Do men really ask women what they bring to a table?

[Buckeye Fever]

This song was hot..

The type of woman I want and it is the type of woman I got

 

[Kyle C. Barker]

There's 100% reason to ask. Don't have to use those words.

Quickest way to date is to let her tell you who she is, so you can see where actions line up.

Thats ike me going to an interview for a job and them not asking what I'm familiar doing in the past. Yo ass can lie on that resume if you want but the moment you don't know how to do something you claimed you're outta there.

I gotchu. I took the thread title literally

I'm more prone to casually ask questions about what the hell she's doing with her life/career during the "getting to know you" process and I can usually figure it out from there.

 

[desjardins]

If it's asked it's probably a rhetorical question
When I was dating I encountered a ton of women who tried to sell themselves hard early on. They mostly listed off basic adult shyt like having somewhere to live, an occupation, and a car but I get it.

 

[SuperNintendo Chalmers]

Dating and Relationship discourse is at an all time low.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

"I AM the table"

He paused the video to roast someone

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[Commish]

Just because you got something doesn’t mean you’re bringing it to the table, per se. you should ask direct questions to get direct answers, assumptions leave room for miscommunication.

Personally if I ever got married again I am not putting 100% in shyt, my house will be in my name and we can split the profits off what we make together but I’m not giving up what I already worked for and rightfully neither should she. And that works both ways chances are if I’m making moves like that I’m already moving money around without her knowing.

This is pretty much my stance...

What brings forth controversy is that some women who got something on the table don't wanna bring it to the table with a man.

These women believe that their time, presence and private parts is EQUITABLE to a man who has financial assets & resources. A man's time, effort and presence isn't applicable within a union.

The only time I would ask a woman what she is willing to bring to the table is when she tells me what I NEED to do in order to be with her. She basically set the tone and I will match the energy.

A true to the game not playing any games type of woman who is chin up chest out ten toes down like four flat tires ride and die type of woman isn't gonna put a man though any bullshyt.

She will have that real talk with her dude and combine assets and resources to build a solid foundation.

 

[Reno89]

Nikkas can't tell a shiftless woman vs a woman thats actually an asset? Own car, living space, work, cooks and clean behind herself.. Involved with her family, avoids drama, etc.. People cant just see how someone moves over a period of time, and just know what they bring to the table..

Im really curious because im aware of the terminology, but I didn't think people actually asked that..

What is sad is that everything that you mentioned should be expected of an adult.

Just because she cooks, doesn't mean that she's going to consistently cook for you, and enjoy doing it. Does she know how to cook in a way that is going to get your nutrition right and keep you performing at an optimal level when you out there gettin it? That's just one example

Standards are so low for the women that we date these days, her simply not being a burden on us makes her an asset in some dudes eyes.

The thought of a woman representing as well, and doing things that facilitate us going out there and producing at a high-level doesn't even cross our minds SMH

 

[seabreeze80]

I believe in properly vetting your potential significant other but this question is stupid. The person will just lie to you. What someone brings to the table should be visible. If you can't see her value you chose wrong.

 

[Music Fiend]

You don't do this just lying online to be down. This is why I wish we could really see cats so y'all will stop fukking lying soo much online. IRL this cuts down on a lot of bullshyt you see online where you can't easily check dudes stats

I do this in real life when im interested in more than sex. You would be a goofy and blurt it out with no context and get lied to.

I'm not asking bout no damn table. But I am asking about recent dating history, which naturally leads to "ok what do you value in relationships?" And that naturally leads to some version of expectations and thn answers in conversation.

that simple. She'll tell you her truth without knowing. At that point you just sit back and watch if she lives it

 

[CrimsonTider]

It gets interesting when you're a go getter yourself and material things don't matter.. Nothing left but spiritual things to discuss..

Fake deep

 

[Wildhundreds]

Fake deep

Nothing deep about what I said though.. Maybe to you because you're shallow...

 

[Canon]

why are some of you so bothered by this?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Many don’t take people who act like this seriously.

If you have something to offer, you will inspire people. They will want to give you their best. Nobody will need to ask them what they bring. They’ll make it apparent.

People who operate like this often tell on themselves. It’s kinda operating in desperate energy.

 

[Rell84shots]

This is pretty much my stance...

What brings forth controversy is that some women who got something on the table don't wanna bring it to the table with a man.

These women believe that their time, presence and private parts is EQUITABLE to a man who has financial assets & resources. A man's time, effort and presence isn't applicable within a union.

The only time I would ask a woman what she is willing to bring to the table is when she tells me what I NEED to do in order to be with her. She basically set the tone and I will match the energy.

A true to the game not playing any games type of woman who is chin up chest out ten toes down like four flat tires ride and die type of woman isn't gonna put a man though any bullshyt.

She will have that real talk with her dude and combine assets and resources to build a solid foundation.

And therein lies the problem. For a sector of women out there, their p*ssy is equal to anything you bring to the table. That's why you have these City Girl minded women thinking that their p*ssy is equal to a billionaire.

 

[Hater Eraser]