Everyone Over 30 in the Dating Game is already BURNT OUT.

[lib123]

You cant compare the average woman to Paige Hurd. She been a dime since Everybody Hates Chris



Im the same age as her so no hansen

Lol true but I brought her up as an example of the type of woman it seems like most mid 40s brehs would prefer to be with as opposed to women closer to their age.

 

[lib123]

That sweet spot I think is 30. I think psychologically a lot of women feel the pressure at that age and tend to be a lot more cooperative. I fukked it up with 2 women who had great careers, early 30s, great rapport, bodies were right, no kids, etc... I just didn't put all of my chips in and subsequently fukked it up because I was chasing other chicks simultaneously.

I'm trying to learn to be content by myself until I find another gem like that, it's just so few and far between... I did it before. Not sure why I have have this chronic compulsion to keep dating everything lately. The irony I'm finding is, women with kids tend to even be less cooperative then women without.

How old are you?

Edit: Nvm I saw a post where you said you’re 41 dating a 28 year old.

 

[Vandelay]

How old are you?

Edit: Nvm I saw a post where you said you’re 41 dating a 28 year old.

Agree, disagree, dissenting opinion? The 28 year old is gone.

 

[cyndaquil]

That sweet spot I think is 30. I think psychologically a lot of women feel the pressure at that age and tend to be a lot more cooperative. I fukked it up with 2 women who had great careers, early 30s, great rapport, bodies were right, no kids, etc... I just didn't put all of my chips in and subsequently fukked it up because I was chasing other chicks simultaneously.

I'm trying to learn to be content by myself until I find another gem like that, it's just so few and far between... I did it before. Not sure why I have have this chronic compulsion to keep dating everything lately. The irony I'm finding is, women with kids tend to even be less cooperative then women without.

I definitely agree late 20s, early 30s if you're looking for something serious. Old enough to where she should have a career, more serious about relationships, mature enough (hopefully) but young enough to where you'll still be able to have kids if you want that. If brehs dont want kids they're the lucky ones. Just pick somebody you like and mesh with and keep it pushin

 

[cyndaquil]

I’m 31 and my girl is 30. We plan on getting married in August.

Did yall go through with it?
Yall got them tax advantages now?

 

[Brolic]

Did yall go through with it?
Yall got them tax advantages now?

Yea, we got married in August. Idk yet lol. I’ll find out in April.

 

[cyndaquil]

Yea, we got married in August. Idk yet lol. I’ll find out in April.

That's dope breh congrats

 

[lib123]

Agree, disagree, dissenting opinion? The 28 year old is gone.

I read some of your comments in here about her or girls around her age flaking on you. As someone very close to her age, a 28 year old in 2025 isn’t the same as a 28 year old from your generation. A lot of 28 year olds still have the mentality of late teens to early 20s. She’s flaking on you because she’s still probably entertaining brehs close to her age that she considers attractive but they aren’t taking her seriously. She knows her window is closing as girls 4-5 years younger than her are getting the top brehs close to her age but she’s still holding out hope for a breh who looks like the below.

 

[Vandelay]

I read some of your comments in here about her or girls around her age flaking on you. As someone very close to her age, a 28 year old in 2025 isn’t the same as a 28 year old from your generation. A lot of 28 year olds still have the mentality of late teens to early 20s. She’s flaking on you because she’s still probably entertaining brehs close to her age that she considers attractive but they aren’t taking her seriously. She knows her window is closing as girls 4-5 years younger than her are getting the top brehs close to her age but she’s still holding out hope for a breh who looks like the below.

Other chicks flaked, but shorty wasn't a flake, more of an opportunist. And I didn't really care for her lifestyle. She did music and a gang of odd jobs to support that. I tried to give her some advice on how better to negotiate that lifestyle or straddle both because I was in radio myself for awhile. It fell on deaf ears. Not trying to change folks (anymore).

She definitely had a high schooler's mentality though, because she threw me up on the Tea app. That was the final straw. Even tried to come back around after that.

 

[lib123]

Other chicks flaked, but shorty wasn't a flake, more of an opportunist. And I didn't really care for her lifestyle. She did music and a gang of odd jobs to support that. I tried to give her some advice on how better to negotiate that lifestyle or straddle both because I was in radio myself for awhile. It fell on deaf ears. Not trying to change folks (anymore).

