Does the Older Man/Younger Woman Relationship Actually Work?

[Phitz]

What kind if age gap though? I used to date older women back in the day but not anymore. People have one set image in their heads which they apply to every scenario.

A man who is 35 year old in shape and dresses stylishly is not going to look weird next to a 25 year old woman.

Alot of people look old at 34 if they eat/drink horribly and dont take care of them self.

Men on the avg have a higher sexual appetite than women. If you marry your same age woman when uiure both in your 40s and up she will run from you because you both slow down at different rates. From a maturity standpoint it's ok but you have to know this before going in. All the old men in their 40s and 50s who married very close in age or older told me their wife doesn't sleep with them anymore.


A woman at her sexual peak(27-35) has the sexual appetite of a 38-45 year old man.

A man at his sexual peak(18-25) has no equal and that's why the undisciplined ones try to smash any and everything at once.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

If I were to show you a picture of me right now, you wouldn't believe how old I am.

How you look and how your body functions are 2 totally different conversations and really don't wanna discuss your body functions.

 

[paperbag]

I'm sure you can get a 10-15 year relationship/marriage and a couple of kids out of it, but in any country where women have rights I would expect it to have an exponentially higher rate of divorce. But for just a relationship, it could work for a bit.

Vast majority of 18-24 year old women are not physically attracted to 35-45 year old men. Just saying this as a former 20 year old women, but if you hunt and have something else she needs, I'm sure you can find one.

If you don't like 30+ women definitely don't force yourself to be with one, just take your time picking out the younger woman.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

My man is about to be 21, im going to be 30.. even though hes younger, we have and understanding of the roles each of us are supposed to be playing. hes still the “elder” im in subjection to in terms of how i treat him

and its because he asserted it in the beginning.. he wasnt on no “we equals” bullshyt. i submit to him but that doesnt mean he walks all over me.. he submits in his life and our relationship, as well, but in a different way.

its hard at times, im not going to lie. i wont sit here and lie and say its easy to submit cause its not because how my mother is and things i learned from her, my ego and getting in my feelings but its fullfilling

its still presesent in many cultures mostly ones that have some spirituality or still believe in traditional roles that are rooted biblically.. Sarah was calling her husband, Abraham ‘Lord’ out of respect to show her reverence to him.

I think this is key(knowing your roles). I'm personally more inclined to be with a man that I can be submissive to, because it feels natural, like the way it's supposed to be. But to be fair, I know women where this arrangement would never work. And I do notice some generational gaps, amongst today's "young" woman. A lot of them grew up on social media, not learning how to cook and clean, and other values that I can't really relate to. It's funny, because me and my boss were just having this conversation--we both feel so disconnected from this other generation.

Anyway, I think the OP, should consider what he's looking for in a woman, what type of relationship he'd like(in terms of roles) and find a woman that fits that. If she's younger than so be it, but I feel like the OP created this thread, because of his previous thread where he and a woman he was seeing who was older(like him) broke up with him unexpectedly and everyone told him to date a younger woman, so now that's what he considering.

 

[-deleted-]

Do you. I'm not trying to date you. Feel free to date who you want.

IDK why you all bother engaging in conversation if you only wanna hear opinion just like yours.

None of this was the point.

 

[Balla]

I just don't get how men can be happy being tricks and having these women think they're disgusting.

Is this based on the advice you got in that other thread OP--the one about your ex?

If you think a younger woman is what you need, then try it out and see. My dad's girlfriend is more than ten years younger than him. I know marriages where the combination works. I have had a couple of friends that had relationships with older men--a lot of the time they did use these men for their resources, but it was an even exchange(these men were also using them for sex), so both parties were using each other and okay with it. My coworker jokes that when she was at Howard, she knew so many attractive BW using older men for resources(getting them bills and tuition paid), so it is a thing.

