Failed Black Patriarchy

[Skrilla]

On real though ya'll got to stop with this matriarch and patriarch shyt. It is devisive. It does not matter who is the leader of the family as longas the family is a functioning unit that enables future generations to build.

It does matter

We already see what happens when women are trying to do both roles

 

[Marc Spector]

The state of the black community has less to do with not being a "mans man" and more to do with systematic failure across the board in all important elements of life.


But lets say you were on to something here about the lack of "masculinity" in Black males.

nikka, have you seen the statistics for teen/out of wedlock births in the preceding generations? shyt was up to 56% in 1980. Its 75% now. If there is some truth to diminished masculinity, then our generation was apart of it as well.

 

[Gravity]

I was looking at the thread about boys turning into girls and the only ones arguing with op were Men.

You soft ass nikkas are the reason black patriarchy doesn't work. You latte sipping, spineless, mama's boys are the type of men who could, in theory, lead a family, but you've been conditioned to think its ok to defer to women. Ignore what women say, watch what they do. The fact of the matter is women don't want men who're comfortable letting her shoulder the burden if decision making while you debate Dragonball and Pokemon. You're not progressive because you rally under female leadership, you're a bytch.

And the numbers prove it. That's why the out of wedlock #s are so high. These women have resorted to just settling for sex with men who turn them on primally, even if that means they have to go it alone.

Look at the reactions to trump, I barely saw any women posting, it was nikkas running around like the sky was falling. A real patriach would be confident that he can steer his family in the right direction regardless of the circumstances.

Put down the Xbox controller and pick up some weights. Take some extra shifts at your job and stop blowing money on designer clothes and shoes. Take a class or two to up your earning potential. Be a damn man. Stop waiting and wishing for female approval before you do anything. Be able to put your foot down and live with the consequences, right or wrong, good or bad. Stop blaming women for being women.

A lot of dudes seem to want a psuedo patriarchy where the woman contributes half, watches the kids, and run the day to day while deferring to you for major decisions. Life doesn't work like that. In that situation you're expendable. She has a social safety net to shield her.

Get your credit up yourself. Buy that starter house. Take pride in your appearance without going full metrosexual. Invite a woman into your world, stop this silly notion that we're going to build together.

Don't hate the guy smashing and dashing. Figure out why he's so attractive (hint: he doesn't supplicate), and get that mindset. Its not easy, its not an attitude you can flip on to get her then comfortably slide back under her. You cant just throw money at her. You have to maintain that attraction til the day you die, all the while handling your business

You think that you're saying something but you're not really saying shyt. No group of man can build a community without help from their community. One major reason that black patriarchy fails is because black women(generally speaking) help sabotage it. The allegiance that they've pledged to this liberal left agenda(feminism/gay rights) sabotages black patriarchy.

You mentioned trump and he's a perfect example of what I'm talking about. During the last year plus dude has disrespected every white woman who has dared challenge him, and that's on top of being exposed as a so called sexist who sexually harasses women. Did that stop white women from getting on their white supremacist code and supporting him anyway? fukk no. White women have unconditional support from white men. Trump doesn't win without white women. A black trump would never rise to power in the black community because black women don't have the same unconditional loyalty/support for black men. Black women would never support a black trump. A black trump would be served up to the liberal left on a platter by black women, see Nate Parker. You can't be an unapologetically strong straight black man who promotes patriarchy Because black women aren't supporting or even condoning that.

So I feel the overall point that black men have got to step shyt up but we're not going to be able to step shyt up with black women actively working to sabotage shyt. That's not me blaming all black women for the state of the community, that's me being honest about the situation. Whites haven't empowered black women over black men for nothing. It's a deliberate move and black women(and bytchmade liberal black men because there's an abundance of them) are going to have to wake up and recognize the game.

 

[HellRell804]

fukk outta here with this hotep wishing on a star shyt. nikkas aint never making it past a certain threshold in this country and any other non black country. so if nikkas wanna say fukk it and play 2k all day who cares? If you wanna keep chasing a dream that will never happen do it but dont talk down on others who live in reality.

