Everyone Over 30 in the Dating Game is already BURNT OUT.

[The ADD]

It’s literally called settling down.

By choosing marriage/family/kids you are either settling or sacrificing.

If you have options and decide to throw in your jersey, you are sacrificing. Bc you want a legacy and family etc, you are sacrificing these hoes, a more fun life, more freedom, etc, all for the greater good.

If you don’t necessarily have options, you cash out at the most opportune time bc there is no guarantee you will find that mythical ‘better’. So you settle in.

Actually that his point. Standard definitions of the word settle or the phrase settling down refer to creating a foundation. The term relative to relationships has somehow turned into a narrative of taking what you can get or sacrificing. That’s not really helpful to people’s mindset on relationships.

Even when certain people talk about settling I don’t know that they even know what that means. If you asked what people would find ideal in a partner the list would be interesting and then if you asked them if that they would be willing to settle for less that would be more interesting.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

its the thing of "paying for the sins of others" that plagues us. When it comes to Men a woman pay pay for the sins of another woman by a Man just simply saying fukk that commitment shyt lol, when it comes to Men paying for the sins of other men its usually the shyt you are talking about. Not saying one is better than the other but I can damn sure say at least us men aint on no annoying shyt

Yeah my damage is in what I am willing to tolerate.

Blatant disrespect and classlessness are “no goes” for me. I don’t care what you look like. I will literally walk away now. I don’t even care if I was married

And I’m a simple dude and you can tell how I treat my moms in my own house. Don’t need to pay for anything, do anything, anything she does I tell her I appreciate it, i put together the things she asks, we both clean, we both wash, I pay for cleaning service, she cooks if she feels, etc.,

And even though she’s just visiting, thats what it is like to live with me. I don’t ask for much. I don’t even ask for sex as much now because of age. All a female literally has to do is be comfortable and be cool.

Only time I have issues is when people try to get on me or tell me wtf to do in my own house like I don’t set this shyt up or live here. Thats it. You don’t run me, I don’t run you, you can come (pun intended) or you can go when it comes to women. Not going to hold you up or chase if you breaking my peace.

And this is why I juggle.

 

[RennisDeynolds]

I honestly believe we need to bring back marriage in the early 20s. I stumbled upon this young couple, and we need to see more of this.

Is this the type of shyt you pin On your Pinterest board

 

[IVS]

Been over relationships. As a woman this is what men want:

1. They want to be admired yet have nothing about them that's admirable

2. Want to "lead" yet have no track record if good leadership and a history of poor decisions

3. Want you to submit but never have a plan outside of just telling you what to do

4. Want children but don't even support proper natal health care and don't expect to actually help with the children

5. Want you do vast amounts of free labor while also contributing half the bills

6. Expect you to look good as they grow a fat belly

7. Want you to be happy with the ED

8. Don't want you to have success that doesn't benefit

9. Constantly need their ego stroked

10. Have to walk on egg shells constantly because they are so easily offended

11. Expect you to have no boundaries and constantly testing yours

12. Want your to put aside your needs to cater to them.

13. Want you to take an interest in the things they like but won't exchange the favor

14. Want you to their emotional dumpster but can't give you the same in return

15. Want to be sexist then expect you play mommy

16. Want to be stingy even when they have money

17. Expect you to tolerate their bad behavior for life because they did one thing for you.

Etc etc etc

And in exchange you get...what? Half the bills pays and maybe some dikk that's only decent less than 50% of the time.

The juice just isn't worth the squeeze.

Friendships are way more fulfilling at this point.

Relationships are basically a really shytty job that have little to no benefits.

Damn Boo! WHo hurt you?

LOL JK.

 

[Shadow King]

???

Self reflection is a thing.

Plenty of that in here. Doesn't mean issues with women in today's dating pool cannot be discussed.

 

[Shadow King]

You literally see the damage of the internet and social media from 2010 until now. We live in curious and peculiar times.

The human brain is fried. We no longer pay attention to anything longer than 5 mins, our necks are in a constant downward position due to our phones, screen time is above 6 hours a day, we don’t talk to each other physically anymore, can’t enjoy a simple time out, and still expect our partners to fill all our voids.

Gen Y is the greatest generation because we are smarter than X, have more money, and lived in a world before the internet and social media. The generations after us…

Wifey and I will attempt to prepare our daughters as best as we can for this future world. We fukked up and decided to bring them here. Hopefully they will be prepared and not hate us for it.

