Do Average Men Understand WHY Women Put Them On Child Support?

[A Woman's Opinion]

FOR CONSISTENCY.



Before we start this, I'm not talking about rich men like Diddy or Jayz.



I'm talking about regular men, who work regular 9-5 jobs (or don't work) who have children by women who are regular, and work 9-5 jobs too.

(You can't really "come up" off a man like this)

For most women with children by AVERAGE men, child support and court orders is their last resort with a man they cannot communicate with, or gain consistency from.



Example...


*The man Commits to a financial obligation (like buying the child a pair of shoes for school, or bringing diapers)

Then...
- Don't show up.
-curse the mother out anytime she ask for something.
-Shows up with HALF of what he promised.
-simply won't answer his phone when the mother calls out of fear she will ask for help.


HE'S NOT DEPENDABLE.



*He Commits to Keeping the child for a certain period of time.


Then...
-He Won't show up
-He keeps the child longer.
-bring the child back sooner.
-Or try to take the child on a weekend, or at a time when the mother has already made other plans with the child.




All of these things create stress/confusion for the mother who HAS to have a physical and financial routine in order to be the child's primary care giver.





Too many AVERAGE men seem to think baby mothers file child support for a check, or money to get their hair done. This is ridiculous.


Most women file for child support from AVERAGE men, not for a come up, but because the father is inconsistent, not dependable, and she is just flat out exhausted with arguing with him, and begging him for help.


It's a relief to let the judge set the child support and visitation. So she won't have to argue with him anymore. Even if the judge sets less than what she thought was fair. (I have seen this)


Men get very resentful after this. Why?

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Yes, I am aware that their are SOME lazy mothers who do nothing, and just want a check even from average men.


I'm talking about mothers who DO WORK and try to educate themselves, who still have trouble getting help from their child's father.

 

[jadillac]

it's very much a mixed bag.

I don't agree with dudes making babies and bouncing, but it's also a come up for SOME women, even from some "average" men.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

Great decision having a baby with a man who isn't consistent eh

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

 

[Colicat]

IN

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I also think a lot of this is bitterness as well. They might not like to see the baby father move on. And to make some part of him miserable they put him on child support. Is it everywhere? No I doubt that, but to believe that's not a factor is naive.

 

[iFightSeagullsForBread]

What be killing me is these dudes on here actually pretend they give a fukk for daps.

Dudes ain't trying to actually understand the concepts and laws set in place as to why Child Support is even created in the first place.

They just post sensationalist headlines, call people c00ns, jack it to tranny porn while spouting homophobic slurs ad nauseam, sleep, repeat.

fukking ponderous. But I do enjoy the trolling.

 

[Matt504]

Great decision having a baby with a man who isn't consistent eh

about as great a decision as not wanting children but engaging in an activity that creates children.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Great decision having a baby with a man who isn't consistent eh

I peep the sarcasm, but you are correct. It is a very bad decision.


But believe it or not, SOME men change AFTER the baby comes.

Just like women can change after a baby comes into the picture.


He may have been very consistent so long as they were together. In a relationship. But when the relationship end, so does that trait.

 

[YoungFlyGentleman]

Because hos are lazy and even when they claim they want independence, still want a man to take care of them.

 

[Colicat]

Because hos are lazy and even when they claim they want independence, still want a man to take care of them.

Interesting choice of words.

Why the use of hoe and lazy?

Who is them? The children that men spawned?

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

I also think a lot of this is bitterness as well. They might not like to see the baby father move on. And to make some part of him miserable they put him on child support. Is it everywhere? No I doubt that, but to believe that's not a factor is naive.

It can be, but again... "Moving On" should not mean moving on from your emotional & financial responsibility to your child.



A lot of men break up with the child with the mother. OR their child comes second to them courting other women and running the streets.



You know what they say...


"dead beat fathers make the best stepfathers."

 

[Guile]

She couldn't tell this guy was a vagabond when he was hitting it? Or at least make him to use a condom?

Anyway, a court order does not mean consistent payments.

 

[YoungFlyGentleman]

Interesting choice of words.

Why the use of hoe and lazy?

Who is them? The children that men spawned?

Them = the ho