If you're up on your bills, got your own crib and transportation, and have a job or money, play on player. Get comfortable. But you forfeit the right to complain about women only wanting "thugs" until they're washed up. If you try to compete with raw sexual attraction, by being boring and unambitious, raw sexual attraction is gonna win every time.

But hey If you do ever want companionship you'll have a blast playing 2k with some other nikkas kids...

 

[HabitualLineSteppa]

I was looking at the thread about boys turning into girls and the only ones arguing with op were Men.

You soft ass nikkas are the reason black patriarchy doesn't work. You latte sipping, spineless, mama's boys are the type of men who could, in theory, lead a family, but you've been conditioned to think its ok to defer to women. Ignore what women say, watch what they do. The fact of the matter is women don't want men who're comfortable letting her shoulder the burden if decision making while you debate Dragonball and Pokemon. You're not progressive because you rally under female leadership, you're a bytch.

And the numbers prove it. That's why the out of wedlock #s are so high. These women have resorted to just settling for sex with men who turn them on primally, even if that means they have to go it alone.

Look at the reactions to trump, I barely saw any women posting, it was nikkas running around like the sky was falling. A real patriach would be confident that he can steer his family in the right direction regardless of the circumstances.

Put down the Xbox controller and pick up some weights. Take some extra shifts at your job and stop blowing money on designer clothes and shoes. Take a class or two to up your earning potential. Be a damn man. Stop waiting and wishing for female approval before you do anything. Be able to put your foot down and live with the consequences, right or wrong, good or bad. Stop blaming women for being women.

A lot of dudes seem to want a psuedo patriarchy where the woman contributes half, watches the kids, and run the day to day while deferring to you for major decisions. Life doesn't work like that. In that situation you're expendable. She has a social safety net to shield her.

Get your credit up yourself. Buy that starter house. Take pride in your appearance without going full metrosexual. Invite a woman into your world, stop this silly notion that we're going to build together.

Don't hate the guy smashing and dashing. Figure out why he's so attractive (hint: he doesn't supplicate), and get that mindset. Its not easy, its not an attitude you can flip on to get her then comfortably slide back under her. You cant just throw money at her. You have to maintain that attraction til the day you die, all the while handling your business

 

[DarkHorse23]

Another blame black men thread

 

[HellRell804]

You think that you're saying something but you're not really saying shyt. No group of man can build a community without help from their community. One major reason that black patriarchy fails is because black women(generally speaking) help sabotage it. The allegiance that they've pledged to this liberal left agenda(feminism/gay rights) sabotages black patriarchy.

You mentioned trump and he's a perfect example of what I'm talking about. During the last year plus dude has disrespected every white woman who has dared challenge him, and that's on top of being exposed as a so called sexist who sexually harasses women. Did that stop white women from getting on their white supremacist code and supporting him anyway? fukk no. White women have unconditional support from white men. Trump doesn't win without white women. A black trump would never rise to power in the black community because black women don't have the same unconditional loyalty/support for black men. A black trump would be served up to the liberal left on a platter by black women, see Nate Parker. You can't be an unapologetically strong straight black man who promotes patriarchy Because black women aren't supporting or even condoning that.

So I feel the overall point that black men have got to step shyt up but we're not going to be able to step shyt up with black women actively working to sabotage shyt. That's not me blaming all black women for the state of the community, that's me being honest about the situation. Whites haven't empowered black women over black men for nothing. It's a deliberate move and black women(and bytchmade liberal black men because there's an abundance of them) are going to have to wake up and recognize the game.

Hey man, I agree with you more often than I dont so I respect your opinion.

Black women can only sabotage what you let them. Look at your trump example. He did not give a single flying fukk what women thought. He apologized for none of his comments. That attitude is attractive, it signals that even though I'd like to have you on board, fukk it if you don't. That's where black men have to get.

We have this nasty habit of anytime we try to build anything, we have to check every step of the way with women. "Is this ok?" "What would my mom and sister think?" Then outsiders start stoking the flames and we become mired in an endless cycle of debate and hand wringing. Sometimes you gotta take risks and just do it like Nike. But also we have to teach men not to put themselves in position to be sabotaged. Stop playing house or trying to be in a relationship and having kids until you've made gains in your life. Someone can only sabotage you if you depend on them...

