying to give when she told Xavier not to give his old dude a hug? She was over stepping her boundaries. Xavier isn't a kid anymore. All the harsh criticism, cussing his mom out, being high and unstable, etc don't exist in Xavier life anymore. All there is left are two grown men having a mutual respect for each other as father and son. If Iyala was such a psychologist, she would have encouraged Xavier to do more to be a presence in his pops life. X spent the first 30 mins of the show crying about how abandonment was the catalyst for his issues in relationships and she encouraged his son to do what????.....ABANDON HIM! She's horrible cause I guarantee if it was Xavier on there asking for acceptance and X told him he'd be there if only he was straight and not gay, she'd have a fit. X is sick. Been sick before Xavier was born. After the private school, guitar lessons, vacations, etc....now you have nothing left for your Pops who afforded you those opportunities? All because he can't shake that monkey off his back? Xavier was foul for that and Iyala played her position wrong. She won't let X get a hug from his kid but will exploit this show for her biggest ratings so far. Capitalizing off someones pain and misery and not even give him a chance to have his say all in the name of protecting a grown man from having a harsh dialogue with his father is cheap.

 

[avon barksdale]

man DMX is comedy...even tho he is a crack head he still is the realest nikka in the game

 

[Pazzy]

i see what iyala was getting at and she's right about x. she's basically telling dude that if he wants to be a better person, he has to let go of that fukking persona that he's holding onto. that's what she's getting at. she was telling him to stop holding on to that negative image that he has of himself.

i've noticed how x is. x basically wants to play a fukking victim damn near all the time as if people want to see him go down. that's NOT often the case. x wants to see x go down. x does have an addiction and an addiction is a disease but he can live with that though. he's busy trying to hold on to this weak guy and he has support on letting that guy go but he's like "this is me. this is who i am. i am dark man x." no, you're earl simmons. "dark man x" is your stage name. you don't have to be "dark man x" outside the mic. let it go.

 

[YeahN1ggaImmaLurker!]

I think he should of been like yo i love u dad but if u gonna be on drugs then i dont want you in my life but if u want some help im there for u and hug him. That would b a better way to end it, cuzz u cant change some1 who doesnt wanna change they gotta get to that point on their own.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

ya'll must've never had a family member who sufferered from some form of drug or alcohol addiction. You think X wants to be stuck on crack, and be the laughing stock of hiphop? Not just online, im sure n1ggas in the industry clown on him the same way the internet does too.

bottom line tho, I've seen members of my own family suffer from addiction, and from the outside it looks like they're doing it to themselves, but in reality, when you're addicted to crack cocaine, it's much more of a physical dependency rather than a choice to make on whether to get high or not.

They are doing it to themselves. That shyt ain't a disease fam. Nobody becomes a dopefiend without purposely doing drugs. If he wanted to stop then he could put himself into rehab. It's that simple. I've seen ppl give it up cold turkey before.

 

[Isaiah Bradley]

Man cut that out! What logical point of view was she trying to give when she told Xavier not to give his old dude a hug? She was over stepping her boundaries. Xavier isn't a kid anymore. All the harsh criticism, cussing his mom out, being high and unstable, etc don't exist in Xavier life anymore. All there is left are two grown men having a mutual respect for each other as father and son. If Iyala was such a psychologist, she would have encouraged Xavier to do more to be a presence in his pops life. X spent the first 30 mins of the show crying about how abandonment was the catalyst for his issues in relationships and she encouraged his son to do what????.....ABANDON HIM! She's horrible cause I guarantee if it was Xavier on there asking for acceptance and X told him he'd be there if only he was straight and not gay, she'd have a fit. X is sick. Been sick before Xavier was born. After the private school, guitar lessons, vacations, etc....now you have nothing left for your Pops who afforded you those opportunities? All because he can't shake that monkey off his back? Xavier was foul for that and Iyala played her position wrong. She won't let X get a hug from his kid but will exploit this show for her biggest ratings so far. Capitalizing off someones pain and misery and not even give him a chance to have his say all in the name of protecting a grown man from having a harsh dialogue with his father is cheap.

