Fellas, I need your perspective…

[Studious one]

Your sister did the right thing breaking up with her boyfriend thus making that man's life easier.

I think both of their lives will be easier now.

 

[moorfeus]

It wasn’t at the funeral. The funeral was yesterday, the incident happened one Thursday. I just found out about it this morning but I will tell her. She needs to apologize to him for that but I’m not telling her to be with him or not. I think the situation ran his course, and she said she’s done

She should apologize for not controlling her anger enough to at least give dude a few miserable days to bury his sibling before going off.
If that dude still wants to be with her though, he is insane.

Matter of fact if he still wants to be with her after the inconsideration and inhumane display of emotions she blasted him with, she should question his since of dignity and self-respect. You have to draw the line somewhere. When people show that they don't really respect you as a human, you are supposed to believe them.
In what world are men not allowed to mourn and grieve in peace?

 

[Who Not How]

Yeah, they did. He was very insecure and controlling of her as well. Really, I’m surprised she acted this way because he always acts that way.

I'm not surprised she acted that way. Whether women realize it or not, they take on characteristics from their man. If a man is lazy and undisciplined, she will be lazy and lack discipline too if she isn't like that already. Now the next man will have to sort that shyt out.

 

[Studious one]

She should apologize for not controlling her anger enough to at least give dude a few miserable days to bury his sibling before going off.
If that dude still wants to be with her though, he is insane.

Matter of fact if he still wants to be with her after the inconsideration and inhumane display of emotions she blasted him with, she should question his since of dignity and self-respect. You have to draw the line somewhere. When people show that they don't really respect you as a human, you are supposed to believe them.
In what world are men not allowed to mourn and grieve in peace?

She ended it with him. She doesn’t want to be with him so, there is no factor in him wanting to be with her in this she said she’s done.

 

[moorfeus]

Yeah, they did. He was very insecure and controlling of her as well. Really, I’m surprised she acted this way because he always acts that way.
Eta: she said two weeks ago he brought up her talking to her sons father on the phone and her handyman that fixes stuff in her house and told her that he didn’t trust her. She said when he told her that, she automatically thought you better not trust him more,so it’s best for them to stay away from each other.

Okay got it. Neither of them really respected each other.
Sounds like both of them need to self-reflect before jumping into another crazy relationship.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Great job, sorry about that, she woke me up from sleeping with this shyt. Dana paid for Joe’s flight, rental car, and Joe claims that he’s going to be at his other sister’s house. So my question was if it was the reverse, Would men have a problem with that. Meaning if Joe did pay for Dana’s flight and such. They only have one child together. She has two others that he raised. Yes, Lisa thinks that he did something because the situation is too fishy and it was already intense situation. I feel that neither of us can say, but his behavior is concerning.

If the roles were reversed, Coli brehs would say the ex husband was smashing.

But I think she overreacted. He has kids with the ex wife. There are going to be times they are together.

 

[Studious one]

I'm not surprised she acted that way. Whether women realize it or not, they take on characteristics from their man. If a man is lazy and undisciplined, she will be lazy and lack discipline too if she isn't like that already. Now the next man will have to sort that shyt out.

Wow, that’s an interesting point. I think that shyt is true! You just hit me with that one! Throughout the whole relationship, he does shyt like that to her, and she did that shyt back to him now. Very interesting.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

He didn't set the tone with this woman from Day 1. I could tell from OP that the relationship lacked trust and a lot of insecurity was present. I couldn't imagine a GF acting this way while I'm at my sister's funeral and mourning with fam. The nerve lol. OP did say that he acts insecure and jealous too. If we taking what OP is saying as truth - they had a Maury show relationship.

What tone needed to be set?

His sister passed away.. nothing prepares you for that unless you know the time is coming… nothing.

It definitely lacked trust on her end… then lets sprinkle some insecurity and listening to even more insecure females advice…

They’re both insecure too… ok. Lets think logically.. why would this dude go through the trouble of lying just to go fukk his ex wife or even someone else.

