I'm 43 and I've been married since 2009, yall got me terrified to ever get divorced 
Everyone Over 30 in the Dating Game is already BURNT OUT.
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"It Was Always Jerry"
New Season, Same Problem
She said I lost hunger. Well, of course, if I'm now "eating" why would I have the same hunger. I thought she was the "1" so I fell back on things. Imo I think she deep down had some trust issues and hid it well. I do recall one time she saw one of my exes. My ex was better looking and had better body but was a shytty person, not to mention a gold digger.
Ozymandeas
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my brother went on a date with a 46 year old bbw, when they sat down at their table at applebees, fat bih gone start going through her purse and pull out a We energy bill and ask him if he can go half...her shyt was cut off and it was gonna cost her $1200 to get it cut back on...bro looked at her likesaid "ill brb finna use the bathroom", nikka went to his car and smashed out.
blocked her number before leaving the parking lot
THESE FAT HOES CRAZY
The AUDACITY. This can't be real
Ozymandeas
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From a stranger on the internet, I feel obligated to tell you, you can do better than that my boy.
You only saying this because you have formed a bond with her. Don't do it. The only time you should be dating grandmas is if you're 50, 60 years old.
First of all, I never said settling was bad
Second, this is a wonderful study but a base level understanding of causation will tell you that, obviously , these stats are skewed bc there are plenty of conditions that are likely to be indicative of married people, as opposed to being caused by being married.
Ie if you’re in better health, it’s bc you have access to health care, bc you have a career, a 9-5 job, all veer you closer to marriage. The marriage is not CAUSING you to be more healthy or make more money
Lastly, now this is actually funny:
Good marriages promote health and longevity, but stressful and shattered marriages have the opposite effect
Well that settles it! Just make sure you have a GOOD marriage and you’re good to go! Eazy peazy
Now ask yourself why. Why do WE have such high divorce rates? Why do WE pick the wrong partners at a higher rate? Why are WE less likely to fix the situation and find solutions to stay married?
I think the attitudes displayed in this thread, on social media, etc. are a huge indicator of a high level of dysfunction in our community.
My question for you and anyone else quoting me is how long were your parents married and how did that effect your view on marriage?
Our people continue to buck the system and fall behind. The lowest household incomes and the highest in problems across the board, but we’re quick to challenge what works for everyone else.
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Breh I never went on a date with this chic or formed a bond....
she was 42 and looked good so I texted her for 2 days then ghosted her after she said that crazy shyt.
Damn
IIVI
Superstar
Real shyt though, how many of you know people who became real medical Doctors at the age 40+?
The average age people finish medical school is 28 and that’s not because of older people, it’s because an enormously lopsided (nearly all) are 24 year olds entering medical school and graduating medical school 4 years later. Most Doctors, like many driven people have their shyt handled in their 20’s, very early 30’s at the latest.
So yeah, a lot of people’s standards are pretty high at 30, especially if they were in college because there are a good amount of people pulling in $400k/year early and some even have famous patients already. If they find a match in a good partner, it’s a done deal.
Then you got to consider people who graduated at 24 and became things like Nurses, Engineers, etc. At around 30 they’re probably my making $130k-$170k.
The good ones usually get swooped up quick, bad ones left for everybody else the higher in age it gets. Additionally, the larger the age gap assume the more toxic the younger person is because they got to go out of their age range to land their “high paid prize” as they’re probably not bringing much to the table except maybe looks.
The average age people finish medical school is 28 and that’s not because of older people, it’s because an enormously lopsided (nearly all) are 24 year olds entering medical school and graduating medical school 4 years later. Most Doctors, like many driven people have their shyt handled in their 20’s, very early 30’s at the latest.
So yeah, a lot of people’s standards are pretty high at 30, especially if they were in college because there are a good amount of people pulling in $400k/year early and some even have famous patients already. If they find a match in a good partner, it’s a done deal.
Then you got to consider people who graduated at 24 and became things like Nurses, Engineers, etc. At around 30 they’re probably my making $130k-$170k.
The good ones usually get swooped up quick, bad ones left for everybody else the higher in age it gets. Additionally, the larger the age gap assume the more toxic the younger person is because they got to go out of their age range to land their “high paid prize” as they’re probably not bringing much to the table except maybe looks.