I've never been able to date men that were more than a couple of years older than me. I was never and still am not attracted to men in their mid to late thirties. For some reason, even now, the average mid 30's-40 year old man is typically not attractive to me, they look every bit of their age. The majority of my friends did not date older men for similar reasons--we just didn't find them attractive and didn't want to fukk them. But there are younger women that would be glad to have you. Good luck.

 

[86\*/98]

Off the top of my head, I know of 4 men who are/where with much younger women.

1. WM who lived the playboy life and didn't marry until his late 40s to a woman in her late 20s. They had 2 kids. After a certain point she decided to become a lesbian and left him for a woman. Now he has brain cancer and a empty house. She got a huge amount of bread out of the divorce.

2. BM decided to get a young thang for the DR. He moved her here and they had a baby. About 3 years in she decides to report him for domestic violence which helps speed up the citizenship paperwork. So she left, got her citizenship and child support.

4. WM decided to marry a much younger women, helped her build up her career and then after she was set and fly she decided she didn't want to be married. She took the house, all the fly gear and excellent career and went on her way and he was suck with the taxes from a business he started for her.

3. The 4th went and got this 18 y/o Asian chick from Sweden. I think they have been together a few years but he literally never let's her leave the house. They live in NC with a ton of land. She literally is not allowed to go anywhere without him.


I don't consider any of those situations successful. But that is just me. The most successful marriages I have seen are within 7 years of each other.

In thid society we live in I don't think building a woman who is one step from being a child is a good idea for men. If it were me she would already have something going for herself. I'd want a woman who'd done a bit of living.

That is just my opinion though

You gave 4 examples of the older man/younger woman thing not working but we have millions of examples of unions that were made just cus and we’re dealing with fatherless children being the norm in our community or rather lack of community because of it. Having a fly baby daddy is pushed here while many other stable cultures push looking for a successful, respectable father for their FUTURE children. And stop it, a woman in her early twenties is not “one step away from being a child”, maybe mentally in this society but that’s because dysfunction has stunted the growth of the majority. There are plenty of bomb ass mothers who are under 25 and it’s because they’re about that motherhood life and have made the sacrifices necessary to have a healthy family structure.

“If it were me she would already have something going for herself. I'd want a woman who'd done a bit of living.”

Well it is me and as a man I don’t want a woman who’s anywhere close to being just as weathered as I am. I go out into the world get knocked on my face several times, take bumps and bruises, endure all type of fukkery and through it all I become harder, more resilient and learn how to move better. I do all that so I know how to keep my soft ass women and children sheltered. The woman still gets all the game she needs but it’s served through a filter on a nice plate by her father and then by the man she pairs with. American media has fooled women into jumping up on the front lines with us so they can do some “living”.

Yea iight[/blueface]

 

[AAKing23]

I'm 26 going on 27, lowest I could do is 21

 

[CarmelBarbie]

I'm sure you can get a 10-15 year relationship/marriage and a couple of kids out of it, but in any country where women have rights I would expect it to have an exponentially higher rate of divorce. But for just a relationship, it could work for a bit.

Vast majority of 18-24 year old women are not physically attracted to 35-45 year old men. Just saying this as a former 20 year old women, but if you hunt and have something else she needs, I'm sure you can find one.

If you don't like 30+ women definitely don't force yourself to be with one, just take your time picking out the younger woman.

