This isn’t positive. Struggle is not good.It bonds you closer to black people.
You need to understand that struggle is on a spectrum. Majority of black people in this country have a struggle of some sort. Even if you werent really born with struggle,youve been programmed to take on a struggle that may not even be YOUR struggle as a black person.
I was born in it. I don’t value it.
So even when you see black people who may be more privileged by class,upbringing,or even skin color,Seeking out struggles,or attempting to make themselves seem less privileged? Its their way of seeking a bond with the most black people. Even if on the surface a suburbanite trying to be hood seems corny. That suburbanite is instinctively seeking out a bond with their people.
This is trauma bonding, not real bonding.
Look you’re trying to legitimize bullshyt. I’m glad you’re owning it though.Its inter species recognition,its nature.If the majority of black people lived in the suburbs and didnt represent or claim struggle in this country, Then black people would instinctively not claim struggle in an effort to bond with the most black people possible.
Dont let them convince you "trauma bonding" is bad inherently. Its only bad when you have no solutions to your trauma. Bonding through struggle bought a solutions based black people together to form rebellions and movements. The problem is we just arent solutions based by in large anymore.
The people you say have it "figured out''?Their solution usually involves pulling you further away from blackness and assimilating. Or distancing yourselves from struggle,which as i covered is distancing yourself from the black mass. This again will creat separation anxiety due to our nature as a species#Nature