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Why does it need to be?
Why am I the only one not allowed to share my experience and make a decision about my own life?
Neither is yours but I'm sure that won't stop you from having an opinion and bytching a moaning about women right?
Honestly I never put much stock into dating.
Now ask yourself why. Why do WE have such high divorce rates? Why do WE pick the wrong partners at a higher rate? Why are WE less likely to fix the situation and find solutions to stay married?
I think the attitudes displayed in this thread, on social media, etc. are a huge indicator of a high level of dysfunction in our community.
My question for you and anyone else quoting me is how long were your parents married and how did that effect your view on marriage?
Our people continue to buck the system and fall behind. The lowest household incomes and the highest in problems across the board, but we’re quick to challenge what works for everyone else.
you talk about "right" partners how about we are trying to fit into the "wrong system" or there is a larger cultural issue creating "wrong people" if there is a such thing as "right people"
cyndaquil
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Because the shyt we are choosing off of and what we are looking for in a partner is dumb and we are not intentional with dating until it is necessary. We are choosing based primarily off aesthetics and not substance. Does she have a fat ass? How tall is he?
Now ask yourself why. Why do WE have such high divorce rates? Why do WE pick the wrong partners at a higher rate? Why are WE less likely to fix the situation and find solutions to stay married?
I think the attitudes displayed in this thread, on social media, etc. are a huge indicator or a high level of dysfunction in our community.
My question for you and anyone else quoting me is how long were your parents married and how did that effect your view on marriage?
Our people continue to buck the system and fall behind. The lowest household incomes and the highest in problems across the board, but we’re quick to challenge what works for everyone else.
And we aren't factoring enough into their education, career, family oriented, lifestyle choices, beliefs and values etc.
I mean if we listen to the experience of brehs like @Brolic he did everything right. Went to school, saved his money and invested, waited to have kids, looked for like-minded women and it still took him a minute to find his fiancé.
the issue is when you don't have shyt you tend to stick with people you actually like and get a long with. I can argue men tend to keep this same mentality through life while women don't. Like I said before the Men who get women's complaints are these chicks aren't worth committing to, while women's complains tend to be the men I want don't exist (but the reality tends to be this is a cop out to deflect from their own issues). The reason I give Men a pass in their "these women aren't worth committing to" is that if our legal system wasn't the way it was you would like see more men open to comittmenet because the risk wouldn't be as crazy as it is now. Notice women are never talking about the potential for divorce yet they initiate majority of them.
Honestly I think people just have a very limited way of thinking of relationships.It’s sad. Of those 17 points, if a person has more than 5…
People are generally shytty. Our parents didn’t give us the tools to prepare us to become good people. They had to feed, clothe and shelter us. Those were the only priorities. Church as well.
We become adults without proper guidance and have to figure it out ourselves. Interpersonal shyt be damned.
Ego is the biggest downfall of people, followed by accountability. If you can find a person with no ego, can receive criticism, be self aware and can be accountable, that’s the start of a person you could entertain.
How many people in your inner circle can has those four traits? That’s the sad part about people, we don’t have those things.
The nuclear family is extremely recent and people lean too heavy on it.
I think as a society we focus on relationships too much. It's a distraction that takes us away from self development.
Imagine if every person took 5 years out of their lives to just focus on their self esteem, self love, personality development, goals etc how much better our society would be and how much better relationships would be.
Instead half our time from 16 y/o until we die is spent on who we will use to fulfill our needs (ie sex, money, belonging etc).
That's why our situation is fukked up. All we do is worry about some shyt that fails the vast majority of the time.
People don't take enough time with themselves.
The point of this life is not to fukk and run behind someone else. The point is too grow spiritually. You can't do that if all you're worried about is acquiring another person like a pokemon.
Move.
I’m tired of hearing people complain about how we shouldn’t be here while enjoying the benefits of being here.
You can’t expect to prosper in a country while doing everything to not go with the cultural norms. Yes we had to go through more than any other race. Absolutely. But we’re here now. Get down or lay down. This counterculture shyt we do is getting tired and fukking our people up.
No it won’t stop racism.
No it won’t change everything.
But it’s insanity to continue to live here and try to do the opposite of what the majority does.
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