Exactly... It's strange to me that people on here make it seem more common than what it is. The average young woman in that age range is not usually physically attracted to men in his age range. Hell, I'm not even physically attracted to the average 35-45 year old man, and I'm 31. They always look . Yes they have nice cars, are established, and look more polished and about their business, which I do notice, but they don't age as well as they think they have . I get approached by that age range, teenage boys, men in their early twenties, and men in mid to late twenties often, and to be real it's the men in their mid to late twenties that look the best physically, and still are established enough to get it.
That's why I can understand why a man might be more attracted to the mid-late twenties females too. No hating it, it is what it is. People that are younger do look better. That's why men on here need to stop pretending that the average 20 year old female is really checking for a man that isn't at his best physically and sexually, which tends to be the case once we get pass that mid thirties age range.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You gave 4 examples of the older man/younger woman thing not working but we have millions of examples of unions that were made just cus and we’re dealing with fatherless children being the norm in our community or rather lack of community because of it. Having a fly baby daddy is pushed here while many other stable cultures push looking for a successful, respectable father for their FUTURE children. And stop it, a woman in her early twenties is not “one step away from being a child”, maybe mentally in this society but that’s because dysfunction has stunted the growth of the majority. There are plenty of bomb ass mothers who are under 25 and it’s because they’re about that motherhood life and have made the sacrifices necessary to have a healthy family structure.

“If it were me she would already have something going for herself. I'd want a woman who'd done a bit of living.”

Well it is me and as a man I don’t want a woman who’s anywhere close to being just as weathered as I am. I go out into the world get knocked on my face several times, take bumps and bruises, endure all type of fukkery and through it all I become harder, more resilient and learn how to move better. I do all that so I know how to keep my soft ass women and children sheltered. The woman still gets all the game she needs but it’s served through a filter on a nice plate by her father and then by the man she pairs with. American media has fooled women into jumping up on the front lines with us so they can do some “living”.

Yea iight[/blueface]

I am talking about the society I live in.

 

[-deleted-]

I just don't get how men can be happy being tricks and having these women think they're disgusting.

Again, you need to stop listening to women. What they say vs. what they do vs. how they feel are three different realms. Once an older dude runs proper game on a young chick, she’s not thinking about how she can only use him for resources or even how he looks like you’re being told. She’s fukking him with emotions attached especially if the sex is good. Women are all about emotional manipulation. This is the same reason why teenage boys can end up with older women.

The whole “Trust me, younger girls are using older men as a trick” statement is shaming and you’d best ignore it. I’ve seen early 20’s and even girls straight out of high school beef with grown women over men. It’s way deeper than “Lol he’s so dumb he has no idea I’m using him for his money.” Stop listening to women and watch them.

 

[semicko82]

I just don't get how men can be happy being tricks and having these women think they're disgusting.

Cause life isn’t far. Some dudes weren’t born with good looks so money is the equalizer.

 

[BobbyBooshay]

You remind her that she’s a woman

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Exactly... It's strange to me that people on here make it seem more common than what it is. The average young woman in that age range is not usually physically attracted to men in his age range. Hell, I'm not even physically attracted to the average 35-45 year old man, and I'm 31. They always look . Yes they have nice cars, are established, and look more polished and about their business, which I do notice, but they don't age as well as they think they have . I get approached by that age range, teenage boys, men in their early twenties, and men in mid to late twenties often, and to be real it's the men in their mid to late twenties that look the best physically, and still are established enough to get it.
That's why I can understand why a man might be more attracted to the mid-late twenties females too. No hating it, it is what it is. People that are younger do look better. That's why men on here need to stop pretending that the average 20 year old female is really checking for a man that isn't at his best physically and sexually, which tends to be the case once we get pass that mid thirties age range.

In the last thread they were mad that women get more than dikk from sex but in the next thread fantasize about being a young chicks sugar daddy

 

[Phitz]

Breh I was called ageist by some of my coworkers because I said I would rather settle down with a woman in her late twenties to about 32. I'm 35 and not interested any woman older than me and nobody younger than 26/27. They were like I'm missing out on a bunch of good career women around my age. Most(not all) of those women in those categories got a lot of baggage(we all do but they're more likely), have children by other men, past prime child bearing age, etc.

I always ask older men advice. They always tell me go 5-10 years younger on avg for marriage. Especially if you are in your thirties. I have this one uncle who was wild back in the day. He said when he was in his 20s he preferred to smash older women because they dont get pregnant lol. His wife is 8 years younger.