Do ain't **** women always say they were molested for attention?

[Ain't That Something]

Very untrue and unfair thing to say here. About anyone at all. Children have been raped and murdered because some sick fukk thought they were sexy. Evil happens to the innocent. It rains on the just and unjust. Major flaw in your OP.



I don't know... it's hard to speak on this. You feel like these things are traumatizing and it would be hard for someone to casually drop it in a conversation. At the same time, why should the past re-victimize them so easily? If they've gotten to the point where they can share it without fear (and where no one can manipulate them by using it against them), then doesn't that mean they've recovered?

I don't think they're trivializing molestation at all, though. It's a serious thing, it doesn't mean that it has to be a traumatizing thing or a weakness.

But maybe you meant something different than trivializing. Maybe you're saying that the women who share so easily--even if it actually happened, might place some kind of expectation on all victims of molestation to openly share OR might make people think it's OK to casually ask people about their dark past (because others shared so freely). That I understand. But despite those two issues, do we really want to be telling people who were molested to shut the fukk up? There must be another way to resolve this.

There are certain life events people can never fully recover from. You learn to deal with them, manage them, accept that a certain situation was beyond your control but never fully recover. Like the saying goes wounds heals but scars never fades. By trivializing I meant minimizing how deep an impact molestation may have on a person, and it's not just a woman issue bc nikkas get molested too as lil kids. And there is nothing wrong with sharing but one should use caution and proper judgement when sharing personal information. People who you barely know should not have in depth knowledge of your past bc you don't know who they are.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

OP has a point actually....i know several girl who laid it out that they were molested like within a few days/weeks of knowing them.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Very untrue and unfair thing to say here. About anyone at all. Children have been raped and murdered because some sick fukk thought they were sexy. Evil happens to the innocent. It rains on the just and unjust. Major flaw in your OP.



I don't know... it's hard to speak on this. You feel like these things are traumatizing and it would be hard for someone to casually drop it in a conversation. At the same time, why should the past re-victimize them so easily? If they've gotten to the point where they can share it without fear (and where no one can manipulate them by using it against them), then doesn't that mean they've recovered?

I don't think they're trivializing molestation at all, though. It's a serious thing, it doesn't mean that it has to be a traumatizing thing or a weakness.

But maybe you meant something different than trivializing. Maybe you're saying that the women who share so easily--even if it actually happened, might place some kind of expectation on all victims of molestation to openly share OR might make people think it's OK to casually ask people about their dark past (because others shared so freely). That I understand. But despite those two issues, do we really want to be telling people who were molested to shut the fukk up? There must be another way to resolve this.

no, not at all, in fact we are saying do the opposite.

make getting help to cope with this one of the most important
aspects of your life, not be shared with some bum you just
met at the club or store because of the simple fact of you
not knowing where their true intentions with you may lie

especially at the beginning. nothing about molestation is casual and
it should be treated as such by not coming up in casual conversation

 

[Mr swag]

LOL girls say they have stackers for attention not molested

 

[AV Dicey]

I did read it, all I see is a man trying to dictate how women should deal with their abuse, and what he believes is the correct or incorrect way of dealing with it... disgusting thread... sometimes you keep things inside for soo long you start to blurt sh*t out, especially as you start to remember things more vividly as a child it's hard to understand the shyt is wrong

black people generally dont go about airing their dirty linen, you keep that shyt in the closet and once you have driven that poor man to his breaking point, you can then reveal your reasons for rationalizing sex and emotional attachment to bolivia, he in turn can view all women as nut jobs...its the gift that keeps on giving.
to keep it hiphop, why you think rapping ass eminem doesnt get his deserved props from nikkaz. dont nobody wanna hear about your goofy ass mama and your promiscuous wife, they come in all shades, deal with it accordingly.

 

[flusterose]

Negative

This is something that you keep to yourself.

Everybody just try to use some sort of calamity as a badge
of honor nowadays, in order to say, "hey, I am great
person, despite what happened to me and so you should
think I'm great person too."

That is fantasy, get off of that. It is this type of thinking
that keep women victims, honestly.If you wanna talk,
go to a friend, therapist, church counselor or whomever, because
in spite what you may want to think, men judge shyt like this
at the beginning. Might not be fair, but it's real

but who are we to tell them what to keep to themselves? everyone is different and has a way of coping and personal reasons on what time/stage to divulge the information. not every woman is doing it for attention or to be loved.

