Do you think you will have children ?

[CopiousX]

@CopiousX why are you GMB?

I value control of outcomes. I don't like playing a lottery with my life.

"Perhaps you have heard that half of all marriages end in divorce. That statement is not far off. Nearly 45 percent of married couples eventually divorce.

In the 80s, the divorce rate was closer to 50 percent. So, the divorce rate has declined over the past 40 years, but only by about five percent." -quoted from random lawfirm website.

Link-> Divorce Statistics (What is Your Risk of Divorce?)



This is my issue with it. Marriage is an investment. Would you invest hundreds of thousands of dollars into a 50/50 bet? God forbid you are demonized to your own offspring afterwards.




There are rare exceptions to this where it's totally worth the risk. For example, there are specific occupations/social groups where you will be net-positive even after a divorce ( POTUS, senate, rotary clubs, military officers, banking, etc). But these are rarities.


Most people jump into their marriages telling themselves that they are that one lucky, magical exception to statistics. They desperately cling to this wishful thinking until it's their turn to be served divorce papers. I also don't buy that philosophy of picking the "right one" either because the vast majority of people in divorce court thought they had the "the right one" also.

I am a realist, Dave.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Nope. I'm not convinced we are going to beat climate change. I'm not convinced that the powers that be are interested in breaking the economic stranglehold that the 1% has put the rest of us in.

I want to set my child up for success and right now if I can't even afford a house to raise them in or pay for ever escalating tuition, he/she will be doomed to a life that is inferior to my own. Thats not fair to do.

Now if I meet the right woman, I will probably come around on that stance. If shes really thorough like that, I can be convinced that as a team we can set our offspring up as best as anyone can in a decaying world. They may be part of the generation that smashes away the asteroid of shyt that is coming our way.

 

[CopiousX]

Ronaldo is wealthy and has a nanny/nannies.

And What is your point?


You must be wealthy to even consider surrogacy. And i am considering surrogacy. So what does that tell you about me?

 

[Memorial Stadium Piru]

I wanna have kids but not until I'm married, so probably mid-late 30s or early 40s. I know the issues black kids from single homes struggle with, I was one of them my parents were married when they conceived me but were already in the divorce process when I was born.

My brother got married at 35 & had his first child at 36 when he was financially stable & doing well for himself so I'm aspiring to do the same

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

i couldn't bring life into this world without feeling guilty about my selfishness.

shyt is too bad right now.

 

[Sunshine]

I love kids, but I never wanted any of my own.

 

[Fill Collins]

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[Orbital-Fetus]

I wanna have kids but not until I'm married, so probably mid-late 30s or early 40s. I know the issues black kids from single homes struggle with, I was one of them my parents were married when they conceived me but were already in the divorce process when I was born.

My brother got married at 35 & had his first child at 36 when he was financially stable & doing well for himself so I'm aspiring to do the same

be your brother's son, brehs...
if you were really really making moves you would already have your sights on you bro's ready made family he put together for you.

all you gotta do is

 

[Dave24]

I value control of outcomes. I don't like playing a lottery with my life.



Link-> Divorce Statistics (What is Your Risk of Divorce?)



This is my issue with it. Marriage is an investment. Would you invest hundreds of thousands of dollars into a 50/50 bet? God forbid you are demonized to your own offspring afterwards.




There are rare exceptions to this where it's totally worth the risk. For example, there are specific occupations/social groups where you will be net-positive even after a divorce ( POTUS, senate, rotary clubs, military officers, banking, etc). But these are rarities.


Most people jump into their marriages telling themselves that they are that one lucky, magical exception to statistics. They desperately cling to this wishful thinking until it's their turn to be served divorce papers. I also don't buy that philosophy of picking the "right one" either because the vast majority of people in divorce court thought they had the "the right one" also.

I am a realist, Dave.

@CopiousX what about when you are old? What are you going to do?

 

[Dem313wayz]

Yea I plan on it soon. Me and my girl been together 2 years now and we've discussed it as we're both 34 years old.

Also my unc been battling prostate cancer and seeing his wife and kids take care of him as he can't even walk without getting tired and just having conversations about life with him has made me want a family even more

 

[Dave24]

And What is your point?


You must be wealthy to even consider surrogacy. And i am considering surrogacy. So what does that tell you about me?

It means you are wealthy!

 

[Hey_zeus]

I want some this decade. We'll see what happens

 

[The Radiant One]

The thing is you have to have. great mother leaving a good woman because she don’t want kids can easily backfire

You marry a woman but she can’t have kids or she gets post party depression or she ignores you for the kids and no sex

 

[Dave24]

@CopiousX I mentioned I want a wife and 4 kids. How much money do I need to be making for them to be comfortable?

 

[UpAndComing]

I want to have like 5 or 6