Emotional Abandonment in A Relationship

[Fatboi1]

Women tend to get bored after they been in the relationship for a longtime. I think my issue was, I wasnt mysterious enough, spent too much time with them & I wasnt a challenge. I learnt a lesson from that.

You just gotta have things you do that don't involve her all the time.

You go out to eat with her tonight, u take her home or w/e smash. You don't call the next morning, she hits you up. you tell her you'll hit her up later, she ask you where you going, tell her somewhere to do something. Don't be all "Oh I'm just going to go take a quick drive to Stop and Shop to get some broccoli for later babe." Once in a while is okay I'd guess but shyt sometimes don't even tell her u goin out.

Hell I remember back when I was like 20(27 now) my GF at the time was trying to stir up some drama and looking back it was her trying to get some "excitement" going on. She texted me and was like "Where were you at!?" and at the time I told her exactly what I was doing(I was with my cousin). She claimed she saw me with some chick I work with(she knew the girls name.) Now obviously my EX doesn't drive and was home but I was such a square, logical dude that I argued with her pleading my innocence. She admitted she made it up but I was so concerned with doing right that i fell for it. The dude that's on game would've either deaded that shyt right there or play along knowing she's on some BS and she would've just been like "haha you're smooth" or w/e.



Don't always be on the phone, always keep yourself occupied, keep yourself fresh/in shape all the time. Lightly entertain other women or let her know indirectly that other women checking you out. Basically if you become better than the average person this will happen automatically but your mindset gotta be like that.

Mysterious things/people are much more interesting. Be like Batman. You only see him when shyt pops off and he's there to kick some ass and then leave right then and there. You don't see Batman doing mundane things do you? Just be great and leave.

 

[International Playa]

You just gotta have things you do that don't involve her all the time.

You go out to eat with her tonight, u take her home or w/e smash. You don't call the next morning, she hits you up. you tell her you'll hit her up later, she ask you where you going, tell her somewhere to do something. Don't be all "Oh I'm just going to go take a quick drive to Stop and Shop to get some broccoli for later babe." Once in a while is okay I'd guess but shyt sometimes don't even tell her. Don't always be on the phone, always keep yourself occupied, keep yourself fresh/in shape all the time. Lightly entertain other women or let her know indirectly that other women checking you out. Basically if you become better than the average person this will happen automatically but your mindset gotta be like that.

Mysterious things/people are much more interesting. Be like Batman. You only see him when shyt pops off and he's there to kick some ass and then leave right then and there. You don't see Batman doing mundane things do you? Just be great and leave.

Doing all that stuff just to keep the woman entertained will leave you drained. Dating wise it can work but in a marriage, routine is gonna kick in & things will get mundane. Thats when your wife will start getting bored and daydream of excitment with a bad boy/roughneck type of guy.

#GMB

 

[BamdaDon]

My question is: who, if not your wife/husband, are you to fully let your guard down around? Why play the games of "mysteriousness" and all that with someone who is supposed to be your life partner (and I'm not knocking you fam cuz Ive learned "to play the game" as well)

Look breh. Life ain't about finding someone else to make you comfortable. Born alone, die alone. These are hard facts. Learn to love yourself above all and it doesn't matter what someone else is on.

 

[Fatboi1]

Doing all that stuff just to keep the woman entertained will leave you drained. Dating wise it can work but in a marriage, routine is gonna kick in & things will get mundane. Thats when your wife will start getting bored and daydream of excitment with a bad boy/roughneck type of guy.

#GMB

I feel you I just realize that at some point chicks do get bored. Hell us guys get bored too so I guess there's alternate ways besides "playing around" to keep the excitement going.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

ewww. did you kiss her in the mouth during that period?

if you did you're a cuck.

Her presence just isn't the same.

You get less phone calls from her, she's suddenly "busy" now, she's not coming over like she used to, she's been on her phone more often etc. That excitement and coming around whenever to just be around you isn't there.

It's happened to me and it's very noticeable.
It wasn't too bad as we weren't going out and I noticed it from the jump so I kind of knew what was up.

The most common denominator for all this is chicks that find you predictable/boring. If you're always into something, getting attention from other women, not "caring" as much this won't happen as fast. If you start doing the same thing every day, care a lot, agreeing and putting things off for her then weirdly that'll make her leave faster. Longest I had a chick emotionally strung was like 2 years but even then during that time she was creepin with other dudes but I was messin with other chicks so it was a fair exchange

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[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

Sucks to be on the other side, too - although arguably less. I'm emotionally detached even towards the few friends and family I grew up with. Sometimes they reach out but I quickly become unresponsive/dissociative. I can't even fathom living with a S.O and having to put forward the effort of interacting with them every day.

you look lifeless in the eyes in your avatar.


you into space-faced black guys like me by any chance?


you look like my type...

 

[MR. Conclusion]

its a never ending chess match...

women want you to play daddy/lover/counselor/badboy/provider/freak nikka..

I said in another thread, its like being a quarterback of the offense

the defense might look like a blitz, but if you know ya broad plays a cover 2, the foundation of her defense will be a cover 2 in some way..with a lil wrinkle..

its up to you to decipher and make the best play possible..You wont win every play, but the key is to not lose the game

As odd as this post sounds, your sports analogy is the best way to describe it.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

its a never ending chess match...

women want you to play daddy/lover/counselor/badboy/provider/freak nikka..

I said in another thread, its like being a quarterback of the offense

the defense might look like a blitz, but if you know ya broad plays a cover 2, the foundation of her defense will be a cover 2 in some way..with a lil wrinkle..

its up to you to decipher and make the best play possible..You wont win every play, but the key is to not lose the game

sounds fukking exhausting....

 

[twan83]

My last one she checked out on me emotionally in my darkest and time of need I ever needed her or anyone
Was in mental therapy 5 days a week cuz of what I went thru then add her part had me going sometimes 2x day
Once I was in a better state of mind I knew we were done but couldn't pull the trigger at that time cuz of the situation we were in so had to wait until it got sorted out
Just didn't see some of her other shyt happening cuz I was to preoccupied getting shyt straight so when the physical part happen i knew it was gonna happen but how it came about and timing and how I found threw me off and she was happier that way too
So once I knew about it and around that time I was good to pull trigger I did faster than usian bolt

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

Never love her more than she loves you.

guard your heart with the understanding that women are the most fickle beings on this earth.

better off getting a dog for companionship; establish a rotation of hoes for that sexual urge we suffer from






That said, if @Phoenix_Knightly23 wants to change my ideology she's welcome to try. we'll have to start from the base, the base of my shaft that is

*cue austin powers theme song

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

Never love her more than she loves you.

guard your heart with the understanding that women are the most fickle beings on this earth.

better off getting a dog for companionship; establish a rotation of hoes for that sexual urge we suffer from






That said, if @Phoenix_Knightly23 wants to change my ideology she's welcome to try. we'll have to start from the base, the base of my shaft that is

*cue austin powers theme song

You nasty mfer you

 

[How Sway?]

sounds like they shouldnt have gotten marred in the first place

 

[Marc Spector]

sounds like they shouldnt have gotten marred in the first place

They looked like a great couple. Went to HS and college together. Finished college together. Both had great jobs. All of us are military brats. Both are pretty square.

They seemed compatible in a lot of ways.

To me it seems like she's trying to relive out her post college years except SINGLE this time.

 

[folasade]

Some people dont think you cheat emotionally but I think it's real. The minute you check out of the relationship and start investing in someone else I consider it cheating.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

nikkas still getting married in 2016? :dahelldoink: