Fellas, I need your perspective…

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Thats your view on it and you’re allowed to have one

That woman has his kids who’s aunt just passed away. To me, a couple hundred bucks for a ticket (that I’m sure was bought in bulk) is not a big deal.



And again, we trust this chick logically enough to believe everything she saying about the pay situation is true I guess

If the tickets were bought in bulk that’s different because it wasn’t a targeted or intimate for one individual in particular.
But singling out a grown up with financial means of their own and paying for their accommodations personally when they are in a relationship with someone else…different dynamic and inappropriate to me.
But do you. People do all kinds of stuff in their unions. Obviously this didn’t work out and made the partner uncomfortable. But others might be fine with it. Good on them b/c I wouldn’t be and most in my family/circle wouldn’t be either.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Damn sis you said you came in here for a male perspective



You got dudes in here saying they’ve been in similar situations and you disregarding what the men here are taking the time to tell you on some sisterhood shyt.

Another female came in here confirming the bias you already had and you jumped on it real quick

shytting on dude and his ex for what? Your sister was in the wrong here. There’s no proof he did anything just ‘how it looks’.

You know damn well if you died and dude cussed your sister out and broke up with her while she was grieving with her child and the family you’d say he was some kind of evil abuser. fukk whatever reason he had

You really coulda made this thread on lsa

It’s like what was the point of bringing this in here then

Females saying female shyt, simps agreeing with the selfish and emotional actions of that woman, and men actually giving logical responses



I was done when I read she cussed dude out

 

[O.T.I.S.]

If the tickets were bought in bulk that’s different because it wasn’t a targeted or intimate for one individual in particular.
But singling out a grown up with financial means of their own and paying for their accommodations personally when they are in a relationship with someone else…different dynamic and inappropriate to me.
But do you. People do all kinds of stuff in their unions. Obviously this didn’t work out and made the partner uncomfortable. But others might be fine with it. Good on them b/c I wouldn’t be and most in my family/circle wouldn’t be either.

5 people who are a part of a family, from the same place are flying to the same location in the same timeframe for the same reason


Nahhh… let me buy my own ticket separately from my family for the fragility of my gf’s ego

 

[Don Snow]

Break up with your boyfriend while he’s grieving over his sister brehrettes

Your sister is an insecure piece of shyt honestly

 

[DreadBrown]

It’s like what was the point of bringing this in here then

Females saying female shyt, simps agreeing with the selfish and emotional actions of that woman, and men actually giving logical responses



I was done when I read she cussed dude out

My bro the shyt is real disingenuous

I was going to share more because I have infact been in the reverse of the situation, but I’m glad I stuck to my policy of not telling these people too much

 

[O.T.I.S.]

My bro the shyt is real disingenuous

I was going to share more because I have infact been in the reverse of the situation, but I’m glad I stuck to my policy of not telling these people too much

Thats why I said, she did homie a favor.

There is no logic when dealing with these kind of people. They’re going to do what they want to.

She picked the worst timing too.. which is probably the best timing for him. He knows what kind of person he was dealing with and the people she surrounds herself with.

He will be grateful later on

 

[Studious one]

I don’t know what he sounds like. I only know the details the OP presented.
Based on those he is either reeeeeally stupid and unaware (which makes him a liability to deal with) or he playing dumb and plotting.

Either isn’t somebody you necessarily would want to be in a relationship with depending on where u are in your life.
Similarly, If a chick would be dumb enough to accept hotel accommodations, air travel and other inappropriate gestures from her ex-husband while she in a relationship, i wouldn’t recommend any man laying up under somebody like that. With all the shyt I’ve seen pop off at weddings and funerals, people need to make sure they not tethering themselves to social liabilities who can’t read the room about what’s not appropriate.

I don’t know what he sounds like. I only know the details the OP presented.
Based on those he is either reeeeeally stupid and unaware (which makes him a liability to deal with) or he playing dumb and plotting.

Either isn’t somebody you necessarily would want to be in a relationship with depending on where u are in your life.
Similarly, If a chick would be dumb enough to accept hotel accommodations, air travel and other inappropriate gestures from her ex-husband while she in a relationship, i wouldn’t recommend any man laying up under somebody like that. With all the shyt I’ve seen pop off at weddings and funerals, people need to make sure they not tethering themselves to social liabilities who can’t read the room about what’s not appropriate.