Does he not have a FB or something.. a quick flash to his or his family’s page would have at least shown SOMETHING if it wasn’t true.


Honestly like I said, it was for the best. I wish a chick would try to cuss me tf out while I’m grieving.. showed me everything I would’ve needed to know and I would’ve hung up on her mid sentence. Foh

 

[Studious one]

Okay got it. Neither of them really respected each other.
Sounds like both of them need to self-reflect before jumping into another crazy relationship.

That’s the sad part right? Because other people have to end up dealing with that shyt

 

[Studious one]

If the roles were reversed, Coli brehs would say the ex husband was smashing.

But I think she overreacted. He has kids with the ex wife. There are going to be times they are together.

Thank you for your fair assessment

 

[Studious one]

I’m tempted to go register on LSA and see what the women have to say over there

 

[Who Not How]

What tone needed to be set?

His sister passed away.. nothing prepares you for that unless you know the time is coming… nothing.

It definitely lacked trust on her end… then lets sprinkle some insecurity and listening to even more insecure females advice… during a time of mourning.

They’re both insecure too… ok. Lets think logically.. why would this dude go through the trouble of lying just to go fukk his ex wife or even someone else.

Does he not have a FB or something.. a quick flash to his or his family’s page would have at least shown SOMETHING if it wasn’t true.


Honestly like I said, it was for the best. I wish a chick would try to cuss me tf out while I’m grieving.. showed me everything I would’ve needed to know and I would’ve hung up on her mid sentence. Foh

The tone of trust. The tone of honesty. The tone that I am a man, you are my woman - not my mother, not my parole officer, not my leader. I trust my women to stay loyal and keep it real because I do the same for them from Day 1 when we first meet. OP already said he was insecure and jealous when a man even looked at her. That's the tone he set and she followed his lead.

 

[moorfeus]

That’s the sad part right? Because other people have to end up dealing with that shyt

There are always warning signs though. We always draw people into our lives that match our mindstate on some level. People don't just up and turn crazy on you. Naw. In reality people ignore the warning signs OR they never were trying to get to know the person, they just wanted to sleep with them or use them for money.
They will keep attracting messy relationships until they clean up the mess in their own minds and start respecting themselves. If they do that they will start expecting more from the people they deal with.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

The tone of trust. The tone of honesty. The tone that I am a man, you are my woman - not my mother, not my parole officer, not my leader. I trust my women to stay loyal and keep it real because I do the same for them from Day 1 when we first meet. OP already said he was insecure and jealous when a man even looked at her. That's the tone he set and she followed his lead.

Bruh all this could still be set but if she’s moving out of insecurity of some past shyt, then it’s not going to matter.

People got to stop blaming just men and be honest about shyt like this because she has some personal shyt she needs to work on.

I’m not going to blame a dude who’s sister just passed away.

And honestly, I don’t trust shyt her sister says. If you cuss anyone out during a time of grieving then you have a very limited amount of empathy/soul for people and probably would lie, cheat, and steal to get to your goal.

shyt seemed like she was mad that his attention was not on her at all times.

 

[Shadow King]

What tone needed to be set?

His sister passed away.. nothing prepares you for that unless you know the time is coming… nothing.

It definitely lacked trust on her end… then lets sprinkle some insecurity and listening to even more insecure females advice…

They’re both insecure too… ok. Lets think logically.. why would this dude go through the trouble of lying just to go fukk his ex wife or even someone else.

Does he not have a FB or something.. a quick flash to his or his family’s page would have at least shown SOMETHING if it wasn’t true.


Honestly like I said, it was for the best. I wish a chick would try to cuss me tf out while I’m grieving.. showed me everything I would’ve needed to know and I would’ve hung up on her mid sentence. Foh

Would you let your ex-wife pay for everything over 5 days?