50/50 debate will kill whatever is left of "The Community" as get boosted consequences for elements affecting all Americans.

It is what it is.

And Gen Y ain't no greatest lol...every generation is flawed.

 

[cyndaquil]

Why do we… us… men… equate finding a good partner with settling?

Finding someone =/= settling

“Settling” was a word I used as a teenager, because my approach to women was get what I can from them and as soon as they become annoying (to me… because honestly had my mentality been different I would’ve seen those annoyances as minor) dump her.

As an adult that settling attitude shifted because I realized I’m not perfect either. But really, that’s besides the point.

My point is, finding someone you love and are attracted to, who you can grow with, isn’t settling. I think the problem is unrealistic expectations and delusional self esteem.

Dudes really walk around thinking their shyt doesn’t stink and every woman has to be what they imagine perfection to be. We’re all flawed, some of us more than others, and anyone who knows us could write a list of those flaws.

Am I suggesting men go wife up anything? Not at all, but if the mentality going in is “she better be exactly what I’m imagining” then the whole thing is doomed from the start.

Ironic what you're describing is the exact problem women are having with men. The men are not expecting a perfect woman. Women are the ones with unrealistic expectations. Not men. Most men are not initiating divorces and most relationships are ended by women.

 

[MikelArteta]

My Wife’s 19 year old niece called me a simp when we took family pictures during Easter weekend.

How are you 20 and already fried?

Its like that tv show adolenensce little kids talking about simp, incel etc.

 

[colicolicoli]

Plenty of that in here. Doesn't mean issues with women in today's dating pool cannot be discussed.

Not really and I never said that issues with women couldn’t be discussed.

 

[Shadow King]

Not really and I never said that issues with women couldn’t be discussed.

Yes really and if not then stop complaining...

 

[Apollo Creed]

Ironic what you're describing is the exact problem women are having with men. The men are not expecting a perfect woman. Women are the ones with unrealistic expectations. Not men. Most men are not initiating divorces and most relationships are ended by women.

this is why this Convo is shytty lol nikkas and their whore slave masters that patrol TLR are literally making up narratives that don't reflect statistics.

MOST MEN will be down for a regular ass shyt who they can just figure out life with, dudes are not asking for IG baddies. The wild thing is if a dude even says at a minimum "as long as she isn't obese and where's her real hair I`m good" that gets them shouted at.

The Men who can get women with ease are Like "yeah y'all are just for casual encounters, I`m not setting myself up to be burned" from the horror stories they see from friends who were married and the mentality of the women they encounter makes them say "yeah I can't set my self up for this person to be able to hit the red button on my well being".

Then you got dudes who went through divorces telling their stories and these dumb fukks still want you to ignore it.

 

[colicolicoli]

Yes really and if not then stop complaining...

This is why you’re single.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yes really and if not then stop complaining...

y'all don't see these folks see you as slaves?

 

[Wig Twistin Season]

Ironic what you're describing is the exact problem women are having with men. The men are not expecting a perfect woman. Women are the ones with unrealistic expectations. Not men. Most men are not initiating divorces and most relationships are ended by women.

I listen to enough men speaking in real life, podcasts, social media, etc. to know men are just as delusional.

“What do you bring to the table” talk is just as delusional as “I am the table” talk.

Both sexes are equally tripping, but I’m a man, so I’m speaking from a man’s perspective.

If you want to deep dive into how stupid it is for a protector and provider to go into a relationship asking what he’s getting out of it *hint hint, hopefully a great partner, mother to your children and… well, children* we can do that another time. I gotta get some work done.

 

[Scaaar]

I listen to enough men speaking in real life, podcasts, social media, etc. to know men are just as delusional.

“What do you bring to the table” talk is just as delusional as “I am the table” talk.

Both sexes are equally tripping, but I’m a man, so I’m speaking from a man’s perspective.

If you want to deep dive into how stupid it is for a protector and provider to go into a relationship asking what he’s getting out of it *hint hint, hopefully a great partner, mother to your children and… well, children* we can do that another time. I gotta get some work done.

They are two sides of the same coin. You're right these brehs are just as delusional as the women they chase. They want a woman who is a submissive housewife but also help split the bills because he's afraid she might take all his bread in a divorce. She has to stay in shape even if he doesn't. She has to be. A super freak but she can't have too many bodies or she's a pass around. They're just as surface level and superficial as the women.