I think you’re overestimating the amount of men who have direction in life themselves, let alone a good direction for a good woman to follow. A lot of young men need their hands held, and are waiting for a woman to come along, and fix him up. Even something as simple as taking care of hygiene, wearing wrinkle free clothes, and keeping up with haircuts is a lot for some men.
Young brehs eating cereal for dinner, no food in the refrigerator, no furniture, works at the Amazon warehouse, but he’s nice, so I guess that makes him a good prospect for a husband, and a woman should let him lead. Then she should be expected to give him motivation to do better, and keep him fed, right?