Do women really not like being approached in public

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

I've never done online dating in my life before, never even been to one of those sites. It isn't hard to meet men if you go out. I think it's a more organic way of meeting people too. Not knocking Online dating, but it isn't something I'd ever do. I agree though, I find myself more confident online, just when I interact with people(even on here), but in person.... I'm so awkward with men. The other day, a breh gave me a compliment on my looks & wanted to talk, I saw that he was attractive and he had a nice car(I was walking to my car) I wanted to be more receptive, but I being that I was in a rush and needed to get to work, and also felt awkward because I was still in an early morning sleep daze, I rationalized in my mind that it was okay to just be my normal awkward self, tell him no thank you, then dip to my car, to get to work. That's what I did, but as I left, I was like "damn... He was actually cute asf, oh well". I realized that it was the fact that I wasn't prepared for that interaction(wasn't in the right mood), was rushing so the context wasn't right, and like I said I'm awkward so.... LOL. In any case, I totally get what your saying and agree.

Nah I can dig that...i'm the same way...

It can be a chick choosing, and if i'm not feeling like I want to turn on my seductive,charm, swag then I just won't approach...

I've been called a faq and had some pissed off women because of this

I get where women come from in feeling annoyed that other people feel entitled to their time.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Some women need to be the only physical attractive person in the relationship. Others assume attractive men get too much attention and she doesnt want to have to compete all the time. Then there are those who assume attractive men are just playing games with them and not really interested.

You also have people who think attractive people are incapable of having deep, loving relationships which is crazy.

When you're an attractive dude who only wants one chick but then chicks can't comprehend that and get because you don't got a roster of hoes
:mjzooted:

The concept of dudes who can be running through women but choose not to seems to confuse women ...you gotta sell women a dream...they need to feel like they locked you down and won the competition. It's not fun if they didn't have to beat out other women.

I feel like you have to play games with most women nowadays.

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

Honestly, because you're not entitled to anyone's time. Plain and simple. No matter how respectful a man is, a woman doesn't owe him her time, a reaction or her attention. Even if we respectfully decline any offers and say no thank you while trying to walk away/end the interaction it never ends there. If it does it's rare. I just want men to stop thinking if they're nice, mean no harm or are just trying to engage someone in conversation that women owe y'all anything. Once men get that, it'll be so much easier.

This is in no way telling men to stop approaching but it's the expectation of reciprocity that's a major issue. If you approach and she's open to conversation and giving you eye contact and smiling, by all means go for it. If she's not, keep it moving. Same with women, we aren't entitled to things as well.

I know I'm about to set keyboards on fire but I'm just being honest.

Nothing you said in this post should setup nikkas to type paragraphs

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

Honestly, because you're not entitled to anyone's time. Plain and simple. No matter how respectful a man is, a woman doesn't owe him her time, a reaction or her attention. Even if we respectfully decline any offers and say no thank you while trying to walk away/end the interaction it never ends there. If it does it's rare. I just want men to stop thinking if they're nice, mean no harm or are just trying to engage someone in conversation that women owe y'all anything. Once men get that, it'll be so much easier.

This is in no way telling men to stop approaching but it's the expectation of reciprocity that's a major issue. If you approach and she's open to conversation and giving you eye contact and smiling, by all means go for it. If she's not, keep it moving. Same with women, we aren't entitled to things as well.

I know I'm about to set keyboards on fire but I'm just being honest.

Nothing you said in this post should setup nikkas to type paragraphs

 

[Da King]

NO! Never liked it.

So you’re going to meet your husband on a dating app?

 

[newworldafro]

NO! Never liked it.

We're waiting for the word..... "except" ... ....

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Cold approaching ain’t for the faint of heart