Thank you for this because the reply above yours I’m not even going to bother to address. It was a goofy move on the goofy part and with all the insecure shyt he does, it makes it worse. She can’t even talk about her son’s father in any way, but there’s no problem with him going down to another state with his ex-wife? For damn near a week? I don’t care what the circumstances are, I myself wouldn’t put nothing past no one. There is not that much trust in the world for me not to be realistic of a possibility of something happening. I think she saw the red flags and jumped on it. That’s all. The guy handled the whole situation, poorly, AS WELL as her(for the people in the back that can’t hear)

 

[Studious one]

Damn sis you said you came in here for a male perspective



You got dudes in here saying they’ve been in similar situations and you disregarding what the men here are taking the time to tell you on some sisterhood shyt.

Another female came in here confirming the bias you already had and you jumped on it real quick

shytting on dude and his ex for what? Your sister was in the wrong here. There’s no proof he did anything just ‘how it looks’.

You know damn well if you died and dude cussed your sister out and broke up with her while she was grieving with her child and the family you’d say he was some kind of evil abuser. fukk whatever reason he had

You really coulda made this thread on lsa

No, a lot of the responses were on some brotherhood shyt( a few posters w elude to that in their replies). As you can see, I’ve been responding to people’s post, but I’m able to look at ALL perspectives. But some on here aren’t even acknowledging the wrong in his actions, as well as hers.it’s just her. My point is, the whole thing could’ve been prevented based off of HIS actions.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Came on here looking for mens advice… got it. Took the females advice instead but calling someone goofy

 

[Turbulent]

To be perfectly FAIR....

She might have reacted "wrong", but homeboy pulled some wild shyt and he is FAR from innocent..

Women know patterns INSTINCTIVELY...

He was acting "off" which USUALLY means he isn't being 100% truthful to her about the EXACT details of the situation...

If he would have give her 30 minutes of convo, we not discussing this...

His behavior tipped her off and the alarms sounded...

Whether he was in mourning or not, that ain't got nothing to do with knocking something down cuz nikkas gonna do that regardless..

If you gonna play the game, you gotta live with whatever consequences come your way

Acting "off" can be explained by the fact his sister died. Not saying he wasn't guilty of anything for sure. We simply don't know. But at the end of the day she might have overplayed her hand.

 

[Studious one]

Acting "off" can be explained by the fact his sister died. Not saying he wasn't guilty of anything for sure. We simply don't know. But at the end of the day she might have overplayed her hand.

Now they can both leave each other alone. That’s just what I’m glad for honestly. oh, and, I like the way that the benefit of the doubt is automatically given to the man in this situation. I would bet any amount of money. If it was a man that made this thread, the woman would automatically be guilty.

 

[Turbulent]

Now they can both leave each other alone. That’s just what I’m glad for honestly. oh, and, I like the way that the benefit of the doubt is automatically given to the man in this situation. I would bet any amount of money. If it was a man that made this thread, the woman would automatically be guilty.

You mean if a woman went to the funeral of her dead relative and while she's mourning, her man cussed her out and broke up with her because she didn't stay long enough on the phone?

 

[Studious one]

You mean if a woman went to the funeral of her dead relative and while she's mourning, her man cussed her out and broke up with her because she didn't stay long enough on the phone?

So you’re just going to bypass the whole story right? I would hope that said sister wouldn’t do no dumb shyt to even place herself in such a situation to have conflict in her relationship. That’s the important part of this whole shyt. To be cognizant enough to not place yourself in situations where there will be conflict. Unnecessary conflict is stupid to me and most things could be prevented if people either a) place themself in someone else’s shoes, and b) look at how to gauge the consequences of things. In the end, no one wins or loses, because now they apart from each other, and I hope that they can, I know my sister will, both move on and heal.

 

[Turbulent]

So you’re just going to bypass the whole story right? I would hope that said sister wouldn’t do no dumb shyt to even place herself in such a situation to have conflict in her relationship. That’s the important part of this whole shyt. To be cognizant enough to not place yourself in situations where there will be conflict. Unnecessary conflict is stupid to me and most things could be prevented if people either a) place themself in someone else’s shoes, and b) look at how to gauge the consequences of things. In the end, no one wins or loses, because now they apart from each other, and I hope that they can, I know my sister will, both move on and heal.

I didn't read the whole thread.

 

[Traveler]

Now they can both leave each other alone. That’s just what I’m glad for honestly. oh, and, I like the way that the benefit of the doubt is automatically given to the man in this situation. I would bet any amount of money. If it was a man that made this thread, the woman would automatically be guilty.

When my grandfather passed the last thing on my mind was p*ssy. I wanted to be with my family. The man is grieving not looking for some p*ssy. But your dumb ass insecure sister is more worried about him cheating rather than mourning. Talk about some fukked up priorities.

Only thing your sister accomplished was doing him a favor. Oh and pretty much guarenteeing he will fukk the ex out of spite.