Emotional Abandonment in A Relationship

[Dog Based Gremlin]

 

[Koba St]

Doing all that stuff just to keep the woman entertained will leave you drained. Dating wise it can work but in a marriage, routine is gonna kick in & things will get mundane. Thats when your wife will start getting bored and daydream of excitment with a bad boy/roughneck type of guy.

#GMB

You're not doing it to keep her entertained though. You're doing it because you genuinely have a life outside of her.

 

[Dihsarm]

Yeah, that shyt can hurt.

Gotta have that heart of a pimp

 

[TEH]

ewww. did you kiss her in the mouth during that period?

if you did you're a cuck.


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@BmoreGorilla

 

[BmoreGorilla]

@BmoreGorilla

Got em

 

[Ronnie Macho]

We talk on this board ALOT about cheating but honestly i think it isn't as much a relationship killer as "mentally checking out" in a relationship.

Rather id say ALOT of cheaters emotionally/mentally check out first then PHYSICALLY betray their spouses.

I bring this up because my best friends marriage is on the verge of ending because his wife emotionally abandoned him. He's taking it pretty tough and he's like a brother to me so Im angry for him. They grew apart and his wife filled the void by partying with her friends CONSTANTLY and was crushing on one of her coworkers (my friend found out about it and confronted her about it).

Even though the cheating never happened (AFAIK) she had already broken up with my friend probably months before he even realized that shyt was fukked up.

My parents actually as well are going through a bad spell of the same issue too....

Its a very prevalent issue i see in relationships. Has it happened to any of you? Have any of you all done it to someone? Whats the colis opinion of it all?

It's the worst...on both sides...emotionally and physically cheating...retaliation cheating and all that nonsense...

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Been on both ends and its a terrible feeling but not unsolvable depending on if you are willing to address the issue and give it time to bounce back. Some times though it gets to a point where you get tired of telling your gf/bf certain things you'd like to change and in those cases it is warranted IMO.

yep...i went through this with my ex....she more or less stopped giving a damn until i left her ass....

 

[hayesc0]

I never been married but I have had someone cheat on me and completely turn their back after we had becone very close. No one size fits all answer imo.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

2 of my last relationships ended like that. Lack of affection was a sign, chicks gradually gave less hugs or kisses when they came up to greet me .Women tend to get bored after they been in the relationship for a longtime. I think my issue was, I wasnt mysterious enough, spent too much time with them & I wasnt a challenge. I learnt a lesson from that.

Relationships in 2016 are so disposable. Once you have heard all their stories, all their jokes from ya S/O and sex aint as exciting anymore, things get mundane. Thats when people usually start looking for other people for that new excitment of getting to know someone new

the bolded is so true...

breh...women dont know they want...they think they want you all into them....then they get that....then magically they dont want it anymore

 

[SoSoSlick]

2 of my last relationships ended like that. Lack of affection was a sign, chicks gradually gave less hugs or kisses when they came up to greet me .Women tend to get bored after they been in the relationship for a longtime. I think my issue was, I wasnt mysterious enough, spent too much time with them & I wasnt a challenge. I learnt a lesson from that.

Relationships in 2016 are so disposable. Once you have heard all their stories, all their jokes from ya S/O and sex aint as exciting anymore, things get mundane. Thats when people usually start looking for other people for that new excitment of getting to know someone new

Thing is if the person doesnt really know what they want and simply enjoys the honeymoon phase, doin it different wont matter anyway. Anything other than letting someone get to know you in a grown up, up front manner
is just practice/games and ultimately slowing down the inevitable if you're not on the same page IMO.

 

[el_oh_el]

2 of my last relationships ended like that. Lack of affection was a sign, chicks gradually gave less hugs or kisses when they came up to greet me .Women tend to get bored after they been in the relationship for a longtime. I think my issue was, I wasnt mysterious enough, spent too much time with them & I wasnt a challenge. I learnt a lesson from that.

Relationships in 2016 are so disposable. Once you have heard all their stories, all their jokes from ya S/O and sex aint as exciting anymore, things get mundane. Thats when people usually start looking for other people for that new excitment of getting to know someone new

Challenge is the key word. Some...MANY women seem to love "fixer upper" challenges

 

[iBrowse]

Some times though it gets to a point where you get tired of telling your gf/bf certain things you'd like to change and in those cases it is warranted IMO.

Lmfao this is me to a T.

Almost every bad experience I've had with women came down to this and they never understood it.

When I tell them what it is that's bothering me, I've gotten excuses to effect of, "Well its new to me, and I've never met a guy that saw it as an issue" or "Wow, it's different and my past relationships were fukked up so I'm not accustomed to it but will work on it I promise" orrr "You need to chill and its not that big of a deal."

So then I just naturally start ghosting in a variety of ways because in my eyes they clearly aren't placing any type of substantive priority on me, especially for things that I find are really nuanced and don't require much from them mentally/emotionally to do.

When I get distant they get tight though lmfao.

Edit: #ariesgang

 

[iBrowse]

Thing is if the person doesnt really know what they want and simply enjoys the honeymoon phase, doin it different wont matter anyway. Anything other than letting someone get to know you in a grown up, up front manner
is just practice/games and ultimately slowing down the inevitable if you're not on the same page IMO.

Exactly.

While I still feel that a woman you're involved with doesn't need to know every prevalent thought that goes through your mind, (e.g. your fears, insecurities, whatevers) I'd still like to think that if a woman genuinely likes you despite your quirks and whatnot; she'll look past them especially if she's at a place in her life where she knows what she wants out of a man and she can see that you embody all, or at least most of what it is she's looking for.

 

[bucks3115]

Imagine somebody reading this with some drake music in the background



Sad thread

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

When I was going through my court bullshyt I was shyt, felt like it, attitude was fukked, mind was in a dark place trying to prepare for the worst. All that took a toll on my ex wife and she started "talking" to dudes from fb thru the Kik app. I had no clue.

Court shyt worked out, barely, so gradually i started returning to who I was but I took notice of how old girl was always on the phone, distracted like there with me, but not really. Never paid mind because I'm arrogant as fukk, but one day I played Devils advocate and went through her phone while she was asleep and found messages to these different dudes, one in particular.

Blew up at her ass, smacked her around a bit and then left. The shyt hurt, humbled my ass.

I'm over it now, have been good since June. All this shyt happened back in February.

Thankful for all music out there. That shyt along with some self reflection built my ass back up and now my story goes on.

Even am friends with the bytch.

Backstory, was 15 years deep with her since I was 17

Sometimes you just gotta smack a chick