She definitely had a high schooler's mentality though, because she threw me up on the Tea app. That was the final straw. Even tried to come back around after that.

Got it. Do most brehs around your age (early to mid 40s) prefer women in their late 20s to early 30s?

 

[Vandelay]

Got it. Do most brehs around your age (early to mid 40s) prefer women in their late 20s to early 30s?

It's a mixed bag. Some do, some don't. I've always liked older women. Now that I'm old, that's not as true, but I still have dated women as old as 52. 27-28 is legit the youngest I could do. Some think it's about ability to pull, and if you could, you would. Not for me or a lot of people. shyt, some celebs who we know could pull younger, just don't; Keanu Reeves lady looks older than him for instance.

Age is relative, and as you get older, even if the gap gets wider it's not as bad or easier to navigate. A 28 year old dating an 18 year old would get the side eye from me, but a 38 year old dating a 28 year old, really isn't a big deal. Other considerations are, dudes have to stop thinking that they're the prize at any age. That's the shyt that got Shannon caught up and multiple people told his dumbass beforehand. He could've got a cool 35 year old and been fine. You're just a target or a quick nut if the age gap is wide enough. That ain't a relationship, that's a transaction.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

It's a mixed bag. Some do, some don't. I've always liked older women. Now that I'm old, that's not as true, but I still have dated women as old as 52. 27-28 is legit the youngest I could do. Some think it's about ability to pull, and if you could, you would. Not for me or a lot of people. shyt, some celebs who we know could pull younger, just don't; Keanu Reeves lady looks older than him for instance.

Age is relative, and as you get older, even if the gap gets wider it's not as bad or easier to navigate. A 28 year old dating an 18 year old would get the side eye from me, but a 38 year old dating a 28 year old, really isn't a big deal. Other considerations are, dudes have to stop thinking that they're the prize at any age. That's the shyt that got Shannon caught up and multiple people told his dumbass beforehand. He could've got a cool 35 year old and been fine. You're just a target or a quick nut if the age gap is wide enough. That ain't a relationship, that's a transaction.

To piggy back and answer his question as well. I’m 41 (turned 41 in June). The last few women I’ve dealt with were 30, 38, 20, 29, and now a 33 PAWG physician’s assistant at an orthopedic surgery practice. To co sign your point all were easy to navigate except for the 20 yr old. She approached me in the gym and was goin so I slid it and passed.

The 30 yr old was my ex and when I met her she was 29. We dated for 8 months. I’m finna see where it goes with the 33 yr old (she just turned 33 last month). She wants to have a relationship and get out the game and she’s be hella cooperative.

The lower I’d go is also 27/28. Hell and I’m borderline would say 30 as well. To be honest it’s not so much an age thing but more so a mindset for me. When I meet a chick I gauge how much she wants to get outta the game and settle down. For reference I’ve listened to the 33 year old talk and some of the things she’s saying you can tell she’s done with the dating game and isn’t in the mindset to constantly find the next best thing. She just wants a dude that’s chill and makes life easy.

It’s certainly not because she doesn’t have options or I’m second choice. It’s because she’s genuinely tired and just wants a good guy to share life with. I think that’s the most important component that I’m looking for as an early 40s breh. Shorty assist orthopedic surgeons and still answers my text hella quick. Gives me massages, initiates texts when I disappear for days, and talks to me like I’m the fukking man.

Thats why when these hoes play games it’s easy to cut em off cause if a chick feeling you and wants you it don’t matter what she’s doing she will make it hella easy.

 

[Vandelay]

To piggy back and answer his question as well. I’m 41 (turned 41 in June). The last few women I’ve dealt with were 30, 38, 20, 29, and now a 33 PAWG physician’s assistant at an orthopedic surgery practice. To co sign your point all were easy to navigate except for the 20 yr old. She approached me in the gym and was goin so I slid it and passed.

The 30 yr old was my ex and when I met her she was 29. We dated for 8 months. I’m finna see where it goes with the 33 yr old (she just turned 33 last month). She wants to have a relationship and get out the game and she’s be hella cooperative.