A movie quote comes to mind "if you build it, they will come"...

 

[Lewis Black]

Hey man, I agree with you more often than I dont so I respect your opinion.

Black women can only sabotage what you let them. Look at your trump example. He did not give a single flying fukk what women thought. He apologized for none of his comments. That attitude is attractive, it signals that even though I'd like to have you on board, fukk it if you don't. That's where black men have to get.

We have this nasty habit of anytime we try to build anything, we have to check every step of the way with women. "Is this ok?" "What would my mom and sister think?" Then outsiders start stoking the flames and we become mired in an endless cycle of debate and hand wringing. Sometimes you gotta take risks and just do it like Nike. But also we have to teach men not to put themselves in position to be sabotaged. Stop playing house or trying to be in a relationship until you've made gains in your life. Someone can only sabotage you if you depend on them...

A movie quote comes to mind "if you build it, they will come"...

On a roll today.

 

[Matt504]

I was looking at the thread about boys turning into girls and the only ones arguing with op were Men.

You soft ass nikkas are the reason black patriarchy doesn't work. You latte sipping, spineless, mama's boys are the type of men who could, in theory, lead a family, but you've been conditioned to think its ok to defer to women. Ignore what women say, watch what they do. The fact of the matter is women don't want men who're comfortable letting her shoulder the burden if decision making while you debate Dragonball and Pokemon. You're not progressive because you rally under female leadership, you're a bytch.

And the numbers prove it. That's why the out of wedlock #s are so high. These women have resorted to just settling for sex with men who turn them on primally, even if that means they have to go it alone.

Look at the reactions to trump, I barely saw any women posting, it was nikkas running around like the sky was falling. A real patriach would be confident that he can steer his family in the right direction regardless of the circumstances.

Put down the Xbox controller and pick up some weights. Take some extra shifts at your job and stop blowing money on designer clothes and shoes. Take a class or two to up your earning potential. Be a damn man. Stop waiting and wishing for female approval before you do anything. Be able to put your foot down and live with the consequences, right or wrong, good or bad. Stop blaming women for being women.

A lot of dudes seem to want a psuedo patriarchy where the woman contributes half, watches the kids, and run the day to day while deferring to you for major decisions. Life doesn't work like that. In that situation you're expendable. She has a social safety net to shield her.

Get your credit up yourself. Buy that starter house. Take pride in your appearance without going full metrosexual. Invite a woman into your world, stop this silly notion that we're going to build together.

Don't hate the guy smashing and dashing. Figure out why he's so attractive (hint: he doesn't supplicate), and get that mindset. Its not easy, its not an attitude you can flip on to get her then comfortably slide back under her. You cant just throw money at her. You have to maintain that attraction til the day you die, all the while handling your business

How you know all this and still got cucked and needed another nikka to rely on to come smoke marijuanas with you to get thru the pain?

 

[HellRell804]

How you know all this and still got cucked and needed another nikka to rely on to come smoke marijuanas with you to get thru the pain?

Life is a journey, not a destination...

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

OP you have good intentions but in reality, leadership is only as good as those you have stewardship over. I think for many black males, there is no simple solution or answer, however, your suggestions are a step in the right direction. I would include reading as one of the things to encourage them to do. Understand that not every man has to be hardened to be considered a man. Measure a man by his words and actions and not just his might.

+10 rep for you when im up.

 

[Matt504]

Life is a journey, not a destination...

 

[HellRell804]

Yep I learned that lesson at 19. Very valuable. I probably sounded like you before that. And tell your supervisor/ commanding officer I said hi

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

I was with you till you said put down the controller

 

[Skrilla]

Reading some of the responses....

So we need black womens "permission" to build?

Whether you like black women, or pawgs, or "paags", etc you still should be trying to build.

Black men need to build regardless of the kind of women we date

I don't see how you can blame not building on black women. That needs to be done anyway...no matter what race of women you like...

But when I talk about building, economics, etc on here, most nikkas get mad, so I'm not surprised that nikkas are getting mad at OP