Emotional Abandonment in A Relationship

[International Playa]

Any update on the original post?

 

[General Mills]

We talk on this board ALOT about cheating but honestly i think it isn't as much a relationship killer as "mentally checking out" in a relationship.

Rather id say ALOT of cheaters emotionally/mentally check out first then PHYSICALLY betray their spouses.

I bring this up because my best friends marriage is on the verge of ending because his wife emotionally abandoned him. He's taking it pretty tough and he's like a brother to me so Im angry for him. They grew apart and his wife filled the void by partying with her friends CONSTANTLY and was crushing on one of her coworkers (my friend found out about it and confronted her about it).

Even though the cheating never happened (AFAIK) she had already broken up with my friend probably months before he even realized that shyt was fukked up.

My parents actually as well are going through a bad spell of the same issue too....

Its a very prevalent issue i see in relationships. Has it happened to any of you? Have any of you all done it to someone? Whats the colis opinion of it all?

I am going through this myself to be honest. I am noticing a pattern of mine. I just dont believe women on a base level. I go through life just naturally believing nothing they say. I keep the face. If its not on my actual face its internal.

So in a relationship I will keep that energy and eventually I will just check out without even realizing it because I believe they are not being honest so why should I care. When they pick up on it I flip it on them and make them feel crazy for thinking something is off.

I actually just booked my first ever therapy session. I go next week. I think I need to just talk out some issues. Hoping it helps because I have run off some really really good women.