 

[BuyandSave]

LOL girls say they have stackers for attention not molested

What's so great about stackers?

 

[MidniteJay]

I have a uncle that molested many of my female cousins. Those female cousins have had a messed up life due to the psychological effects of that. Molestation and rape is very real, its the ignorant people like you that make people scared to report it.

:welldamn:

It's almost always an uncle. I'd kill the fukk out of my brother if I ever find out he touched my kids the wrong way.

 

[BuyandSave]

Very untrue and unfair thing to say here. About anyone at all. Children have been raped and murdered because some sick fukk thought they were sexy. Evil happens to the innocent. It rains on the just and unjust. Major flaw in your OP.


I don't know... it's hard to speak on this. You feel like these things are traumatizing and it would be hard for someone to casually drop it in a conversation. At the same time, why should the past re-victimize them so easily? If they've gotten to the point where they can share it without fear (and where no one can manipulate them by using it against them), then doesn't that mean they've recovered?

I don't think they're trivializing molestation at all, though. It's a serious thing, it doesn't mean that it has to be a traumatizing thing or a weakness.

But maybe you meant something different than trivializing. Maybe you're saying that the women who share so easily--even if it actually happened, might place some kind of expectation on all victims of molestation to openly share OR might make people think it's OK to casually ask people about their dark past (because others shared so freely). That I understand. But despite those two issues, do we really want to be telling people who were molested to shut the fukk up? There must be another way to resolve this.

I wasn't talking about the molestation part only. What I meant was that these types of women usually have a huge number of problems throughout their lives - always involved in some type of drama/serial daters with a history of abuse/cheaters and always and I mean always completely unable to accept the blame for anything. Even if they do it's usually something like: "Weeell I know I was in the wrong that I cheated but I was in a bad spot in my life and we weren't reeeaaally together - we were talking but we weren't official. And he always yelled at me and was jealous...but yea it was my fault...I guess" See what I mean? Now, the reason I called them attention whores is because they will tell you that extremely traumatic and personal shyt but they won't tell you about them doing their exes dirty as fukk or being whores - that part is always "just the past". So it's not like they're just being honest here.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

but who are we to tell them what to keep to themselves? everyone is different and has a way of coping and personal reasons on what time/stage to divulge the information. not every woman is doing it for attention or to be loved.

But this subject to just come up with someone you just met.

Let think about the motivation that would lead a woman to
disclose something so traumatic and personal such as this...

Maybe I'm too old school or something, but I think she would
have an agenda for that guy to fix her and that to me is bad
business and it could lead to something far worse than the
molestation like heartbreak.

People, in general, can't handle their own problems, so it's a
must we take on someone else's? I'm not trying to be callous
or unsympathetic. I'm just looking at the common sense factor
of this situation.

 

[flusterose]

But this subject to just come up with someone you just met.

Let think about the motivation that would lead a woman to
disclose something so traumatic and personal such as this...

Maybe I'm too old school or something, but I think she would
have an agenda for that guy to fix her and that to me is bad
business and it could lead to something far worse than the
molestation like heartbreak.

People, in general, can't handle their own problems, so it's a
must we take on someone else's? I'm not trying to be callous
or unsympathetic. i'm just looking at the common sense factor.

im not trying to understand why they would do that either. Its just none of my business why they chose to divulge it immediately after meeting someone.

 

[Family Man]

There are a lot of idiots on this site.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

im not trying to understand why they would do that either. Its just none of my business why they chose to divulge it immediately after meeting someone.

No doubt, and the thing is, I am not getting on them about being open
about past traumas. I am warning them to be careful of whom
they disclose that kind of information to, that's all.

 

[dontreadthis]

I hate to sound so cynical but this thread is somewhat on point. there are lying attention whores out here who pretty much offer excuses, because im surely not in the business of asking, as to why they "are the way they are" (getting smutted) and it usually involves being in abusive relationship or rape.

 

[How Sway?]

I've heard that a couple of times from females but what's worse is when these super midnight black ass bytches tell me that their mixed....

Head nappy than a muthafukka and got the nerve to say you're mixed with Indian..bytch