The lower I’d go is also 27/28. Hell and I’m borderline would say 30 as well. To be honest it’s not so much an age thing but more so a mindset for me. When I meet a chick I gauge how much she wants to get outta the game and settle down. For reference I’ve listened to the 33 year old talk and some of the things she’s saying you can tell she’s done with the dating game and isn’t in the mindset to constantly find the next best thing. She just wants a dude that’s chill and makes life easy.

It’s certainly not because she doesn’t have options or I’m second choice. It’s because she’s genuinely tired and just wants a good guy to share life with. I think that’s the most important component that I’m looking for as an early 40s breh. Shorty assist orthopedic surgeons and still answers my text hella quick. Gives me massages, initiates texts when I disappear for days, and talks to me like I’m the fukking man.

Thats why when these hoes play games it’s easy to cut em off cause if a chick feeling you and wants you it don’t matter what she’s doing she will make it hella easy.

Facts, nothing else to add other than I hope it works out for you.

 

[lib123]

It's a mixed bag. Some do, some don't. I've always liked older women. Now that I'm old, that's not as true, but I still have dated women as old as 52. 27-28 is legit the youngest I could do. Some think it's about ability to pull, and if you could, you would. Not for me or a lot of people. shyt, some celebs who we know could pull younger, just don't; Keanu Reeves lady looks older than him for instance.

Age is relative, and as you get older, even if the gap gets wider it's not as bad or easier to navigate. A 28 year old dating an 18 year old would get the side eye from me, but a 38 year old dating a 28 year old, really isn't a big deal. Other considerations are, dudes have to stop thinking that they're the prize at any age. That's the shyt that got Shannon caught up and multiple people told his dumbass beforehand. He could've got a cool 35 year old and been fine. You're just a target or a quick nut if the age gap is wide enough. That ain't a relationship, that's a transaction.

To piggy back and answer his question as well. I’m 41 (turned 41 in June). The last few women I’ve dealt with were 30, 38, 20, 29, and now a 33 PAWG physician’s assistant at an orthopedic surgery practice. To co sign your point all were easy to navigate except for the 20 yr old. She approached me in the gym and was goin so I slid it and passed.

The 30 yr old was my ex and when I met her she was 29. We dated for 8 months. I’m finna see where it goes with the 33 yr old (she just turned 33 last month). She wants to have a relationship and get out the game and she’s be hella cooperative.

The lower I’d go is also 27/28. Hell and I’m borderline would say 30 as well. To be honest it’s not so much an age thing but more so a mindset for me. When I meet a chick I gauge how much she wants to get outta the game and settle down. For reference I’ve listened to the 33 year old talk and some of the things she’s saying you can tell she’s done with the dating game and isn’t in the mindset to constantly find the next best thing. She just wants a dude that’s chill and makes life easy.

It’s certainly not because she doesn’t have options or I’m second choice. It’s because she’s genuinely tired and just wants a good guy to share life with. I think that’s the most important component that I’m looking for as an early 40s breh. Shorty assist orthopedic surgeons and still answers my text hella quick. Gives me massages, initiates texts when I disappear for days, and talks to me like I’m the fukking man.

Thats why when these hoes play games it’s easy to cut em off cause if a chick feeling you and wants you it don’t matter what she’s doing she will make it hella easy.

Good stuff. Why do y’all think most men in their early 40s usually don’t date women in their early 40s?

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Good stuff. Why do y’all think most men in their early 40s usually don’t date women in their early 40s?

Can’t answer for other men but for me I just go where I’m appreciated and there’s effort. If that’s a 40 yr old woman and I’m attracted to her and her circumstances I’d give it a chance. And vice versa if she’s younger. I’m not the average 41 year old man though. I’ve been in shape since I was 16 as an athlete nonstop and I’ve been doing Muay Thai for awhile as well and have a strict training and diet regime. I also have a nice house, nice truck, and a 6 figure job and just really don’t give a fukk cause I don’t need a woman and they can sense that.

I only date one chick at a time as well so if it doesn’t work with her there is no going back she can kiss my ass. I’ll just get another one

I’m really blessed.