Do you know someone who had a failed "Move to a Big City" experience?

[wastedmermaid]

At least they had the balls to actually try even if they failed

Most people are to scared to take a risk and just remain in their comfort zone wondering “what if…”

 

[JadeB]

You could move to 2nd tier or 3rd tier cities in the Midwest

Low cost of living and plenty of Job opportunities. That's what I did

I grew up in Akron, Ohio and Columbus, Ohio. You can't pay me to go back freezing winters, lack of diversity, and no geographic beauty .

If I'm moving out of California, it has to be a place with similar vibe: warm/hot weather, access to beaches or at least mountains, decent diversity, and a nice food scene. So like Phoenix, Austin, Houston, (Texas might be too conservative for me) or maybe Miami. Any recommendations?

 

[AQz]

I’m originally from nyc but live in miami now. Had a friend that wanted to go to nyc from miami.

I told them how expensive it’d be and not to discourage just put in perspective.

Long story short. Even though they ended up getting a job making significantly more up there. The cost of living and lifestyle wasn’t worth it. It was a good experience for them though

 

[LuuqMaan]

You admitted that you enjoy your wife rimming you

You shouldn't talk

Wait, what now? Caught me off guard, haven’t even finished the thread

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Go where the money is is pretty much the only thing I have to say

Most of the transplants I meet that failed didn’t really have a plan. Some just up and left and ended up working in a gas station, restaurant, etc.

I do give those people props for trying though, but ultimately people are going to move where they have help.

Moving to one of these cities with no true support system is hard

 

[Bubba T]

12 roommates? Sounds exaggerated

 

[ScoopNScore]

Know anyone? Lemme go to Union Square or Alphabet City and see the transplant Bushes cacs dragging they girls and drehs over here to get the "American Dream" only to be with a cardboard sign and no breakdancing to show for it

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

@General Mills auntie

 

[$cam-U-Well_Jack$on]

Sound like some hating biter shyt going on deep in your heart.

.........

 

[97Pac]

That is some hell of a reach

I told her bunch of times to not move, her family told her 10x more than me. I told her she lives in Boston, that is a good enough city to make connections. She didn't want to listen

Maybe she needed that experience and failure. If she didn't do it she would spend the rest of her life regretting it.

 

[General Mills]

@General Mills auntie

My Aunt moved to Atlanta with her husband and two two kids and :

Got into pills and club in in her mid thirties
Started cheating on her husband with a woman
Divorced husband
Became a alcoholic
Racked up multiple dui’s. License is revoked
Moved back to Pittsburgh broke, divorced, in debt, no license, and overall defeated

Everytime I see her she looks washed beyond belief and just downtrodden

 

[maxamusa]

OP you got curved huh...the one that got away shacked up with 12 brehs

 

[UpAndComing]

good for them.....at least they tried and chased their dreams an aspirations ....i have more respect for those that at least tried to leave their home town and failed than those who stayed and never had the courage to try

People that hate on others trying to chase their dreams are the ones that live in the same place their whole lives and never get to see the world. Nobody succeeds at everything. Failures happen. It all depends on how they handle it. At least they tried. That's nothing to laugh at or make them feel shamed for doing

At least they had the balls to actually try even if they failed

Most people are to scared to take a risk and just remain in their comfort zone wondering “what if…”

So I guess we're gonna pretend following your dream shouldn't have practically attached to it?

Y'all are ok with people pursuing something without a plan?

Nowhere in the OP did I say she shouldn't follow her dream

 

[UpAndComing]

I grew up in Akron, Ohio and Columbus, Ohio. You can't pay me to go back freezing winters, lack of diversity, and no geographic beauty .

If I'm moving out of California, it has to be a place with similar vibe: warm/hot weather, access to beaches or at least mountains, decent diversity, and a nice food scene. So like Phoenix, Austin, Houston, (Texas might be too conservative for me) or maybe Miami. Any recommendations?

Depending in your skill/job level, moving to a Tier 2 or 3 Midwest city would be a great option. No place is perfect lol

Do you have job training/ education to command a decent salary?

 

[Sex Luthor]

So I guess we're gonna pretend following your dream shouldn't have practically attached to it?

Y'all are ok with people pursuing something without a plan?

Nowhere in the OP did I say she shouldn't follow her dream

The whole post in the op was basically saying they're stupid for trying. It didn't say if they had a plan or not. We don't have any specific details except they failed.

My point is life is too short and there's too much out there to experience to shyt on somebody that took a chance.