X loses automatically for choosing drugs over his seed. Xavier didn't want to hug that nikka who chose drugs over their relationship. You said Xavier is a grown man, but yet you suggesting X having a disease and abandonment issues somehow voids him of any responsibility of being a man and kicking that monkey off his back and having a relationship with his seeds

Iyala seems not to be an enabler, which is what X needs. Someone who will encourage him and believe in him, but not give him credit for shyt he should not be doing in the first place like
-not taking drugs,
-not going to jail
-attend drug rehab

 

[bl2k8]

That woman needed to realize her place and stop fukking interrupting, that shyt woulda set me off too

 

[ThaRealness]

Him and Beanie, two street dudes, who were probably the happiest when they were hunting their enemy down. Seems like a million dollars was not enough to change their outlook on life.

I feel like Beanie Sigel could have made it maybe five to ten years earlier.. but he came up just as rap was starting to get soft

 

[King Theo]

smh this shyt should not have been on tv. and i hate we are sitting here judging as well. i mean we all know X is wild. what we dont know is what happened behind closed doors. honestly to me it sounds like ole boy is a spoiled mamas boy. It seems like at some point X tried to have a relationship with his son but something just wasnt clicking. and i believe it was both of their faults.

he shouldve embraced his father. and worked from there to help him get better.

and iyanla or w.e her fukking name is was out of place on more than one occasion. This isnt some interview with semi serious issues this is something where you need to have constant back and forth with occasional mediating and she simply wasnt fit for that role. i personally wouldve had a hard time keeping my cool interjecting in family issues but i wouldnt have been on the show either

 

[aqualung]

Man cut that out! What logical point of view was she trying to give when she told Xavier not to give his old dude a hug? She was over stepping her boundaries...If Iyala was such a psychologist, she would have encouraged Xavier to do more to be a presence in his pops life....now you have nothing left for your Pops who afforded you those opportunities? All because he can't shake that monkey off his back? Xavier was foul for that and Iyala played her position wrong. She won't let X get a hug from his kid...

The hug was bad and wrong if it signified "see ya at your funeral, Dad." That is why Xavier refused the hug.

Xavier appeared on the show because he wanted to save DMX, not to offer unconditional love while DMX self-sabotaged, AND NOT TO WRITE DMX OFF AS A DRUG ADDICT WHO IS ALREADY DEAD TO XAVIER.

Being in DMX's life entails being robbed and exploited by an addict who constantly plays the victim and refuses to take accountability. Xavier and Tasheera already tried it and noticed the pattern of enablement.

--> aq out <--

 

[Reggie]

First all X if X really wants to get help he cant do it in front of a TV audience and people who are just using him for ratings. He really needs to talk to someone who can relate to his experiences and he needs a psychic evaluation. I've seen bytches who smoked crack for 20 or 30 years and who would do anything for a hit stop and make something of themselves. And they didnt have half of the resources that X has got to get help. But until he wakes up and acutally says out of his mouth that he wants to stop for him and not for anyone else and if he puts 100 percent effort behind it he can beat his addiction.

 

[Cakes Randolph]

Man cut that out! What logical point of view was she trying to give when she told Xavier not to give his old dude a hug? She was over stepping her boundaries. Xavier isn't a kid anymore. All the harsh criticism, cussing his mom out, being high and unstable, etc don't exist in Xavier life anymore. All there is left are two grown men having a mutual respect for each other as father and son. If Iyala was such a psychologist, she would have encouraged Xavier to do more to be a presence in his pops life. X spent the first 30 mins of the show crying about how abandonment was the catalyst for his issues in relationships and she encouraged his son to do what????.....ABANDON HIM! She's horrible cause I guarantee if it was Xavier on there asking for acceptance and X told him he'd be there if only he was straight and not gay, she'd have a fit. X is sick. Been sick before Xavier was born. After the private school, guitar lessons, vacations, etc....now you have nothing left for your Pops who afforded you those opportunities? All because he can't shake that monkey off his back? Xavier was foul for that and Iyala played her position wrong. She won't let X get a hug from his kid but will exploit this show for her biggest ratings so far. Capitalizing off someones pain and misery and not even give him a chance to have his say all in the name of protecting a grown man from having a harsh dialogue with his father is cheap.

Really? Because you understand what being a psychologist is about?