So if plenty of women feel this way why are they not saying it just to protect the feelings of ‘society’ (which really means men); when men are also going on every platform to scream about the type of women they find undesirable? It’s an all out protest about how they don’t want women with kids, over the age of 30, and over a size 6. So women should also be honest if this is the way they feel.
And yes she does come across as goofy, but she is crazy, arrogant, and classist. So I’m really not defending her per say, but more so calling out the hypocrisy of men who always want to finger point at women about what we should do to be more desirable (such as keep your mouth shut to be more feminine) while they are running around doing and saying whatever they want. Meanwhile marriage rates in the black community are the lowest they’ve ever been. So I would be careful about constantly consuming a narrative that men are a prize no matter what.
Which I think is the real reason men are so upset because she’s plainly stating the type of men she does not find valuable. However, when Kevin Samuel’s and others tell women they aren’t valuable due to x,y,z .. men are applauding women being put into their place. They should keep that same energy.
I’d never say a man is the prize for simply being a man. I’m not that girl
What I’m ultimately stating is that a lot of women aren’t being strategic.
At the end of the day we don’t ask men out on dates.
We don’t propose to men.
We don’t knock men up and leave them to knock up someone else.
Part of women operating from a place of power is understanding WHEN our mere existence is enough to make the right kinda guy move mountains, and understanding how to communicate what we want and/or move a certain way to attract who we want.
Women are the ones who attract when it comes to the dance between the sexes. You can present yourself a certain way and attract the kind of man you want without having to STATE what type of man you want.
The women who know how to do that have no issue with men.
Again, like I’ve said, the people who speak the loudest are usually the ones who actually have the issue.
Women of all races want the same thing but other groups don’t literally say it out loud at ~40 because their mothers taught them to get cute and get sit in front of the right type of guys when they were 23. That’s the conversation Black women need to have with their mothers. Most of the women I know who are married to successful brehs locked in in their teens and 20s.
OR, they are attractive and have good attitudes so they are still getting chosen by men in their 40s (I mentioned a high profile BW in her 50s who is dating a HIGHLY successful breh in my family who was interested in dating a successful woman in his age range).
I will totally admit that when I was just getting out of college no one gave a damn about what I studied, where I went, if I had money, my pedigree. Because that’s the power of being young and attractive. And that’s when we’re supposed to make the most demands. But you don’t know that when you’re 22 in college. That’s what your mom and dad are supposed to teach you. All the 22YO guys around you know that, though. And they also know it when they turn 30 and can possibly chase the girls in their 20s who know the game.
Personally, I’m an advocate of dating a little older and working on the things that immediately catch a man’s attention- looks and attitude. It’s a formula that really can’t fail. And plenty of women less successful than Eboni have had no issue snagging those men by following that simple formula.
Shyt, a man in my family has his wife living in a damn near million dollar house and I can’t even tell if the chick finished HS she seems so dense. But she knew enough to focus in on him and lock him down before he realized what he was dealing with
I’m not saying there shouldn’t be more successful brehs available. I’m saying that either paying attention to the ones with promise while we’re young or dating out while younger in pursuit of those types of guys is what should be the focus of BW.
The same way you see some brehs who switch it up and date Becky when they get on is the same way young beautiful Black women can keep their mouths closed and open their serious dating options to the most successful men who approach them.
Actions speak louder than words.
All Eboni had to do was pop up with a successful man of whatever race and keep it pushing.
Hell, that’s what Tamron Hall did
. And brehs couldn’t say anything because she didn’t say anything about the available men. She just popped up married and pregnant
